My boyfriend is 29, Im 26 and we have been together 6 months. we spend everyweekend together.
Its just that When I call or txt him when he is out with his friends, he doesnt answer, and most of the time doesnt txt back.
Every thursday night he goes to poker night with his mates, and never answer's my calls or txts at all, and sometimes Its been important things Ive needed to speak to him about.
He told me on the weekend, not to call him or txt him at poker night, I said I will be angry if he ignores my txts, I even told him I would only txt him if it was important.
I am right to stand my ground and expect at least a txt back (i dont expect him to talk to me on the phone for ages- just answer a simple txt ) he says its only because I dont trust him. I think its more to do with respecting me enough to send a 2 min txt.
2006-08-20 16:44:35 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Leave him; he's selfish
2006-08-20 16:49:30 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, it sounds like he is trying to make a point. Maybe he is feeling like you are watching him too closely - and maybe his friends are making fun of him for being whipped. Try this: renew your agreement to only send texts if it is important on thursday nights - and define what important is! - then stick to it. Only text him on thursday nights if it is really important. Other than that night though, if he is out, he should pick up the phone and answer.
If you are nervous he is cheating on you because he isn't answering, that's a whole different question. But i think you'd need more proof than just not answering to conclude that he is. Like I said before, he may just be starting to feel that you are being too clingy or something, or maybe his friends are giving him a hard time.
2006-08-20 23:58:23 · answer #2 · answered by starlet_8 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not nag him, but just stop being at his beck and call. Make him chase you a bit. Stop texting him as much, stop calling as much, put a day or two between. This do not answer his call all the time. When the phone rings, do not answer it right away, call him back a couple of hours later, if he does not return your call wait until he does and then answer. If he asks why did not answer his call tell him you spent some time with your friends. Let him chase you now.
2006-08-20 23:52:22 · answer #3 · answered by 2fine4u 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes you are right. he should call you or txt. you back. even if it is after the poker game. he should call you. but not in the middle of the game. as far as he telling you he don't trust him. maybe he is right. why don't you go out with your girls friends. on poker night. or pick a night and go have fun. good luck.
2006-08-21 00:04:21 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Respect runs both ways. If you have a question that HONESTLY can't wait until poker night is over he should care enough about you to answer it. On the other hand, he needs his own time for his own activities. You should respect his time with his friends.
2006-08-20 23:51:46 · answer #5 · answered by jen_customweddingsolutions 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he asked you for one night without the txt or phone calls and you can't respect that it says something about you too. He is with his buddies and it seems funny to me that you can't give him his one night out without finding something that probally could wait till the next day to ask. I agree that you don't trust him. Sorry.
2006-08-20 23:52:37 · answer #6 · answered by 51ain'tbad 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah. definitely stand your ground. he's being an idiot. like txting you will take away from his poker game. he can do it in a couple of seconds. you need to tell him that if he isnt willing to be there for you all the time (even if its just half his attention while playing cards), then why should you bother?
2006-08-20 23:50:53 · answer #7 · answered by give it to me baby 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i believe that you are right it doesn't take that long to reply or at least tell you the answer and ask to not bother him because he is busy, and if he brings up the trust issue maybe there is a reason you shouldn't trust him.
2006-08-20 23:50:39 · answer #8 · answered by Angel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think the reason why he has asked you to do so, is simply b'coz he wanted space. i could be wrong in saying such but i think more or less, it works both ways when it comes to respecting one another. i sincerely hope that what he has assumed about you not trusting him, be wrong and that you genuinely need to speak to him about something important.
2006-08-21 00:10:04 · answer #9 · answered by d-lite 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stand your ground, besides poker night isnt important an he needs to stop wasting time on it
2006-08-20 23:50:15 · answer #10 · answered by kf4wwe 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he's concerned about you not trusting him, because he's not trustworthy? I agree with you...if he cares enough about you he could take 2 minutes to text you back.
2006-08-20 23:51:34 · answer #11 · answered by Lu 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋