why can't i get a guy?

Question

yeah i know i've asked this question before but i'm going to ask again and i'm probaly gonna get a few smart *** answers but with the good comes the bad..........ummmmmmmm i 14 i love music i play the guitar viola and keyboard i'm 5'6 146 pounds have green eyes glasses and red hair ummmmm i wear black bands tees jeans and a hoodie most of the time along with dark eye makeup i tend to be very shy an untalkitive and can seem cold intill i get to know you. can you pinpoint one of those things or a few of things that keeps me from getting a bf?

Answer 1

Very shy and untalkative? and you're wondering why you're not reeling the guys in? Full grown men shy away from traits like that in women. It'll be even worse when you're a teenage boy. I remember fifteen. There was nothing I wanted more than a girl and at the same time there was nothing I was more scared of. I handled being chased by a bear better than talking to a girl then (not a word of exaggeration in that claim) If you SEEM unapproachable, you will be treated as such. Don't get me wrong, I am not telling you to be someone you are not. You just have to get better at sharing who you really are and that is a talent that takes a lot of time and maturity to develop. Just keep working on it.

As to your physical description, you don't want a guy that looks at things like that. Highlight your physical assetts and be comfortable with who you are. There is nothing more attractive in a woman than that. As to the music thing, being that is what you chose as the first thing to describe yourself, that should be where you make the most effort in this developing yourself thing. Opening up to guys is going to be easier if you have music in common right. Maybe you won't land the trumpet player, but hey, it's a place to start.

PS: Band chicks are always attractive in their own way. Deep down the cultured male always knows that below that prim, proper outward appearance there is a wild woman underneath. We all saw American Pie. Don't try and pretend there isn't at least half a dozen Michelles in any average sized high school music program.

Answer 2

I think the dark tom-boyish clothing, dark makeup, and cold attitude are turning many guys away. Nobody wants to hang out with anyone who is depressing, and that is the image I think you are projecting. Try wearing nice colors more often. Also, guys will not know you like them until you start being friendly to them, and it is preferable for you to reach that point right when you meet them if you want them to pursue you. You also sound a bit pudgy, but I'd have to see your frame to know for sure. If you are pudgy, losing some weight would help your cause. Everything else should be OK. Hair and eye color matter very little, so just let those things remain natural. Your height is good too. Glasses don't matter much either, unless they're terribly ugly frames or a very powerful prescription. Anyway, just change your dress and talk more and you should be more successful in love. You are only 14, after all. The best time to start dating seriously is in your 20s. Good luck!

Answer 3

girl i am gonna be honest with u and this is coming from someone who made a lot of changes in my life in getting a boyfrieend i am 16. u are trying to get a bf it all depends on what type of boy u are looking for if u looking for a thug or a brainiack then u got to act on what your looking for sometimes. also, opposites attract too u cant stay shy forever dont be scared to speak your mind just be yourself u seem like a very cute and nice girl. all that dark make up got to go no makeup is the first step to real beauty just try it out i bet there is a very pretty girl and try to change your wardrobe around just a little bit not much but change it around so that u can like what u see and u will be happy in being able to change. always be yourself u can dress different then u act i think u will do good in the future so just experiment with alot of different looks otha than how u been looking and see which one u like best and work with that look to make it work for u and u will have a guy in no time!! i am always open if u need advice my e-mail address is [e-mail] e-mail me sometime and see how it go

Answer 4

None of those things will keep you from getting a boyfriend except not talking. And even then, when you meet the right guy you'll talk up a storm. Don't worry about it. All of your "stuff" is probably keeping you from hooking up with the wrong guy. The right guy will like everything about you.

Answer 5

The untalkative and seeming cold some of the time might keep guys away. But really you should just be yourself. You want a guy to like you for you and not someone you are trying to be.

Answer 6

Just be yourself let everyone see who you are. But if you want to attract attention maybe you can be assertive ...
by being a flirt, wearing perfume,use make up and lipstick, dress up and smile it's contagious.
Do you ask guys if they are available? Also, let your girl friends know that you want to get a guy maybe they know someone that you can hook up with. Good luck.

Answer 7

you answered your own question try speaking to 5 guys a day just sayin whats up and go up 1 a day you will soon find that they aint nobody they breathe oxygen like you

Answer 8

dress like a girl more often not like one of the guys. let the guys see that your a girl and they wil treat you like a girl. get rid of the hoodie and wear a nice top and snug jeans not tight. if you act like a lady the guys will squarm like bees to flowers!!

Answer 9

you got look little harder come now quit making up excuses, you will meet the man of your dreams or a guy to satisfy your needs until then

Answer 10

Ummm, maybe because your 14!! Give it a few years.