Does attempting suicide make others see me as weak?

Question

I attempted suicide when i was 13. I still to this day have never told my friends, ( im 19 now) because i dont want them to treat me differently, or not want to be my friends. Im not a weak person anymore, in my eyes im a pretty strong woman, but when this happened, i was sick with depression. if i come out and tell my family that dont know ( my grandparents, cousins and aunts and uncles dont know) will they look at me differently, or will they be proud that i've come so far? I want to tell them, but i just dont want to be viewed as weak or a freak, or a physco....i wanted to be treated the same...

ok, the only reason i really have to tell them is because it offends me when people say that everyone who has ever tried committing suicide is crazy, which isn't true at all. im not crazy, but if i were to try to defend people who have done this, then who am to say anything unless my family knows i have room to talk?

Answer 1

The gift of seeing the dark side of life is that you get to appreciate its light better. Seeing the end of life from such close quarters gives you a unique awareness and viewpoint into life, you know just how precious life is, as you once almost threw away, the gift most precious gift of all - life.

Today, you know better, you know that, no matter how bad life might seem in the moments of inner darkness, it never really is so on the outside, it is the way we saw life them, we have options to make life change for the better.
We just don’t have the courage, self esteem or enough self love to make them happen, because if we did we would be willing to see life challenges as experiences that open new doors for us, they are infact opportunities to empower ourselves.

When we let go of our self that when suddenly life start overwhelming us as we get consumed by its darkness and don’t see the light we carried within even in our darkest moment. That is why the experience of a dark night of the soul is essential ingredient for any form of spiritual growth, you saw the dark end but still chose light and life and that makes you a winner already.

You won where millions have failed, so appreciate that fact, you are stronger than you think and know, once you know that for sure, you’d realize that you didn’t choose to stay alive so that other people would have better opinion of you, you chose to live, because you loved life even in the face of death, you loved life more in that one moment, and that is why you are alive today, so be thankful to your own courage and inner strength.

What other people think is their problem, any ways.

Your agenda should be how you can use this gift to further someone else’s life and light. Let them know that it always gets better, and it is never bad enough to give up. A gift, you once gave to yourself - Life.

Suicide is just a desperate act to get out of desperation, use this experience to help others, instead of defending others, defend their life instead, you have a gift.

Once you make peace with your past you will no longer feel its weight within and will be able to use this experience to guide others and your own life into a brighter future, if at all such an experience would have made you stronger and more mature.

Unload your wisdom, and not just your experience, it is nothing without its wisdom, its light, use your life, it is a gift.

If you feel like share it with someone close first.

Answer 2

How your family will look at you really depends on... your family. Some families I know would not be very receptive to the news. Some would be supportive. Tell those you trust most. There's no need for everyone else to know.

I have a friend who attempted suicide at 16. She's now 24, but her 'family' still considers the entire event childish and immature - 'weak' never crossed their minds, as they're certain she only did it to irritate them.

My family, on the other hand, understands depression, and has a more supportive attitude for things like this. I don't know yours. I can't begin to say how they'd react.

I wish you the best, and hope you come to the right solution.

Answer 3

Well, thats a complicated question, but I think the answer depends on who you tell. If you tell the people you love, and assure them that it was just a phase, or a lapse in judgement, then They will still love you for who you are. If you tell people you don't trust, most likely they will form an opinion about you. The important thing is to look at yourself, and decide if keeping this inside will hurt you. If it makes you nervous when you think about it, tell yu parents and loved ones, and they can share part of the load. I guarantee they won't judge you, and you will feel much better.

and if you ever feel that way again, think about how many people have life worse than you, and realize that tomorrow is another day, and that you can change anything, because you control your life.

It may take a little while to control it, but eventually you decide everything you do, because your the one who makes the switches and knobs in you head move, and you can make yourself do anything.

Answer 4

Thank god you were not successful darl. When people do try to commit suicide it is a cry for help which is how you felt when you were depressed.
Sadly, they may just see it as a weakness at that stage in your life. People who haven't experienced depression do see it as a sign of weakness.
It all depends on your family and their views. You should be proud of yourself and if you think they will understand by all means tell them how brave you were.
No-one can answer this question, your judgement will guide you.
Take care.

Answer 5

I think it would be good to tell your love ones about the situation you were in when you were young. I would not see you as weak because there is a point in everyone's life when we don't know exactly what we are doing or thinking. You are older now and you have come a long way. I would treat you the same.

Answer 6

You are not weak at all. Telling is the right thing. Getting support from your family and friends is the right thing to help you on this situation. So go ahead and tell them, also I would advice counseling and going to the doctor.

Imagine if a family member or friend is thinking of suicide, wouldn't you want to know? I think they would like to know if you are in a situation like that.

Answer 7

most people don't fess up to it, but almost everyone has tried suicide at some point in time or at least considered it. If it's important to you, then let it be known. If you're comfortable keeping it to yourself, then do so. Either way, I'm sure some of them have contemplated or tried it as well. You were never weak, btw... just fed up.
Congratulations on coming so far.

Answer 8

i admire you strength and courage to overcome your depression. I think if you tell your family and friends they may treat you a little different at first but as you explain the situation and what you have done to overcome this im sure they will think you a better person for it.

Answer 9

I don't think you should tell them. They will think you are weird or psycho. BUT you were 13 then. You are 19 now, so don't let that stuff offend you. Let it offend you if they are being straight out offensive but you know they are talking about something they know nothing about.

Answer 10

You are a brave girl.
Put the past behind you.
It is not a concern any more.
There is nothing to tell now.
It is over and done.
Be happy.
Live happily ever after!