my ex-boyfriend id 30 years old, I am currently 22 we have a 1year old and i am 6 months pregnant. We lived in austin for 3years together and we broke up over a couple of things like, finances, he didn't want me to have the unborn child but now he does, he also has a friend (male) that I belive he spends too much time with,so we broke up about a month ago because he said he could'nt do it anymore. So I now live in dallas with my mother. I call him at work every day but he doesn't call me at all because he doesn't have a phone.(at home) But he says he misses us, im so confused what should i do?
2006-08-20 17:24:52 · 13 answers · asked by kidds 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
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2006-08-20 17:29:33 · answer #1 · answered by Mimi 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Stop calling him for a few days, or a week or so, see if he gets to a phone.
If you hear nothing from him, call him, and tell him you want to sincerely work things out this time, and you mean it, ask him is he does too, tell him he does not have to give you an answer right then and there, and see what he says.
I wish the best for you.
And if, in the end, it does not work out, believe me, you WILL find someone who loves you AND your kids, believe me, I know a young women with 4 kids, who was single, and she met a man, who, personally, is soooo much better for her, and her kids, too, than the one that fathered them.
Sometimes all men need is a break, a little time, others, well, never really want to face up to real responability, and you do not want THAT for yourself or you children the rest of your life, do u?
See what happens, if nothing does, move on and keep your chin up, you never know what God might have in store for you, dear!
I wish you all the best!
2006-08-21 00:37:57 · answer #2 · answered by DivinePath 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He doesn't exactly qualified as father of the year, dear. He doesn't sounds ready to be in a mature relationship. Regardless of whatever the outcome, he is still financially responsible for child support. You need to get in touch with a layer. If he welsh on his duties, the courts can garnish his wages. One doesn't just say he can't do it anymore. A real man doesn't do that. It's not that hard to find a phone to call you. That's a red flag that he's not interested. Don't call him anymore. Have your lawyer call him. Can't afford one? Go to the courts and file the papers.Meanwhile, sometimes after the baby is born, consider going back to school to get a degree so that YOU can support yourself and your child. Good luck, dear. You have a long hard road ahead of you.
2006-08-21 00:50:53 · answer #3 · answered by sacredmud 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know in your heart that you and your children are better off without this man in your life. You know it because you moved to Dallas to live with your mother. Stop calling him. He would call if he really wanted to. He would be in Dallas with you and his children if he really wanted to. You are fortunate to have a mother to help you out and give you a safe place to live. You are only 22 years old with two children. You need to start thinking about making a life for yourself and your children. Talk to your mother and come up with a plan. Forget this no good person who has deserted you and your children. See a lawyer about getting his pay attached to help pay child support. He is responsible for paying something toward child support until they are 18 years old. Make a plan. Make a life.
2006-08-21 00:35:01 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dump this loser as fast as you can. Being a good father is NOT a part time job ( I know, I am one) Being a single parent is not an easy job either (I'm one of those too) Work hard for your kids, they need your commitment 24/7. Be patient! Somewhere in the world is a REAL man that will treat you and your children the way you should be treated...good luck...hang tough!
2006-08-21 00:46:39 · answer #5 · answered by 4nik8er 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your ex boyfriend has no backbone. Your children need a solid supportive father and it is doubtful your ex will ever become one.
You have two choices now:
1. Pull yourself together and for your children's sake become their mother, father and breadwinner.
2. Find a good honest man and form a family with him.
What you must NEVER DO is expose your children to instability,
and unhappiness.
2006-08-21 00:31:42 · answer #6 · answered by flugelberry 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
FIRST OF ALL WHY DOES A 30 YEAR OLD MAN THAT HAS
'ONE CHILD AND ONE ON THE WAY NOT HAVE A PHONE
SO THAT YOU CAN GET IN TOUCH WITH HIM ABOUT HIS
CHILDREN. THAT THE FIRST QUESTION. HE NEEDS TO
STEP UP AND START GET HIS ACT TOGETHER, THIS IS
NONSENSE. YOU NEED TO LET HIM KNOW WHAT GOING]ON
ESPECIALLY SINCE THERE ARE CHILDREN INVOLVED.
2006-08-21 00:32:51 · answer #7 · answered by luckystar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he's gay....honestly I do. I've seen this exact story with someone else I know. He said he couldn't do it anymore. DO WHAT? A woman? Spending too much time with one particular man? or a group of friends that he confides in. I think that if it's one PARTICULAR man....it's a problem dear.
2006-08-21 00:29:42 · answer #8 · answered by cami 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well obviously since he's the father of your children, you should just be in good terms with him. Guys will be guys. I would get him a phone for Christmas.
2006-08-21 00:30:28 · answer #9 · answered by Uglifull 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Either he is gay, or he just wants you to feed his ego. Stop calling him so much. Give it a few days, and he will be calling you. Act like you don't care. It will be hard but it will work.
2006-08-21 00:37:27 · answer #10 · answered by carrie.nicole 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋