ok my boyfriend asked me to marry him and i love him with all my heart.. he is 20 and he lost his virginity to me at 19. im the only girl he has ever been with.......he hasnt even dated anyone else. and im nervous about this wedding because i dont know if i should let him explore life more but he says he doesnt want to sleep with anyone but me. and its driving me crazy. please help.
2006-08-20 18:22:37 · 17 answers · asked by rosewalker1987 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
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2006-08-20 18:28:56 · update #1
that is so so so sweet! it sounds to me like you are very lucky!
when you find the one you love, why try to mess it up by sleeping breaking up to sleep with other people, sex should be with the one you truly love, not just somebody just to experience it.
explore life together!!! thats what marriage is.
2006-08-21 03:04:18 · answer #1 · answered by TN girl 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The both of you are still young, havent explore at all. Why dont you talk to him and tell him how you feel. Explain to him. He is not even matured yet. So are you. Getting married at a young age, might spoil you future together. He hasnt had any other experience with other girls, he might just cheat on you one day if you did get married. I am not saying he doesnt love you, u have to understand its in the nature of human to make mistake and humans are always curious. He may say he loves you now, but he doesnt even know whats the meaning of love, he has only been with one girl and he is only 20. He doesnt even know what's life in the first place, how would he understand love and marriage life. Why dont you just postpon the wedding, but still be together, explore life together, give the relationship more time. The more experience you both gain together in life, the more stronger the relationship is. This will also prove the love between the both of you. if this love can go through life challengers, i am sure it's true love and you both belong together. Only time will tell. So take time, and all the best of luck to the you and your bf.
2006-08-20 18:33:41 · answer #2 · answered by Farah_Z 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him again about it. Because ppl change all the time, I mean if you get married now he might just realize a month or 2 later that you were right and he wants to try other guys out. So tell him to wait for 2 to 3 years and let you both explore the world out there as individuals. I know you may love him to pieces and he loves you too, but at least give each other time to sow a few other wild oats and things like that. Because divorce is very costly these days and you don't want to make a mistake like that. And after the 2 or 3 years is up and he still wants to be with you then get married. But hold off on the kids, cuz you both are still too young for those right away.
2006-08-20 18:30:41 · answer #3 · answered by Bloody Kisses 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi,
Marriage is not only exploring life with someone you are going to sleep with and its not only sleeping.Its a responsibility,a responsibility should be bestowed on a responsible person.You shouldn't care of how much girls he has been with but how close he has been with you, how affectionate he is. If you get married now do u have the ability to take care of a family, does he have the responsibilty to take care of you, are you so sure he can take care of you till you die, with the same amount of love.
You are 19 and he's just 20, its the age which is making you so restless.You have lot of time. Today isn't is the day for marriage certainly. Take your time. Don't rush into it.
Sleep over the issue and decide. Even if you want to marry him, today isn't the day.
2006-08-20 20:23:59 · answer #4 · answered by shbharath 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think the anxiety that u feel is quite justified. i think u guys are really quite young. U need to concentrate on getting some sort of stability in life and by tht i mean career wise and financially. Trust me if you dont have that stability rite now then it will get reall difficult and will put u both in a very sad situation. I think he is very happy that u love him and subconsciously he feels he mite lose you and therefore he wants to rush into marriage. Talk to him and assure him tht he needs to put his life in place for both ur sake and if both of u still like each other in say abt 3-4 yrs time then take it forward. IF BOTH OF U ARE MEANT TO BE TOGHETHER THEN NOTHING IN THIS WORLD CAN CHANGE THAT!! All the best. Be happy
2006-08-20 23:56:54 · answer #5 · answered by piston 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Seek counseling. They can do a pre-marital test for both of you and see how compatible you are. You should wait until you both are, at least, in you late 20's to think about marriage. Tell him you think you are too young to get married and you want to wait until you are (pick an age). Right now he probably is being honest with you but 20 really is too young to make an important decision such as marriage.
2006-08-20 18:34:27 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
That is not a reason to not get married. It sounds as though you have other issues that you need to deal with, like the fact that you are very young! Many people save themselves for when they get married. Its not a big deal, its just what they would prefer. It really sounds as though you, yourself, are having an issue about this, not him.
2006-08-20 23:44:01 · answer #7 · answered by michiganwife 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I f you don't know if your ready your probably not, so just say you need more time and you don't now if you and he will want to explore life later!!! The sooner you get married the longer you have to wonder, what if?
2006-08-20 18:29:25 · answer #8 · answered by carivala 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
sorry i have to say the typical "if he truelly loves you he wont cheat", but its true. believe it or not, not everyman has to get around. exploring can be done within the relationship.
I'm hubbies number 2 and we're doing great (5yrs - 1yr married and a little boy) we were 21 when we married....
2006-08-20 18:30:48 · answer #9 · answered by *Kali* 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are so unsure about marring him. then you shouldn't do it. If you want to be married to only one person, then you should be sure you are marring him for the right reasons. Maybe he didn't want to date people if he knew that they weren't marriage material. I could be that he was just waiting for you! Good luck!
2006-08-20 19:22:24 · answer #10 · answered by countrychic2004 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋