My ex and I were deeply in love two years ago when I left for college. After six months he broke up with me. He said the distance was just to hard for him to handle, I am seven years younger, and he wanted me to enjoy college and meet other people. Two weeks after he broke up with me he was calling and sending me messages..it was as if he really couldnt let go. I tried to ignore him for a month but then when he said "Are you still alive" I felt bad and called him. We have remained really close friends for the past year and a half..he calls me about every two weeks. I recently found out he has another girl that he seems to just be using for sex...because he told me he loves me and wants to be with me...its just that we are both living seperate lives right now. When I told him I couldnt talk to him anymore he got really emotional...I think about him 24/7 and he said he said that i am also always on his mind...we truely love each other but i am so emotionally hurting inside. any advice?
2006-08-20 17:28:58 · 23 answers · asked by Tina S 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sounds like he is playing with your emotions, and trying to have his cake and eat it too. You don't deserve to be hurt anymore hun, and that's all you will get if you keep letting him yo yo his way in and out of your life. Why don't you tell him that you're fine with being his friend, but that's all you can be.
2006-08-20 17:36:05 · answer #1 · answered by LibraT 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if both of u r still single & if u know that u love each other, if u know that u cannot live without each other, then who is stopping u from being together ? why do u need somebody's advice for this ?get married as early as u can . if u don't believe in marriage start living together.but see that your children get both the parents' love. i am sure u will be happy together. if he has another girl, wel l ,talk to him properly before u commit yourself to him. he should be loyal to u atleast when u start living together. see that he does not take u for granted.. remember love flourishes only when there is commitment & loyalty from both the sides.hope i have helped u.i am not advicing u. i have told u some points to think over. all the best. if he thinks that u will be a doormat at home while he still can enjoy out side then forget him.
2006-08-21 00:43:32 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i do think u are hurting inside cuz you can't be with him right now and if there was a chance for you 2 to be together i have no doubt both of you would take that choice. but life does things to you that you really don't understand the real meaning to but at the same time you always have to deal with even though you don't want to. however, therre is no other choice but to deal with life cuz life is not always fair well most of the time. for the both of you i think that what life is doing to the both of you is testing the limits of love you have for him and the love he has for you. and nothing can break love between 2 people when you love each other and it sounds like you 2 don't want that love you have for each other to break even through the hardest times of being apart. i just say the distance between you 2 the love is not gone to break for anything even the distance can't stop it. . . . i hope this gets settled between you 2 to see each other no matter what it takes.
2006-08-21 00:45:51 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok, first you find out that you had twins while you were together, then they grow up and switch places and you end up having to come together to separate them and then say what the hell. and then they make a movie about it. lets see? should we call it parent trap? no that would never sell at the box office....
but seriously, go take the initiative. use the whole "If you like Pina Coladas" song trick. place an ad in the paper and then your ex finds it and not knowing its you falls in love. or take any other romantic song for inspiration. music is the fuel of the soul man! peace! my brothas and sistas! ggggrrrrroooooooooooooovvvvveeeeeeeeeeeyyyyyyyyyyy........
yeah so just spend a few days on a romantic movies/romantic songs binge and then you should have plenty of good material to work with.
2006-08-21 00:39:32 · answer #4 · answered by mastergamer1128 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why have a conditional relationship, one day he finds a distance hard to handle and next day he cant stop thinking about you, well i understand you have been with him for long time, but there are many more fishes in the sea, why worry about some one who wants you one day and the other day does not...
trust me - 20 yrs from now when you will sit and think about this, you will laugh at this or just would never ever think about it
2006-08-21 00:35:45 · answer #5 · answered by 1in6billion 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are just going to have to wait until you are able to be together. He doesn't want to go without sex while you experience college.
The worst thing you could do is give up your life just so he won't have sex and you won't have a broken heart.
Love hurts. And painful choices are part of being an adult. Now you know why your Mother rolled her eyes at you when you were a teenager.
Welcome to adulthood!
2006-08-21 00:36:44 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly it sounds like you love each other still but are not IN love anymore... You both have moved on. You do live separate lives... If it's meant to be, you wouldn't be. If he is sleeping with someone else that does not mean she is just for sex... He isn't going to let you know he is into someone else if he isn't ready to totally move on yet...
Make him decide and go forward with that decision.
2006-08-21 00:35:56 · answer #7 · answered by snape4good 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly I just think he has an attachment to you couz he let go and regrets that you you didn't take him back. If he really loved you he wouldn't be intimate with someone else but would let destiny bring you together. Can you really tell a guy you love him and sleep with someone else. If you say yes you are as hopeless and lost as he is.
2006-08-21 00:39:13 · answer #8 · answered by "Q" 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is just messing with your head you need to let him go. The only reason that he is telling you that is just to have you as a back up. If he really cared he would not call you every two weeks. think about it? what is he doing during that time? Believe me when i tell you. been there done that.
2006-08-21 00:38:15 · answer #9 · answered by aracely 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when you love some one you just cant behave the way he does i am seperated from my wife for three years , but i have never had sex outside , i feel you should quit and be more practical and tell ur self the truth and face it . i wish u will find ur true love with whom u will be really happy, i understand its very easy to advice but thats the way life is
2006-08-21 00:36:07 · answer #10 · answered by ramesh n 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋