My husband is so obsessive about clean room, clean car, etc. How do my kids and I deal with this?
2006-08-20 16:36:20 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
hey girl. you have it bad. I have been through it. I am not a slob or anything. But not obsessive either. Leave him is all I can say.
Let me share my story. My fiance was so obsessive that when I cooked he stood behind me with a wet rag to wipe the splatters off the stove as they happened.
I would be in the bathroom brushing my teeth and he would stand next to the sink and poor water on my tooth paste I just spit out and would wipe up any residue while I continued to brush.
We live in an apt. We had to use a laundry mat. He would fold his dirty clothes as soon as he took them off. Since I did not fold my dirty clothes, they could not go in his basket.
Ever day after work he swept out the garage, and vacuumed the car.
Before we could leave the house, he would vacuum and dust just in case someone happened to come over later on. Even though the place was vacuumed and dusted. I did my share of cleaning. But not every day. He would fluff the couch pillows even before we left.
Since I did not fold my dirty clothes, he moved into the spare bedroom. also because I did not believe in putting on clean sheets everyday.
we could not do anything on sat afternoons, because that was his day to take out his record collection and dust all of them and listen to them to make sure they did not have scratches. I left the house on sat afternoons.
When I would do the dishes he would stand there and wipe up any water that got on the counter.
I asked him why he did all these stupid things. He said they were not stupid and that he was a very neat person who wanted everything clean.
He said if I cared I would fold my dirty laundy before we went to the laundry matt. he said he was embarrassed to go to the laundry matt with me because i walked in with my clothes not folded.
I feel sorry for you...I know what it is like. I can say we split up. I was six months pregnant and he had enough and walked out. He had enough of my life style. I was far from a pig. I did the dishes after everymeal.. and yes he would double check them to make sure they were clean....
then i would say fine.... you do all the house work and when I get home from work you can do everything.
I am not sure telling you to walk out is the best thing. But people who are obessive about cleaning have issues. This is funny. My mother was the exact same way as my fiance was....strange isnt it how I walked right into that situation....and maybe is that is why I was a bit more relaxed about the cleaning....
Good luck....
2006-08-20 16:58:08 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Overreaction im sure he wont kill you in your sleep with a knife for missing a spot of dust F**K thats a stupid peice of advice She has a family with him you should show suport for him and maybe sugest a shrink or something. If that Fails walk mud all over the house everytime he cleans it and make him get used to a little dirt.
2006-08-20 23:43:13 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
His OCD issues will start affecting the entire family and causing stress. Many people with OCD have to "do their thing" to reduce their anxiety level. Sometimes therapy and meds can control it.
Some people a hard time sorting out what's important in life and what's not. If he has a full-fledged OCD disorder - he will need treatment.
There is no reason why your family should suffer - so evaluate your options and seek advice yourself if he won't help himself.
2006-08-20 23:42:32 · answer #3 · answered by Lake Lover 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The one who does the cleaning has the right to be obsessive. If its you, then tell him to do it if he can do it better. If it is him, then rejoice that you have an obsessively clean house and car.
2006-08-21 02:53:59 · answer #4 · answered by AveGirl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he needs to get help. I simply don't know how you keep young kids from creating messes.
You could suggest that if he is so offended by the mess that he should clean it up because it doesn't bother you at all.
2006-08-20 23:42:30 · answer #5 · answered by Ellen J 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Before u married him u know that he was like that. So, u need to keep things clean but not like crazy clean he need to clean too not just u and ur child.
2006-08-20 23:47:07 · answer #6 · answered by sazzybmt 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seek some kind of help for him either through therapy or medication.Nothing wrong to have a good husband like yours.
2006-08-20 23:44:54 · answer #7 · answered by Joe P 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call Dr. Phil
2006-08-20 23:43:01 · answer #8 · answered by treasuregirl66 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get out... people like that have problems. what happens if u dont clean the way he wants u to... could be a really bad situation..
2006-08-20 23:41:07 · answer #9 · answered by pubcook69 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Cleanup.
2006-08-21 00:33:42 · answer #10 · answered by westy_hard 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋