so what cani do well there is a guy ive gone out with him since we were little and now he moved to texas i can say he is the first guy i loved i well miss him he did ask me out but i dont now it wont be the same with out him here with me and back then he used to cheat on me but he sad that he was going to be loual i really need help im in deep love
2006-08-20 20:29:46 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You have to be careful - love doesn't cheat ~ it's your heart and why give that to someone who is sharing theirs with other people?
You deserve more than that. And though he is your first love, we all always love our first loves - our first heart aches but normally not cause they broke our hearts by cheating. Beware - they always do it again - even if their intentions are good. They seem to just "not be able to help themselves". It has something to do with a lack in their self esteem - that in order to feel good about themselves and wanted they have to give themselves to everyone - I wouldn't want someone like that.
I know you are in the moment now so you can't see it but there is someone else for you - someone you can trust and who would be faithful like you deserve. People don't know what they had til it's gone and that is all too true but if he did it then, he will now - cause by taking him back , you are sending him a message that enables him to do that - like it's ok and it's not - it's never ok to mess with someone's heart and - life like that by cheating. I just have no respect for people that do it - there is no excuse. I never understood why they wouldn't just break up with the person they are with first - why hurt them?? To me, it says they need way too much attection, whether it is negative or positive, that they have self esteem issues, low confidence and that because of all this, no one would ever be enough - it's not about you at all. I would not get back with him at all unless he were to go to counseling for this problem that he has - perhaps a sexual addiction.
But if someone wants other people too, they should never committ - it's like people forget that you can just date while seeing other people AS LONG AS THE parties involve are aware of that.
Essentially, when he did this to you, more than once I think for some reason, he took your life into his hands and that is screwed up. This population among all of them has an extremely high risk of HIV & other STDs that can kill you - kill you, end your life - but he just did it anyway?? That isn't cool and this is what I think that problem is~~~>
you love the "idea of him" - not so much him cause if you step back and look at this, why would you love someone who hurt you, and took a risk of killing you if he was unprotected. And - even with protection, there is a very high risk. I wouldn't want him anymore - he lost his chance -move on.
You deserve to be happy not lied to and betrayed. This kind of person can destroy trust that you have for everyone - make you doubt everything he says and does - why live like that - it's not him you love anymore....it's the idea of him - the way you imagine it to be but not the way it is.. don't settle for that.
2006-08-20 20:45:03 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
look if he cheats once he will do it again and again so dont bother just let him go it will be hard but seriously its better not to have him then to be with him and have him cheat on you and seriously u will always have that thought in the back of ur mind is he cheatin etc jus let him go it will hurt bt get betta in time good luck to u
2006-08-20 20:35:32 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Home is where your heart is - follow him.
If you don't want to do so - cry for two weeks and find somebody who can untested you - get new friends.
2006-08-20 20:38:19 · answer #3 · answered by Toto 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your crazy if you think he is going to be loyal to you. what makes you think that he wont cheat on you when he is so far away, if he was cheating on you when he was with you
2006-08-20 20:35:40 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait til time heals those wonds, cause he obviously doesn't care about u as much as u care about him.
2006-08-20 20:34:37 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
follow your heart
2006-08-20 20:33:23 · answer #6 · answered by lesuiremike 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go here
http://www.cyberparent.com/relate.htm
maybe this will help you find a non-cheater!
2006-08-20 20:34:58 · answer #7 · answered by jimrich 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
find another guy
2006-08-20 20:34:20 · answer #8 · answered by ♫Pavic♫ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move back kid.
2006-08-20 20:39:20 · answer #9 · answered by kitty_kats06 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont know but thanks 4 the 2 points
2006-08-20 20:36:47 · answer #10 · answered by livelydezi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋