OUCH....my boyfriend can't have sexual intercourse?

Question

soooooooo what if my boyfriend can't have sexual intercourse due to health problems and I am still very sexual active and enjoy sex...do you think its fair that I should be able to have a "friend" just for the purposes of sex or should I give up sex when I am not ready to do so

Answer 1

Oh boy. I think this is something you should discuss with your boyfriend. I think in the case of most men (myself included), it would be tough allowing some other man to ravage my girl. It will only stir up problems and that's not what you want in a relationship. There will always be doubts and mistrust from that point on, and that plain will just not work out for you. I don't think you totally have to give up sex either, there are other ways that he can still get you aroused unless his health problems are that serious. Have you thought about investing in a stand alone mechanical unit if you know what a mean? You could invest in a vibrator or something like that. Or maybe he could at least still do something like oral and incorporate other facets into love making. Nevertheless, you are technically asking the wrong people for advice here. Some people on here will do a really great job of advising you. Some others might make a spectical out of it. The only one true answer that you will be able to obtain is the one from your boyfriend, communicate with him and see what he thinks. If he says no, then find other alternatives. You also have to break the question down so he doesn't go into one of those "OH HELL NO" situations. You should say like, baby I love you very much and I hate not being able to make love to you. But I have needs and I was nervous about asking you about blah blah blah (not literally those three words). But we believe in each other and trust one another and it should be easy for us to talk about our wants and needs. And I was just wondering if it was maybe okay by you if we could figure out a alternative at the moment so that I can get my boots smoked. DO NOT ask him up front, baby can I have a "friend" because I will tell you 9 times out of 10, he'll flip out. Worst situation ever that you DON'T want to be in. I really don't want to see you back on here in a day asking the question is there anyway to apologize to my bf for making him flip the hell out. I won't answer that question. ^@^ But break it to him easy and then maybe when you get further into the conversation, unleash it onto him because he will be better prepared. Other than that, I'm not sure what to say. Good luck with everything, I'm not sure my advice is what you want to hear, but hopefully in some ways I've provided you with some right information.

Answer 2

No u definatley should not have a friend for those purposes.. Thats cheating! thats the worst thing you could do. Why would u even think that? Obviously ur b/f doesnt mean that much to u if ur ready to that to him. Just get him checked out and wait till hes ready to have sex.

Answer 3

Your not waiting to fulfill your guy in the time of sexual interest? Is he not waiting to orgasm? To be worry-free, i do not imagine the project is with you, i imagine the project is with him. If he orgasms, then your artwork is carried out. If he's desiring more beneficial than that, then he's only searching for an excuse to interrupt it off with you. I say enable him flow. the element is, he should not be wondering about himself, he should be concentrated on relaxing you. If he won't be able to get it up, its not your fault, its his. in case you contact him, kiss him, and in case you do oral, and he won't be able to be happy with that, then its him, not you. only kick him and his limp noodle to the size down, and flow on. both that or supply him viagra, that could want to help him too. On a extreme note, if he masterbates oftentimes, that could want to shop him from being happy with you. i recognize of a former married couple, the female became attractive and intensely sexual, and her now ex husband might want to flow fulfill himself to on-line porn. It became particularly unhappy, yet that became the purely way he might want to fulfill himself. per chance your guy has deeper topics, so do not blame your self, and finally end up a guy who will concentration on your pride, particularly than his.

Answer 4

Your man can still do things with you that are plessurable. I don't think that you need to go and have a friend to have sex with. Get your self a dildo and play with him. He can make you happy if he knows what he is doing. Oh yeah....... all relationships don't revolve around sex.

Answer 5

You shouldn't have friends, but you should befriend yourself. My wife was in the hospital for 6 months and I had to engage in a lot of self loving.

Being that he's your boyfriend and spouse others might differ with me.

Answer 6

There's more to sex than "intercourse"...get creative!

Answer 7

If u love him you won't get a friend. You'll get a toy instead, and don't use it in front of him it may make him feel bad.

Answer 8

There is more to a realtionship than sex, but you need to get this squared away.

Answer 9

i feel bad for your BF don't do it.. love him without sexual intercourse...

Answer 10

That is very bad. Is he an american ? I hear that most american men are impotence.