Am I a fat pig?

Question

My older sister had the nerve to call me a fat pig just because I accidently ripped her wedding dress. See my sister is 28 and just got married. I thought her wedding gown was so beautiful that I asked to try it on. She told me "No, you're too fat." I was really offended by what she told me- true Im 300 lbs, but I consider myself big boned, not fat. There's a difference. I decided to prove to her I could fit into her dress (my sister is 150 lbs, but still). The dress looked like it could fit me. A day before her wedding I tried it on and it ripped. My sister found out and called me a fat pig, crying it was an original and that Mom had spent thousands of dollars for it. I was like 'whatever', its a dress- buy another one. My sister told me it was sentimental and that now she would have to buy a cheaper dress, and that it was my fault. Whatever, she got married anyways and now its over. She still resents me for ripping her expensive wedding dress, but I think she was mean.

Answer 1

chicks getting married turn into b!tc*es so she shouldnt have said what she did. on the other had...you shouldnt have put her dress on without asking...it wasnt yours.

Answer 2

Yes, she was mean but you shouldn't have been trying it on either. By your own admission, she is half the size you are. Just the numbers, not the words "fat" or "big boned" should have been enough to make you realize that her dress would not fit you. Also, you tried it on the day before and then told her to go buy another dress - it takes 6 months for a wedding dress - what was she going to get in one day? Keep this in mind - she had been planning to wear this dress from the day she saw the picture of it or the initial designs of it. In her mind, that was what she was wearing and then she couldn't. Chances are, the bridesmaid dresses, were designed to compliment the look of the original dress and not the replacement dress. She is going to be angry for a very long time about this - there is no escaping that one. Yes, she could have been more tactful when you initially asked to try on the dress but you shouldn't have even considered trying to prove her wrong on this one by trying it on behind her back.

Answer 3

You are not a saint here darling! You were just as wrong as she was. To answer your question you are not a fat pig. But I sense you are jealous of your sister. Don't say you are not jealous of your sister because if you wasn't, you wouldn't have tried on her dress from the start knowing deep down inside you couldn't wear it. Why would a 150 pound person buy a dress big enough for a 300 pound person? That makes no sense. I too would have been very upset with you if you tried on my dress a day before my wedding and ripped it. To me that shows how mean you were to her on one of the most important days of her life. What made you want to try on her dress if you are much larger than her? A wedding gown may look larger because of all the puffiness and layers of material but you should have know better. Geez, get psychological help to help you overcome your jealous ways.

Answer 4

Regardless of whether you're fat or not, that was a really reckless thing to do. Your sister probably put a lot of thought into getting the right dress and for you to ruin it the day before the wedding must have been very stressful for her. You can't just go and buy a new wedding dress off the shelf. You should really apologise to her for what you did.

Answer 5

You were mean for not even caring that you ripped her dress. Granted, I think wedding dresses and receptions are overrated, some people really put their heart and soul into these things. You are twice her weight, dear. You were never, ever going to fit into her dress... Why did you still continue and insist until the worst thing happened?

To tell you the truth, she deserves to be angry at you. To say "Whatever... buy another dress" and not even apologise that you ruined her dress the day before her wedding is selfish of you. She deserves an apology.

Answer 6

A day before her wedding & you ripped her wedding dress? She proberlly called you a fat pig because she was stressing about her day. I'm sure she spent weeks looking for the perfect dress. I think that your being a little insenitive all she did was called you a name you tried to ruin her wedding. I'm shocked she can find a dress that didn't need altered hours before her wedding. I think you need to apologize to your sister. It sounds to me like you were jealous of your sister.

Answer 7

Golly, what a horrid sister you have. Do you mean that she got married but is now seperated - if so I am not surprised. I hate people saying nasty things that can hurt people, as far as I can see your sister ( who incidentally is not that slim at 150lbs ) didn't deserve a nice wedding dress. What a fool your mother was to pay thousands of dollars for a dress that is worn once, marriage is not about showing off by how much your dress cost but about making a lifetime commitment to someone you love, material things are so unimportant. I wore a long, very fitted, gold lace dress with a black under petticoat, I had a fabulous gold scarf with long black fringes which was secured to my dress with deep red rosebuds, the dress cost £40.00 as did the scarf,everyone was amazed and said it was the loveliest wedding dress they had ever seen.
If I were you I wouldn't dwell on your sister's awful attitude too much, however at 300lbs you are far too heavy and you should try to lose weight for the sake of your health, there are many places, such as Weight Watchers who will help and suport you do this, they will encourage you and most certainly will never call you nasty names. If I were you I would do this without even telling your sister - won't she have a shock when she sees you losing weight ? I wish you loads of best wishes especially with your weight loss programme, keep smiling. :-)

Answer 8

Yeah, she had every right to be mad. 300 pounds vs. 150 pounds? Common sense should have told you, you wouldn't be able to fit in that dress. Sounds like you were deliberately trying to sabotage your sister's wedding. You can't just "buy another" dress that easily. Some women take months to find the perfect dress. Though she shouldn't have said such a hurtful thing to you, you should be ashamed of yourself.

Answer 9

People obviously say things in the heat of the moment. A wedding dress is something that many women cherish. This is why we have the sealed and stored or save them to be passed down to our daughters. She will eventually get over it but if you haven't given her a heartfelt apology and if you honestly don't see why she's furious then you should take some time and figure it out.

Answer 10

I know your feelings are hurt because of what your sister said to you but you should know better than to try her wedding dress on. Even if you were her size, you shouldn't try it on. It's her wedding dress and those things are very important and sentimental to people.

Answer 11

Mrs. Sunshine, what you did was very mean and spiteful. The only reason you put the dress on was because she insulted you by calling you fat. But honey there are some things that you have to accept if your fat then you are fat. YOU KNEW BETTER WHEN YOU STARTED TO PULL THAT DRESS ON THAT IT WOULDN'T IF. WHAT YOU DID, YOU DID ON PURPOSE. THIS WAS NOT AN ACCIDENT. SO STOP TRYING TO PUT THE BLAME ON YOUR SISTER. True she should not have called you out your name but WHAT HAPPENED YOU MEANT TO DO IT. you KNEW THAT DRESS WOULD NOT FIT. YOU DID THIS TO HURT YOUR SISTER!!!!!!! THE SAME WAY SHE HURT YOU. REMEMBER WHEN YOU DO WRONG IT WILL COMES BACK TO YOU THREE FOLD.