He's overseas right now. I found out before he left. He answers them (they're sexually explicit) and asks to meet them,but doesn't go through with it (he send them pictures of himself - one of them of his penis) He says that he's never cheated on me and that it's all about fulfilling his fantasies. He wasn't going to go on his trip because of me, but it was a trip of a lifetime that I didn't want him to regret not going. We talked on the phone, he says he loves so much that he's scared of losing me because of his stupidity. We have an open & honest relationship and I want to trust him, but there is constant doubt in my mind. I love him, I thought he was the one. But it just breaks my heart everytime I think about it. Because he's not here, my mind is constantly going through different scenarios of what else has happened. Its very hard that he's not here so that we could talk about it face to face.
2006-08-20 19:54:34 · 17 answers · asked by confusedlady 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sounds like you don't trust him.
Good thing you never found his PORN collection. He had one.
2006-08-20 20:02:41 · answer #1 · answered by urbancoyote 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Poor you! You are in love with someone that doesn't respect you. He doesn't love you, at least not the way you love him. It is really a lot easier to lie to someone than to tell them the truth after you have already started the lie. Your boyfriend wants to keep you around until he finds someone new and more exciting.
I hate to say this, but you need to let him go. Love yourself more than you love him, because he isn't loving you as much as you love him. You are a giver and he is a taker. You are going to get hurt more the longer you stay with him. He isn't going to change, he has no reason too. He is playing you.
My advise is to leave him ASAP and start figuring out who you are and what you want without some man around. That way when you meet the man of your dreams, you know who you really are and you have something good to offer to the relationship
2006-08-21 03:06:46 · answer #2 · answered by Honey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your boyfriend has given you some good reasons not to trust him. I can understand why you are hurt, if I were you I'd definitely keep my eyes open. If he stops answering ads, and doesn't do anything else sneaky, maybe in time you should give a little back in regards to trust, but if he keeps it up, I'd dump him. He may be endangering your health along with breaking your heart.
2006-08-21 03:01:45 · answer #3 · answered by Kerry 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's scared of losing you, he should not be doing stuff like that!! Sometimes guys like to say things that girls like to hear, rather than being honest with us. I wold talk to him, and if you're still having doubts, maybe you should give the relationship a little break. Good luck!
2006-08-21 03:02:22 · answer #4 · answered by poeticjustice 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
true it is hard because he is not here but if you two are in a serious relationship this should NOT be happening at all. he is getting off with the chase and there is no telling what may happen just because he can. you are setting yourself up for a bad situation and heartache if he continues to do this and you continue to stay with him.
2006-08-21 03:00:29 · answer #5 · answered by howdy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
trip of a lifetime??? in what manner? you're not there and he can sleep with anyone he wants and not get busted? if you believe any of that crap you're not too bright, sounds like the trip is a big scam so he can sleep around on you....i wouldnt buy into that crap for 1 second....time to think about it very long and very carefully...you're gonna get burned outta this one
2006-08-21 03:22:32 · answer #6 · answered by do_sctc145 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you could talk to him about how you could fulfil his sexual fantasies rather than him going and getting it elsewhere?? Id give it another go, but are you sure he isnt going through with it? Sounds unusual to me??
2006-08-21 02:59:53 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should make some posts on the same site and see what kind of responses you get. then show him the responses you got and see how it makes him feel. It may make he realize what an idiot he was, or at the very least you will have a bunch of guys to hook up with! :-D
2006-08-21 03:08:27 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's far, far away from you.
He's probably forfilling ALL his wants and needs while he can.
He has the perfect excuse! You'll never be able to prove a thing!
Surprise him when he gets home - you have a new boyfriend!!
2006-08-21 03:08:11 · answer #9 · answered by Quinn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U no exactly what to do. U just don't wanna do it. Grow up and deal with reality.
(sorry to sound harsh, but u really need to snap out of it)
2006-08-21 03:07:29 · answer #10 · answered by sexy.cece 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh!! So HE's the guy who's sending them. Well, tell him I really like the pictures of himself topless and the one in the blue brassiere is lovely, but I don't really appreciate pictures of the penis, thanks very much.
Why don't you join in the fun and respond to some internet ads too?
2006-08-21 02:59:53 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋