2006-08-20 19:32:23 · 17 answers · asked by Fazurul N 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Laziness and dislike to read/write can be a psycological problem. They may be early signs of depression and/or anxiety.
Please take him to a psychiatrist. There is absolutely nothing wrong in it. He will analyze and if needed, he will give medication.
Also interact with him closely. Assure him that everything is okay. Tell him that he is great and goodlooking. Sometimes, inferiority complex may also lead to laziness. Make him believe that his looks, actions etc. are good.
2006-08-20 19:41:18 · answer #1 · answered by iqqy_aiwa 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Boy, if you can find a way you will make millions! There are two books I highly recommend the first is "The Myth of Laziness" by Mel Levine. It is a great book that gives real life answers for dealing with lazy behaviors. The other is "Bringing up Boys" by Doctor Dobson it is very comforting in that Doctor Dobson understands boys who don't want to function, he also has several perspectives on getting the best out of your son.
A family friend has had miraculous results with their D average son by mandating that all video game/ computer time is earned by study/reading time. One hour of studying and reading gets him one hour of computer/video game time.
I would highly recommend having his school counselors evaluate him for learning disabilities. It could be that reading and writing is tremendously more difficult for him than it is for "normal" people and if that is the case they can develop strategies that make it easier for him. It is really remarkable what teaching a kid to type can do for their writing skills.
My mother assures me that most boys grow out of this sometime in their late teens and early twenties. My husband did. He was a real avoid the work at any cost type student in high school and through the age of 20 or 21. Now he is a Physician Assistant and is making $100,000 a year.
2006-08-21 02:51:02 · answer #2 · answered by psycho-cook 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Step 1: Punish him for bad grades. Whether you spank him or take away his video games, make the punishments worse if the grades continue to fall.
Step 2: Find something to read that's interesting to him. Harry Potter? Books about sports? Everyone has SOMETHING they like to read about, find what his is, and buy him books on that topic. Reading these things will make it easier for him to deal with reading assignments.
Step 3: Continue Punishment. I know it sucks to have to punish your own kids, you don't like to see them hurt and disappointed. But I was spanked as a girl, and believe me that was more than enough motivation to get A's and B's. If spanking's not your thing, follow through on whatever you choose. Make sure the punishment fits the age and child. If he's 16, take the door off of his room. Tell him he can have a door back when his grades get better. If they still don't improve, remove all luxery items from his room (TV, games, magazines, music) and put a parental lock on the TV's. If he has nothing to do in his room, and he needs your permission to watch anything but the History channel, then he'll be motivated.
2006-08-21 05:00:06 · answer #3 · answered by Tyla 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He may be sick and tired of being with you (or a nanny) all the time.Maybe he needs some time to be alone and does not need you to watch over his shoulder until he writes the last letter or mark.Tell him you understand it's a hard work and he does not have to do it all at one time.Show him how to get a rest.Then leave him to handle with it alone in his room and don't check his homeworks(or if you insist on checking it,don't make a lot of reproofs.My daughter was the same case but when I left her do what she needs to do for her homework and stoped check it,she began the best student in her class.Think about it.
2006-08-21 10:28:23 · answer #4 · answered by Jim R 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ADD, ADHD, Depression, Peer Pressure, ETC can all lead to this.
Make an appointment with your Local Mental Health Clinic for an evaluation.
Contact your Local Juvenile Services AND Child & Family Services for programs that can HELP your son.
2006-08-21 02:45:18 · answer #5 · answered by jennifersuem 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I recommend working with your son. Talk to him. Don't tell him it has to be done, but ask him to show you what is expected and then talk with him about it. I find that I get the best results from my son if I show a real interest in his activities instead of just preaching.
2006-08-21 09:07:10 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take action...If you show an interest in learning, reading and writing perhaps he will find an interest in it also...Lead by example!
2006-08-23 16:38:20 · answer #7 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
take a belt and whip his little a**. then explain to him that if he does not learn to read and write. you will have to support him all of his life. just kidding. my eldest daughter is 15 and recently with me graduating she has been motivated to start learning more. if you have no college degree then yourself may enroll in a local community college and set the example. that is one thing that kids are missing now a days is the parents being a role model.
2006-08-21 02:40:39 · answer #8 · answered by jeff s 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Ask him if he wants to flip burgers.That is what he'll end up doing for the rest of his life without an education..
2006-08-25 02:42:19 · answer #9 · answered by Nancy S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just think of really creative way to get him into doing stuff. Use the outdoors, anything that you can think of that would be good.
2006-08-21 02:40:20 · answer #10 · answered by starlight 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋