im 17 i have a 3month old baby and i've been witht hte father of my son for 3 years and just last night i split with him becasue we had an abusive relationship more emotional than physically but both I need advice as to h how to cope with this i'm very sad and i'm can't stop crying even though I know i did the right thing because he did nothing for his kid or me and his friends came first, i'm scared i won't ever find anyone again, what do i do.
2006-08-20 17:59:14 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you should've stayed in school... or at least used SPELL CHECK.
2006-08-20 18:04:34 · answer #1 · answered by Friendly Neighbor 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You put up with an abusive relationship for more than three years?
There are very many single parents out here and I think the best way to cope with this is to put your child's interests first. Think about being the best mother you can ever be and dont rush into finding another man, when you're ready and the time is right, the man will just find you.
At 17, you're still very young (you need being taken care of), you really need your parents right now.
2006-08-21 01:13:26 · answer #2 · answered by JECCY 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You did the right thing by leaving him. Now you need to go get help. If you live in Dallas, go to The Family Place. Find out information for a center for abused women in your area through phone books or the internet. I know how you are feeling, and I thought the same thing about not finding another man, I've been there. You have a baby to think about, so forget about him for now, and go get help. Good luck.
2006-08-21 01:11:00 · answer #3 · answered by LittleVeggie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
slow down take a breath .it will all be okay .yes you did do the right thing .are you in school.if now find a way .i was married as a teen and had a child .i was 18 marreid and 20 had my frist i dropped out .me and there dad is still together for 9 years by the grace of God .but you are doing good.Do you have any close family if so they can help and guied you .Check out some progams in your town that will help.What ever you do just think the baby you have cannot speak yeet for himself.But you can by your voice .Maybe you can get in to some free counsling that will help you out to .God Bless .
2006-08-21 08:21:59 · answer #4 · answered by purpal2002002 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you did do the right thing.
first, report him to the police for abuse. you can also get him for rape if you want to (because you're under 18 and still a minor). but you need to be strong. you have a 3 month old baby and you need to take care of him. if you need help, you might want to go to your parents who should help you.
right now, dont worry about finding anyone else ever again. go to your friends; maybe they can help you. but just take care of that baby! eventually you'll find someone who will love you and your baby and will stay with you guys. you just have to wait for him to come along.
2006-08-21 01:11:52 · answer #5 · answered by baby bear 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honey you are only 17. I promise other guys will come and go. It is the best to get out of any relationship that does not meet your needs emotionally, it takes a while to really see it, but it is much better to be lonely alone that to be lonely with someone. Please hang in there, do the best with the time you have right now, and other details of life work themselves out.
2006-08-21 01:07:29 · answer #6 · answered by Sarah 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
finding someone new right now is not the priority. the priority right now is urself and ur child. u r young and there are many opportunity that awaits. but dont rush it, bec the more u rush it, the more u get into disaster.
as for the moment, there should only be one thing on ur mind. how to keep urself and the baby healthy, happy and pretty. if ur sad, you and ur baby wont be any of the above.
so patch urself up; u did the right thing. keep busy to keep urself confident of urself. remember one thing: you have to maintain beauty, health, and happiness for urself and the baby.
2006-08-21 01:07:00 · answer #7 · answered by The Punisher 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Focus on the baby you have. You are gonna find some one soon. Your only 17 you still have plenty of time. Dye your hair or buy a new outfit to make yourself feel better.
2006-08-21 01:08:29 · answer #8 · answered by Brandy S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
17! and you've been with this loser since you were 14!? There's a whole world out there waiting for you...believe in yourself and never take abuse from anyone. Relax...focus on yourself and your child... the rest will fall into place one day... good luck!
2006-08-21 01:10:40 · answer #9 · answered by 4nik8er 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DON'T WORRY ABOUT THE CRYING IT WILL STOP WITH TIME. THE PAIN WILL GO AWAY WHEN THE LOVE YOU HAVE FOR HIM FADES. AND DONT EVER BELIEVE YOU WON'T FIND SOMEONE ELSE BECAUSE YOU WILL. SOMEONE THAT WILL LOVE YOU AND YOUR BABY AND TREAT YOU THE WAY YOU SHOULD BE TREATED. NOT LIKE A CHEAP F***.
2006-08-21 01:08:01 · answer #10 · answered by toni stark 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU DID THE RIGHT THING , YOU HAVE A CHILD AND THAT
IS THE FIRST RESPONSIBILITY, AS FOR NOT FINDING SOME
ONE ELSE. I COURSE YOU WILL FIND LOVE AGAIN, YOU ONLY 17, YOU JUST STARTING YOUR JOURNEY, SO YOU
WILL FIND WHAT YOU LOOKING FOR IN THE YEARS TO
COME, SO JUST HANG IN THERE. BE STRONG, GOOD LUCK\ .
2006-08-21 01:08:24 · answer #11 · answered by luckystar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋