Has anyone found a way to get young adult kid to listen to your wisdom?

Answer 1

That question is so funny. Once in a while there is a young adult that has common sense but for the better part they have to learn from their own mistakes. Some of them costly. Like I let my grandson sit in jail for 3 nights before I went and got him out and he knows its a place he does not want to be in again. 30 people to a room 12 x 25. They slept on the cement head to foot. They got one blanket at 10 pm and they came and collected the blankets at 5 am. It was always cold in there. I told him next time he would set there until his trial date. I was not bailing him out again. He knows I mean it too.

Answer 2

I believe there are, basically, two types of young adult. Those that listen, and those that don't. I think I'm one of the latter type. As a young adult, I was adamant that I knew it all. I knew what was best. I knew what to do. Sadly, that belief proved to be unfounded.

I'm going through a similar 'problem' with my youngest son right now. My eldest son has moved out, set up home with his girlfriend, is buying a house, has a good, steady job, whereas my youngest son, who did move out, moved back in to the family home. He had a part time job, which he has now been made redundant from (didn't work there long enough to become entitled to redundancy pay). He seems very non-commital. He seems to think that the world owes him a living. It's taken us about 6 months to get him to 'sign on' for unemployment benefit. In the meantime, however, he's continued to use the facilities at the family home, eat like a horse, scrounge money from his mother, left, right and centre, without a forethought.

I do wish you the very best of luck in your endeavours [endeavors for my American cousins] to get your child to listen to your wisdom and experience.

Answer 3

You must set an example. Listen to them first. Show respect for and interest in them and their ideas. This may require good acting ability. We gain respect from giving it. We all think someone who recognises our own worth must be smarter than average and worth listening to don't we. All this takes time, perhaps the young persons lifetime. That said throwing wisdom at teenagers can seem like hurling pearls into a black hole. One day when their brains are ready to focus and they have made enough mistakes your seeds of advice will be firmly planted and will hopefully grow when the time is right. Good luck!

Answer 4

Its called the Three Minute plan. When you first arrive home, full of smiles and full of love, sit him down and tell him you love him, then maybe slip in a little bit of advice. As a story or tale of someone else, whatever. Then forget it.. He will not take it until he has made that mistake at least twice. But he will remember that his parent took some time out to hug and love and give some thought to his life. Most of the wisdom we learned in our lives was as a result of seeing other people's mistakes and having enough self-confidence not to go there.

Answer 5

Nope! I remember when I was a teen and I wouldn't listen to anything, I thought I knew it all. Now I realize I was given really great advise and I should have listened. But when I talk to my relatives that are young adults, they do the same eye roll that I used to do and I'm sure they think that what I'm saying is crap. I talk to them and I hope that they listen, but in all reality they probably don't - it's just teenage nature.

Answer 6

You have to say whether the person is yound or adult.Please note that that
1.Nobody likes getting advised by somebody.Wisdom has no sale value.People hate it.
2.Adult will have his own thinking.It will be irritating to them to sermonise.
3.Each person thinks He is wise and can advise others.
4.Giving free wisdom may make me unpopular fast
Small children may be made to understand through wisdom stories/moral stories etc.to some extent.
So it is better to share your wisdom when only asked.

Answer 7

I have dealt with kids and Teenagers of all ages,I found the best way is to make them think it was their idea or what most call as reverse phsycology.
If the 1st does not work listen to them ,let them experience on their ownmake sure you are compassionete towards what ever turn of events happen

Answer 8

well all i can say is i guess its different for every person, but i have found with me kids that i get down to there level even bending down on the floor, so im not looking down to them making me look instantly the powerful one, so if i get down to their level it makes me and my kids equal and i give them the chance to either go first and speak or myself so again my age is not over impowering them. cos if u think about it we are always told to respect our elders, but why not give the younger ppl the chance to speak first, after all they are they are our future.

anyhow as i was saying i say ok who do you want to go first yourself or me giving eye to eye contact, but make sure your going to be able to be open to anything that may come up. for example my 9 year old wants her highlighted and as usual she thought she new best, so she gave her side to me why she felt it was ok and why it should be done now not latter, so i said after she completly spoke her side that it takes a lot of looking after and that it cost lost of money to maintain, and can look very messy and awful if roots are not touched up,but she still insited so we came to a compramise, that when she was 10 she could have a few colours highlighted ie streaks basicly, and that out off her pocket money she has to by the correct hair products to keep her hair maintained because it will take a lots of care, and that when she gets bouness money she has to keep some aside for helpin to pay for costs towards the maintance of her hair when it needs doing.again. this is how we go about things and normaly she will listen to the wisdom or we compramise with saftey at a high at all times maybe this will help, i dont really know
but try using uncondistiong regard at all times this means being open to everything regarding to your beliefs after all you was a kid once and im sure you remember being the same.

hope it works out whatever happens. good luck.xx

Answer 9

Well, first of all, I always grant HER some importance; even if she is not right in her judgements yet; she is learning. That doesn't mean her viewpoint is invalid: it just means she's learning. No one likes to be made to feel less important just because they don't know ALL the answers. So, I consult her, as well as give her advice. She usually takes it well when I apply the above!

Answer 10

that is something that's not going to happen while they're still young! this wisdom that your giving them a lil bit at a time is only going to be fully understood when they're grown. And then it'll only be of you telling them something or warning them of something in a distant memory. lol GL & GB