I went on a 1st date with a nice guy. We had dinner and then went to see a movie. Everything was great so far. When we got to the movies he tried to put his arm around my shoulder and moved away from him a little to show him that I was uncomfortable. Then he hold my hand for a while but I move my hand away from him. I like the guy but it was our first date and I did not feel comfortable around him yet. I don't know if he is going to think that I don't like him ??? Help. The next day I sent him a text message thanking him and telling him I had a nice time. why he is not calling after four days??
do you think he doesn't like me??
2006-08-20 16:22:59 · 33 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He moved too quick before you're showing your feel about him...Excuse me. I guessed he was thinking one thing...S
2006-08-20 16:28:36 · answer #1 · answered by Mimi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he hasn't called because you dissed him, that's why. Putting an arm around a shoulder and holding hands is no big deal, unless you're 12 or something. Just chill out, and if you don't feel comfortable around him maybe you shouldn't be dating. Try being friends first. He probably thinks YOU don't like HIM by the way you acted.
2006-08-20 16:28:37 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are acting like a old fashion boring woman. Women need to stop this first date, second date BS. If you like someone let them know and you didn't do that. You were more concerned about some rules and regulations of a first date well you lose. He will not call because he got the message you were not interested.
2006-08-20 16:31:40 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a tough one. If it was me (the guy), I would feel a little embarrassed if I tried to put my arm around a girl and she pulled away. Maybe he feels like you don't like him or maybe he is a little hesitant to call you back, since he made you feel uncomfortable. Try calling and telling him that you just weren't comfortable holding hands or whatever, but you would like to see him again.
2006-08-20 16:31:38 · answer #4 · answered by DIRT MCGIRT 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't concern yourself with him any longer. I think he had something planned in particular for that first date that he wasn't able to accomplish. (I think you know what I mean.) It was only a first date. If the guy doesn't respect your actions, I wouldn't consider it a great loss.
Who knows? Maybe, he has been busy for the last four days.
Otherwise, there are plenty of fish in the sea. Don't allow your mood to be spoiled after one bad catch...
Best wishes!
2006-08-20 16:31:22 · answer #5 · answered by Oklahoman 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it might not be that he doesnt like u, just that he thinks u are not interested in him cuz u moved away and stuff. If u wanna fix it try to be a little closer with him, and maybe u can lean on his shoulder or something like dat so he can feel that u like him. Also, when u c him or call him tell him your sorry about wat happened and tell him u like him and u just dont like doing those stuff on the first date. Good luck with him. If u have any other ?s with guys or sumthing, then go ahead and emal me at rockguitarj@verizon.net. Please email me back rite after u read this, to tell me how my advice was. Please....thnx and good luck with him.
2006-08-20 16:33:14 · answer #6 · answered by rockguitarj@verizon.net 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For a first date his conduct was a bit much. Whether he's been poorly trained, or has little dating experience, or just a bit clueless, I don't know...but consider your first date as maybe his first introduction to the real world of dating etiquette. If he doesn't call, you haven't lost much. Because if he doesn't respond to the subtle training you provided to him, he's not likely to respond in a positive fashion to more down the road.
2006-08-20 16:30:06 · answer #7 · answered by nothing 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well other than slapping his face how more negative could you have been?
call him for dinner you were really weird and negative, there is a chance that he has figured out if your like that about a cuddle getting into bed with you will take too long for the time invested.
personally i would write you off as probably having to many hang ups to be any good in bed.
But if your interested call him take him to dinner, you owe him big
2006-08-20 16:31:25 · answer #8 · answered by brinlarrr 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he was after something more than dinner and a movie. When you backed off on the affection, he knew then you weren't easy. I would say move on if he doesn't call you or e-mail you anymore.
2006-08-20 16:30:13 · answer #9 · answered by blaze 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
cuz you dissed him. A first date deserves those simple little things, he thinks your not into him ,tell him you were confused and you really do like him or else ba bye.. btw how old are you, if over 15 a peck on the cheek is mandetory, at least for a prude, for a first date. srry im realllly old, 34, but still young at heart.
2006-08-20 16:33:49 · answer #10 · answered by Patrick Bateman 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No prob not besides he was testing you if your the type that is easy to get in bed with thats something I would have done back in the days lol good luck find someone else for guys like us that try to make the moves to fast its because we are expecting for something to happen get my point.
2006-08-20 16:29:34 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋