My ex-bf wouldn't pick up his phone and talk to me. Isn't this really mean?

Question

We were in a long distance relationship but for the past 8 months, it worked out fine. We are both college students so we just spent our summer together at my place. It's the 1st time we lived together, but everything seemed perfect.

He left on Aug 4th to spend 2 weeks with his family. We talked on 7th(b/c it takes 2 days for him to drive back to his family), everything sounded pretty normal. And then he stopped calling for one week and totally ignored my calls. Until 12th, he called saying"he doesn't think it's working out". I cried for 2 hours over the phone and finally he said let him think about it. On 13th he called again, saying "we need to take things slow, maybe as friends or something."

Then I took some advice from this website and didn't call him for a whole week until today. But he still wouldn't pick up the phone and totally ignored me. Is this really mean? I just can't figure out why since he's a nice guy and has been super super nice to me until these 2 weeks ago.

Answer 1

How do you know he ignoring you, perhaps he isn't there

But if he is, and is ignoring you, you just have to walk away, he just doesnt have the balls to tell you it is over. Perhaps he has found someone else, sounds like it unfortunately, but even though it may seem a bit hopeless now, life gets better, believe me I speak and many others here speak from bitter experience.

It is quite amazing and sad how mean people can be when answering questions on this website, ignore them.

Answer 2

I did the long distance relationship thing, and to be honest, t dosn't always have a fairy tale ending. We madly loved eachother, but it was just too much.

I'd say Don't push your luck, if he wants you, he'll come to you. You've proven that you still care (phone calls and such) give him time to figure what he wants. Stop trying to get a hold of him untill he tries to contact you. the more you try the more it might seem to him that it's not working. (it sounds wierd but trust me) He needs time and space so let him have it.

It's not all that mean, LDR's are Very difficult on both parties. He's probably just going through a hard bit with it. Wait till he wants to contact you. give it at least another week. He just needs time to figure what he wants.

Answer 3

Yes he sounds like a nice guy who is sensitive to your needs but does not like confrontation. It seems he wants to end this relationship, you cant make him be in it but he was influenced by your tears. As a result of your tears he committed himself to you as a friend did you notice not a lover. As for not answering his phone my bet is he does not want to be manipulated by your tears and committ himself further into something he does not want. It is perhaps best to accept what is happening as opposed to reconciling and breaking up later as he does not sound over committed to the relationship at the level you want it. It seems he does not want to hurt you further. Accept it and move on, long distance relationships sometimes appear to work out as there is no real commitment to the relationship although they are hard, seems he tried and did not like the real thing even tho he did not give it much of a go. You are a worthy person find someone who can be a bit more honest with you

Answer 4

I had the exact same thing happen to me a couple of years ago...it's really hard, and it took me almost a year to get over it, but it got alot easier! I know this is not what you want to hear, but he's just doing what he feels he has to do...even if it's totally insensitive! I promise you that, in time, you'll realize that it wasn't meant to be, but try not to sit around and think "maybe he'll come back to me?!?", because even if it might happen, you're wasting your perfectly good life!! Go out and have fun and get your mind off things.

Answer 5

you're having hardship getting by ability of for your ex about something per chance that has to do with funds or the dishonest situation? per chance it truly is telling you that both your mom is putting something on you or that you imagine in case you've been your mom, you may want to pay this, and picture that it truly is more beneficial major. base line, someone or some difficulty concerning your ex or mom is putting good calls for on you.

Answer 6

There may be several things going on. He may be seeing something else. Not saying its another person (although it could be) but maybe he doesn't think he can be so serious right now. He may see you as needy! You need him more than he can be avalible to you. That can be very trying on a man. (so Ive heard) Who knows... but the one thing I can say is you need to get yourself togeather and do something new....to get your mind off of this guy!

Answer 7

Sounds like his family may have had some thing to do with his mind change. Maybe they told him to focus more on his education etc.....
If he truely loves you he will come around. Until then try to keep your mind occupied on other things. Good luck!

Answer 8

I believe the words "get lost" are coming into play here since he is ignoring you and not even attempting to contact you even when he knows you tried to contact him. He just doesn't have the balls to tell you in person. If he doesn't contact you soon in the future then I would consider your words "ex-bf" to be taken to heart.

Answer 9

He is trying to break up with you, with out having to be blunt and "mean."

Seriously, I am sorry, but take a hint. LD relationships rarely work at your age.

Move on with life. Find some one new, and closer!!

Answer 10

You call him your "ex B/f". Accept this, hard as it seems when things may remind you of him at times. Above all, don't get desperate. You have many years to learn and to love.
Rose P.