The company i work for is having a "presentation"...it's a boring, nothing to do with me, social event, and i don't want to go. When they asked me if i would i said no, when asked why i jokingly said that my boyfriend doesn't let me. Then my boss asked me to make room for it in my agenda, and to tell my boyfriend it's a work thing, that it's not that "i have to" but he made it seem as if i had no choice. I said i would see what i can do...but i don't want to go, i have my reasons... and on my free time i like to do my own things. How can i explain this without seeming rude, or lying ? (cause they'll know i'm lying anyway, i always get out of doing anything "extra work" with them), and i feel pressure to go to all the social things they do. Is there any way to make them understand i don't like to do that kind of stuff, and that i won't do it! without them hating me or firing me?
2006-08-20 18:28:00 · 16 answers · asked by jade 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
next time tell them that you have a prayer meeting to attend to. at least requiring you to work on your time to attend a prayer service would sound more a violation of your right to worship. this is more of a civil liberties issue than going out with your boyfriend. the company you work for should be aware of any discrimination lawsuit you might bring against them because of religion. try this one it might work.
2006-08-20 18:37:15 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
There are 168 hours in a week. If you work 40 hours a week, you are left with 128 hours. Schedule in getting ready, drive time, etc to and from your job, (say, 2 hours total every work day)=10 hours, that drops it down to 118 hours left. If you sleep 8 hours a night weekly, the remaining time comes to 72 hours that you are left to do your grocery/other shopping, run errands, do housework, exercise, work on budget/paperwork, etc, (you can estimate the amount of hours you have left from that), then relaxation time, hobby time, visiting with family and friends. Your "off-time" is your off-time, and you should be able to spend this valuable commodity according to what best suits your needs without fear of losing your job over it. Explain (politely) that while you do appreciate the invitation, you do have other obligations/prior commitments that you must attend to when you are not at work.
2006-08-24 16:40:20 · answer #2 · answered by curious me 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Book some leave time a couple of days before. Make it known you are going out of town...... then ring up the latest time the day before and say you can't get back because
a) your car is in the garage
b) you have to babysit your sisters/brothers kids
c) you are not well enough to drive back
Well thats what I would do or you could say yes you will be there and just not turn up and when asked say you have a phobia of large crowds.
2006-08-20 18:36:05 · answer #3 · answered by lollipoppett2005 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would ask your boss if these social events are part of your job. Explain that your spare time is limited. If you get the idea that these "social" (ha ha) events are part of your job, you may want to get a different job. I don't like to feel pressured either.
In my opinion "make room for it in your agenda," seems to be a "I WANT you there."
2006-08-24 11:30:02 · answer #4 · answered by Patti C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate to say this and be the bearer of bad news, ESPECIALLY since I know how boring those things can be, but...
If your boss has specifically told you to make room in your agenda, then he expects you to be there. Period. You're hurting yourself in your workplace by trying to not attend, and you could ultimately hurt a future reference when you decide to leave.
2006-08-21 03:21:23 · answer #5 · answered by sylvia 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well explain to them that you don't like social gatherings that much and you have a busy schedule for that day in particular. Either that or just flat out say no
2006-08-20 18:35:01 · answer #6 · answered by Black Messiah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your boss politely but firmly that you have other plans for the evening. Period. Just keep saying that as many times as you have to.
2006-08-20 18:35:09 · answer #7 · answered by parachute 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would just go for a little while and excuse yourself saying something important came up with your family or something personal and leave. Or, you can just say OK, and never show up. The next day say you got lost or something came up.
2006-08-20 20:10:02 · answer #8 · answered by Mustafa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell them you are ill, have an upset stomach, or a sprain the ankle.. these really work!
And you don't have to prove that you are ill if you make these excuses;) I know. these presentations are really bugging
all the best!
2006-08-20 19:22:35 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell them you don't intend to go unless they plan on paying you to attend. Like you said, its on your freetime, and they shouldn't expect you to give up your weekends off to deal with work matters without paying you
2006-08-20 18:33:45 · answer #10 · answered by judy_r8 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋