Alright, as bad as this may sound, my mother is all the time telling me that a girl EXPECTS to be kissed on the first date. I think that's a bunch of crap from back in the time when she dated. My rule is that unless I think that they had an absolutely wonderful time with me, and I feel like they definitely have an interest in me.... then so long as I'm interested in them, go for it. However, she says that no matter how the date goes, she's going to judge that first date on whether or not you kiss her... so I guess really, I wanted an honest opinion from the 18-25ish ladies as to how it really is. Should I just go for it if I enjoyed going out with the girl, or am I right to put more thought into how she might feel about me?
2006-08-20 18:16:27 · 21 answers · asked by Matt B 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you know what u are really one of a kind. yes you should consider how she feels. and dont kiss anyone because they might expect it. thats a lame excuse for doing something you might not want to do. and also you might want to find out if the girl does want a kiss. (she might not). anyway if you honestly believe what you are saying you do. stick to it hun.......im eighteen and i havent heard a guy that sincere in a long time. good luck hun.
2006-08-20 18:26:32 · answer #1 · answered by rosewalker1987 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My advice is yeah it really depends on how the date goes if u see that she touches like ur arm alot and laugh's at stupid things and look at you right in the eye when u talk and u feel good about it for sure go for the kiss the worse thing that could happen is she pulls away but thats not always a bad thing maybe she is not ready but if she showes the signs i just sais yeah she is looking for this kiss at the end of the night the reason why the kiss is the most importion is thats the last thing that happends so that is always in the head the better is it the more the impression is good but do whatever u feel comfortable with
2006-08-21 01:23:51 · answer #2 · answered by typhaniee0027 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you did right. Becuz time has change since your mom's style was in style. I see it like movies project you moms way and girls pretty much watch those movies where the guy kisses the girl on the door step. But how about changing it up save the kiss for later give her something to think about (why didn't he kiss me) We expect to be kissed on the first date becuz that is how America set the world up. So do the unexpected.
Anyway this day and age if the girl wanted a kiss she would have gave you one!! LOL
~cubby12
2006-08-21 01:27:19 · answer #3 · answered by cubby12 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just do what feels right. You may turn out to be just good friends or have another date. I was real shy when I meet my hubby. we were friends for a couple of years then became boyfriend girlfriend. Then we married at age 19. Ya we were young, but we still love each other immensely after almost 12 years now. He had a lot of respect for me and would just give me a beautiful soft kiss on my hand. Later....we took it a step further with the kiss. Take it slow! Good Luck!
2006-08-21 01:31:23 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girls don't expect to be kissed on the lips on the first date
we do like it when a guy walks us up to are door says he had a really good time and he hopes to see us soon and he'll call us tomorror and maby even gives us a quick peck on the cheak
but some girls do like being kissed on the lips the first date but i think that's too soon
2006-08-21 01:24:03 · answer #5 · answered by a2still 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go with your feelings. I think a guy would kiss me if he wanted to not because it's expected of him. I don't expect a guy to kiss me on the first date or at all if he's not into me.
2006-08-21 01:21:34 · answer #6 · answered by tweetyb_76 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your not feelin' someone or your getting an akward vibe then don't make yourself and your date uncomfortable by going for a kiss. That can ruin impressions of one another and end the relationship.
2006-08-21 01:25:16 · answer #7 · answered by Your MOM 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
read her, she will tell you with body language and her eyes.... i am 25 i would say i used to kiss on the first date but now i wait. If a guy can't wait till the second date hes not worth it.
2006-08-21 01:21:39 · answer #8 · answered by Sarah 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my honest opinion is regardless of what people tell you including your mom it's up to you to decide whether or not the girl gets a kiss and if she deserves it well heck yea but those decisions might be misinterpretted by the girl due to serveral instances
2006-08-21 01:25:20 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let the mood guide you. I had a few dates as a teenager where I didn't want the boy to kiss me because I just wasn't into him. If he still tried to kiss me, I turned my head and he kissed my cheek.
2006-08-21 01:22:29 · answer #10 · answered by I love my husband 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋