My girlfriend likes to look and stare at guys for a very long time. At first, I didn't think of it as anything but now it is begining to bother me. Am I in the wrong here for letting it bother me or is it rude on her part?
2006-08-20 17:30:25 · 25 answers · asked by ro912 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
what kind of guys does she stare at..... is there something wrong with them? or are they super hot.......... either way, its pretty immature.....
i would never disrespect my man like that.
good luck.
2006-08-20 17:35:22 · answer #1 · answered by whuvahgut? 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What she is doing is not only rude, but disrespectful to you. When she stares and focuses on them, her thoughts are on them. And that is so wrong to do with or without you being present.
What would you do if you married her and she continued to stare at other men? Does your mom stare at other men? If she did, I bet not only your dad, but you and your siblings would be greatly offended.
It's not normal or natural...and I certainly would hope that she wouldn't do that after marrying or having a family. My word! What a woman that would make.
Someone mentioned it being a habit. Well, I can't see how "that" is a habit, but either way, habits can be formed or broken in only 21 days. So, work with her on that.
When you are with her in the presence of others, talk to her and get her to look at you during the conversation (whether you want to discuss the problem or do it incognito). Help her to get her focus on you. If you notice her eyes wandering, start another conversation or do something (if you're out, ask her to dance...if she stares again, spin her around to the other side). Do something to remove that option.
In the end, you really do need to talk to her about it. Find out if there is some underlying reason. And, if that reason is just that there's not enough interest in you to keep her attention focused on you, then move on before you make a lifetime commitment.
2006-08-20 17:44:48 · answer #2 · answered by Proverbs31Mom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you are not in the wrong. Guys stare at other chicks all the time. But its just a quick glance. Now if your gf is just out rightly staring when the guy looks back or out with you in a public place that is very rude and disrespectful to you. And you should tell her how you feel about it, If she says you are just worrying too much or anything less than positive, then break up with her. Because it seems like her fascination with other guys could totally continue if you guys get married. And could even cause problems if one of the guys she is staring at gets pissed or his gf does.
2006-08-20 17:38:50 · answer #3 · answered by Bloody Kisses 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah it's "rude", because the time she spends staring at other guys is time she isn't being attentive to you. If she does it for a "very long time", it means she is either trying to get their attention(which is WAY wrong to be doing in front of you) or she is trying to entertain herself other than talking or enjoying your company. Either way, I can't anything good about it.
2006-08-20 17:38:11 · answer #4 · answered by jeninsocal 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Staring is impolite and continuously makes a individual experience uncomfortable. The are in basic terms 2 issues to do. One, do no longer say something and overlook approximately them, hoping they'll stop, or 2, stare returned, yet refuse to answer any questions approximately it later. individually, to maintain a good acceptance, do the 1st one. you would be happier!
2016-10-02 08:31:33 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, that totally depends on what your staring at. If you're captivated by a girls beautiful face and graceful way, then i'd say hopefully she takes it as a compliment. But if you're staring other places, i don't need to say it, that's more than just rude, it's shallow and shows that that's all guys really think about, and it really isn't.
2006-08-20 17:45:32 · answer #6 · answered by inquisitivelittleguy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats rude for sure, the only way it wouldn't be rude was if she was staring at u naked. u gotta leave a good impression on her (u kno what i mean?) to get her thinking about u all the time-screw her brains out, then tell her that if she wants more then she has to stop looking at other guys.
2006-08-20 17:38:21 · answer #7 · answered by ParadoxZero 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well its rude when she is with you but its ok when she is alone. I bet you also must be staring at other girls when you are alone. Its human nature to check up which other mobile handsets are available in the market even if you have your own. So just relax and chill out.
2006-08-20 17:40:06 · answer #8 · answered by nandru_22 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's rude on her part...Anyway, if she is with you, why is she staring at other guys? Have you confronted her with this? You should let her know how you feel.
2006-08-20 17:40:05 · answer #9 · answered by Miss J 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Staring is only considered rude when you're caught doing it by the one you're staring at, or by someone else.
2006-08-20 17:37:40 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
a glance is flattering. It kind of says, "yes there are other attractive people out there, but you will always be my number one"
But staring, now that's just plain rude
2006-08-20 17:37:33 · answer #11 · answered by Hannah L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋