Me and this girl have been best friends for ages. We have traveled the world to see eachother and always have a great time together. We go to the movies. We do everything together. Her Parents love me. I have made every effort known to hummanity. If we were older I would ask her to marry me!! Let me add that we r both 18. I want to be able to support her before I decide to marry her She has had several crushes and the occasional bf but none last. I love her more than anything in the world but she doesn't seem to notice. She says she loves me as a brother but I cant live with that. When I'm with her there is nothing more wonderful. I rather endure anythng then have her suffer 4 1 sc. Im tired of being the friend. I make her laugh, smile, cry etc... but she never lets me in her heart. This girl is the joy of my life but to her i am only a "friend". I've tried telling her but to no avail. Am i selfish to want more? What can i do? Am i being used? Any advice would help. Thx:)
2006-08-20 18:44:19 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
ok,i can feel how u feel! but boy i think u r making it complicated a little bit no?
it's not that hard! since u know the girl well then do her something special as soon as u can. like go somewhere together. lunch,dinner... and make it a little different,make it more romantic. be emotional this time and tell her seriously how much she means to u!!
girls like to hear that. i mean use certain words. like girl the whole world means nothing without u! or something like that u know. and don't hesitate to ask her where ur relation is going.ask her that.it's ur right to know.
or,if u have a good relation with her mom,talk to her mom about it u know,her mom can talk to her directly...she can tell u the results directly if u were afraid to talk to her directly!
good luck..
2006-08-20 18:50:23 · answer #1 · answered by Musty 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she's just using u dude, i'm afraid to say.......u're basically a doormat for her to throw all her emotional baggage onto u. She's taking advantage of the fact that u have feelings for her to string u along because she likes the attention - it's a selfish thing to do.
U need to tell her straight, if u don't mind being a friend by all means continue but if not u should break things off and invest ur time into something which is more meaningful and will yield more positive results.
2006-08-20 18:52:49 · answer #2 · answered by hegimony1 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why not take a break from her. Perhaps your absence may help her realize that she cares for you more than a brother. Another alternative is to concentrate on exactly how you plan to support her. That may help ease your so strong thought of how you feel about her.
You DO realize that lovers start out as the best of friends. Maybe you simply need to be extremely patient. You're both too young to be making any life committmants right now.
2006-08-20 18:55:50 · answer #3 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel for you. You are "the friend". There may be nothing more painful than unrequited love. However, you are not being used. You are there voluntarily. Until you decide that you want something else, you will continue to suffer.
2006-08-20 18:51:11 · answer #4 · answered by Bethany 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you should be straight up with her let her know how u feel maybe since youve been friends for so long when u bring it up she thinks your playing around.tell her exactly what u just told us it sounds pretty nice to me.you dont have to ask her to marry you you can be together until both of you get your lifes together in a few years if your that good of friends you can do it trust in yourself and your feelings
2006-08-20 18:57:11 · answer #5 · answered by nvvlewis 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know this is hard for you but I think you should try to move on. seriously, I mean you're just torchering yourself for this girl who A.) might like you but is just on the fence about it or B.) Really doesn't like you like that.
In any case the best thing to do in this situation is just to start dating other girls. Because litterally all your doing is torchering yourself and if you start dating other people who knows you might even find someone who could actually be perfect for you and who actually likes you and isn't afraid to show it.
2006-08-20 18:59:18 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
honey why would you keep putting yourself through this if you have been told by her more than once that she loves you like a brother then that means that she isnt going to love you anymore than that i know that sucks but your going to have to move on because shes going to end up not being your friend anymore if you keep pushing the issue
2006-08-20 18:51:04 · answer #7 · answered by April 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel your pain, but theres not much i can say. try setting up a romantic picnic in the park with candles and spaghetti it will be so fancy no one can help but laugh at it and girls love laughing and love guys who make them laugh
2006-08-20 18:51:06 · answer #8 · answered by carivala 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She does not want you, leave her be...........
2006-08-20 18:59:29 · answer #9 · answered by ABBYsMom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go.with.the.flow.if.it's.meant.to.be.it.will.be...don't.be.to.pushy...people.who.start.out.as.friends.become.better.lovers.for.one.another
2006-08-20 18:50:44 · answer #10 · answered by goofy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋