please help me i am really depressed?

Question

Hey i have one best friend and we are really close.As close as sisters.We used to share every secret and everything.I always felt possessive also when somebody else becomes her best friend.Once a friend of mine mocked at us saying that ppl will take us for lesbs and it deeplu hurt me that i used to stop talking to my best friend for a long while.She noticed this and talked to me and everything was okay.But i am still afraid.Is anything wrong with me?I am soooo afraid that sometimes i cry a lot,dont talk to her and sometimes worry .Can you help me.Havent you had friends who were like sisters to you.Havent you been possessive.Please answer this and no harsh jokes as i am already depressed.

Answer 1

I believe you are of a mature age. You did a good move coming here for help rather than doing something out of yourself.

You do have to remember that other people may perceive things the way you don't. Also, you may perceive things the way they don't. I no it's no point telling you to ignore them, because naturally we can't. You can try deflecting those inner thoughts to something that brightens up your day, like say, "I know I'm not a lesbian, but when people say we look like lesbians, that means we are really close."

Good move in trying to talk to your best friend about it. She too is involved, and if she can take it, then try telling her how you feel and ask her for support and encouragement. You girls are best friends right? If she too is hurt deeply, then you both can support each other nad laugh at the whole situation. Keep in mind that such jokes and insults don't last long, and are meant for you to put on a show. DON'T and it will stop.

Another good move would be to talk to someone who is close and supportive of you both, like a parent, counsellor, or teacher. With 3 people in mutual support, you will feel that you can stand against the world for that.

Hope that helped, and remember: Help is never far away. Seek it, and if people offer it, accept it gladly...becuase keeping your friend is much more important than listening to baseless accusations and reacting wrongly.

Hope that helped, take care...

Answer 2

Everyone needs space sometimes. I'm not sure if I understand your question all the way. But you shouldn't turn your back on your friend just because of what you think others will think. They will think what they want no matter what. I too only have 1 close friend, like a sister, and I would never betray her or ignore because of what someone else thinks. I think you sound a little stressed out about the whole deal. Take some time and reflect on things. Good luck, life can be very discouraging and scary at times but hang in there because it has its moments of greatness too.

Answer 3

You clearly have an extremly low self esteem. You are possessive of her because you don't think you are good enough for her and that if somebody else becomes her friend she will not want to be yours anymore. You also care about what other people think of you so much that you dropped your best friend like a bad habit so you wouldn't be percieved as something you are not. Your depression when will go away when you develop some self worth. Try talking to your fried to help find some qualities that make you a good person/friend.

Answer 4

The society does not always accept or appreciate ur actions. Right? So to me trying to change the society or to find sollution to this particualr problem may not help u in the long run.
What I feel u realyl need is to start respecting urself and be at peace with u. Had I known more about u I could have been more specific abt how u acn do that.
If u need , u can talk to me and I will be happy to help u.

Answer 5

Ag nee man (No man), how can you do that, if she is your friend, no matter what other people say, you should stick with her, Especially if you to are so close. Don't let anyone come between you, and you are not supposed to be depressed with your friend, you should be happy, there are many people out there, wishing to have a best friend like you.

Answer 6

you have alot friends in your life but there only 1 or 2 true ones in that time you have to get back up an stand up for you not her i met my wife an a friend did not like her we ben togther for 16years an he said it will not work we will not get along an i kenw him sent i was 11yo now im 53yo i met my wife when i was 38yo have not talk to him sent then me an my wife are toghter for life not me an him thank for letting tell you my story life is hard get on with your life an kife will hit back down as soon as it can agin an agin all you can do is get back up an stant up to it tell it not going to hurt me it is so hard to do that but you have too,,,,,,,if you someone to talk too e-mail at ,,,,,,,,[e-mail] ,,,,,dont know if can help will try too

Answer 7

OK...1st thing to describe of u are stupid because just worry about the thing that you cannot control..OK like this...if got one people tell me that I'm stupid like pig then should i angry or sad? or may be fight him or her? OK plus...if got 1 thousand peoples tell me the same thing and what should i do?...come on gal..just do what you feel to do i mean for human is hard to get a good Friend like yours..if you have it just dun let go so easily and so stupidily..understand?

Answer 8

there are many different kinds of people in this world, myself i get possisive about my lovers, but sometimes my friends also...but at the end of the day, its only emotions, over time ive come to realise this and it usually passes.

maybee over time you might wanna improve your character, or maybee we will always be like that.

ask yourself, what is the best thing i can do in this situation? to carry on brooding or to be happy no matter what people say?

Answer 9

You can talk to your parents about this matter; they will surely help you. Also, don't care about what others say; you are not wrong. Maintain the precious friendship with your good friend.

Answer 10

Listen all i can say is hang out with her! she's your best friend. if you need her as much as you say and love her who cares what other have to say. people always talk s*** its in their nature. just let them. I'd say to have someone you can call your best friend/sister is a gift not often found. Cherish it. its worth it =)