can a relationship work if the people have two different beliefs? let me explain for a sec. im agnostic and my girlfriend is christian. the first day we started going out i told her i was agnostic and i respected her beliefs and asked her to respect mine. since then we have been having little arguments about god. i really do love her and i want to be with her, im actually thinking about asking her to marry me and i will even get married in a church because her and her family is christian. but can our relationship last? im just looking for some advice and i dont want any stupid advice so if you dont have anything smart to say then dont even leave an answer. thank you to everyone who responds.
2006-08-20 17:52:38 · 10 answers · asked by XxX_Prefected_Imperfection_XxX 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
im adding this in responce to an answer that was recieved. it was about how would our children be raised.
if and when we ever have children i have no objections to her taking them to church as kids. but once they become older i would want it to be their decsion. i really do love this girl. i mean who knows a year from now i might actually beileve in god crazier things have been known to happen...right?
2006-08-20 18:06:56 · update #1
It can work if people keep their minds open to the others beliefs. It is by no means easy because christians can be set in their ways. Little arguments will sometimes turn into big ones. it can be hard when raising kids, doing the wedding ceremony, funerals, and other stuff. If anything you have to be willing to bend a little for her as she has to be able to do the same for you. My husband and I dont' always agree on religious or spiritual aspects, I'm christian and he is a philosopher (and in the begining we were both christian with the same beliefs). It took me a long time to except the fact that there is a possibility that he won't change or come back to christianity (which was very hard), but I made a promise to him and to my God that I would love him and honor him for better or worse. So if the both of you can't get past your disagreements, it would be better for the both of you to move on, however if you two really love eachother whole heartedly and you are willing to keep your minds open and talk through things, then you'll be okay
2006-08-20 19:43:37 · answer #1 · answered by Elora 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The relationship might be able to work... but I doubt it. Her family will most likely push her to convert you, if they are that type. And once you have children, it will become a BIG deal... will they be raised with religion or without. Will they be taught evolution or creationism? Is there room for both?
Ideology is a sticky thing in marriage when the two partners don't agree. If you girlfriend is mellow and not too religious, asking you to go to church with her, read the bible with her, etc., you're probably okay. But I'd want to make sure she understands you are how you are and you're probably not going to change. You won't ask her to change either, as long as that is mutual.
Good luck!
2006-08-20 18:05:08 · answer #2 · answered by Rogue Scrapbooker 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
This is something that you guys need to spend a lot of time discussing before thinking about getting married. Sometimes, love conquers all. Sometimes, the differences can damage the love.
Here's some issues to consider. Would you be having children one day? How would they be raised? Would you be able to support your wife, their mother, in her beliefs? Because for her, as a Christian, to deny her faith, is to deny her God, and that is blasphemy, the one sin that can permanently separate her from God. It's something that she is not going to be able to compromise on.
I'm not too sure exactly how an agnostic feels, but my brother said he was agnostic for years..."If there's a God, then let Him prove Himself to me". Well, without going into any details or a very long story, that's exactly what God did, and my brother, the agnostic, has been serving God now for years! It was really incredible to watch the changes in his life!
This subject is something that is close to me, as I am a Christian who is falling hard for a Muslim, so we're dealing with the issues involved. Fortunately, we're beyond the ages of having children, but I can still see that it could make our relationship very difficult down the line.
Best advise, be honest with yourself and then discuss this in depth with her.
Take Care,
Amy
2006-08-20 18:08:34 · answer #3 · answered by Amy N 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, the bible tells its followers not to be "unequally yoked," which I was taught meant that Christians shouldn't marry non-Christians.
However, my mother's a Christian, and my dad's at least agnostic, possibly atheist, and they've been married 37 years.
2006-08-20 18:02:31 · answer #4 · answered by Big_Drew 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Have you discussed how you're going to raise the children? Could be a major, major sticking point later on. Best take care of this now.
2006-08-20 18:02:25 · answer #5 · answered by ccrider 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Hello My dear brother.. its nice to Fall in love.. Cause love is Blind.. i understand Ur Feeling cause i have suffered a lot in that same problem Wat Ur facing now.. the Relation ship will have some arguments and may crack some time... ur not obeying the Law of God.. ur co-operating with her to marry in church.. but ur doing tht to get her.. not respecting her religion... i think u wont have a long relation ship.. ur spoiling ur life and hers too... i am so sorry to say this.. i know u wont like it.. but i should say this.. God is Watching over everthing... be careful... God Bless u
2006-08-20 18:06:45 · answer #6 · answered by Eby 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
if she realy does love you and u her...it shouldn't matter what ur beliefs are....i suggest not talkin about one or the others belief as much...and just enjoy what u have right now...and the rest will follow suit..meaning that really..it just doesn't matter..love comes from the heart not from what church u go to or what u believe in.u have my best wishes both of u!!
2006-08-20 18:05:20 · answer #7 · answered by poppysgirl70 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
yes ur relationship can work even u both have different beliefs.its the matter of believing god and different ways of presenting oneself in god.Because there is only one god u would be praying to the same god differently this should not affect ur love life.each of u understand the vurtures of each other.
2006-08-20 18:03:05 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
if your little arguments stay within the boundary of respectful debate , then it should work
if the arguments get out of hand , with either or both of you getting offended frequently then maybe it won't
2006-08-20 18:00:32 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I can't believe a Christian Minister would marry both of you to start with. but......
Good Luck.
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2006-08-20 18:12:59 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋