Well there is this guy i work with, who after hanging out in a group out of work hours i have started to find very attractive. He isnt that physically attractive, i just feel myself drawn to him. HOWEVER this guy likes another girl who works for a company related to ours... yet he says im gorgeous and an absolute legend... im not sure if perhaps he likes us both? He has known the other girl alot longer, but she only wants 'fun' and nothing more... what should i do? Suggestions are more then welcome.
2006-08-20 20:45:52 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
we kissed one night and he said it was 'unreal'... and ive told him i have a crush on him... i think he pretty much wants to be mates but have sex lol typical guy...
2006-08-20 20:58:51 · update #1
Just be cool and don't invest too much in this guy liking you.Knowing males,he probably would'nt mind sleeping with both of you.
2006-08-20 20:49:48 · answer #1 · answered by Direktor 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he hasn't been seeing her yet, ask him if maybe he wants to hang out one night or get together and do something - maybe he thinks you aren't interested so he is holding back and may end up going for her if you aren't sending him the signals :o)
You can try to flirt with him a little more - touch him sometimes - easy does it - I mean like touch his arm when you talk for a sec or fix his collar or shirt, if your eyes connect, hold it a little longer than usual til it feels kinds weird and then stop, smile, ask what his plans are for weekend and if he says nothing, then say yea me too - i have no plans this weekend - well nothing I am interested in at least... hey do you want to do something??
be casual about it though just in case so if he says no, it isn't too obvious you meant it in any other way but just hang out outside of work - check your company policy about dating other workers too - some prohibit it (but that isn't stopping you hee hee)
go 4 it ! worst that can happen is he says no - and if it does, wasn't meant to be so no sweat - but he sounds like he is hinting around this but maybe just shy, nervous and scared YOU will reject HIM so one of you has to get the guts to move on and ask -or both of you will just wait and wait for the other person to - if he wasn't interested he wouldn't have said those things - stop torturing yourself and flirt, smile, touch, etc - make it happen if you want it with some gentle aggressiveness- not too crazy but just enough. you'll get him ~
2006-08-21 03:56:46 · answer #2 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
all u Can do in that situation is to be starlight with him and try to do anything that he may like it ( wearing something he told u that it was nice on u )
something like that !!
and the second step u have to arrange a date with him but in an indirect way !1
those 're some ideas that may help u , i hope
any way best wishes from my side !!
and remember that u r a pretty woman and theirs lot of men hope to go out with u ( u must convince him that even it's not true)
2006-08-21 03:54:14 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
u should try to get him to hang out with u, but not put all ur feelings on him at once, just say uve been sitting around with a lot of free time and u wondered if he would wanna go hang out sometime, maybe u have an extra ticket to something he likes....
2006-08-21 03:50:45 · answer #4 · answered by Phillip G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would just tell him how you feel with out getting to detailed. Otherwise you could lose your oppourtunity. Just tell him that for some reason your really attracted to him and interested in finding out why!! that's a smooth line and it leaves the floor open to HIM!
2006-08-21 03:53:11 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him have his fun and then he may come running to you later when things didnt work out. Id be patient and just be a great friend for now
2006-08-21 03:50:15 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
continue going out after work, flirt, make it known that you are interested and available. Give it a couple weeks. If after that time you havn't gotten anywhere, ask him out.
2006-08-21 03:52:16 · answer #7 · answered by when's my next vacation??? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd like to know what he means by legend.lol are you well known for doing something extraodinary or well known for mmmmm.He sounds like he really likes you as a mate/friend.
2006-08-21 03:51:41 · answer #8 · answered by lyndles 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be careful in such situation. Someone's bound to get hurt.
2006-08-21 03:50:31 · answer #9 · answered by protos2222222 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What do you want from him? Fun or something more? Better make sure that if you want more...that he's done with your friend. GL & GB
2006-08-21 03:52:05 · answer #10 · answered by Jaded 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋