Why don't most women like porn? Won't they learn something?

Question

Shouldn't they watch some in order to learn some things? Maybe less guys would cheat if the woman was better and wilder in bed? Same with guys. We can all learn!

Answer 1

IMO, being told you don't like something and that it degrades you, makes you more likely to dislike it. The reality, of course, is that not all porn is the same, so I'd say it is a mistake to write all of it off. Some of it is indeed extremely sexist but I've seen plenty that isn't (and plenty more that is in some ways but has elements that actually aren't). There is sexism in all manner of institutions and areas of life and, personally, I'd rather be tackling incidences of it directly rather than making a bogeyman of any material that is purely designed to get people off.

I know lots of women who like porn (or, rather, have individual preferences and like *some* porn). However, there are, as you say, women -and men- who don't and I don't see any reason why they should watch it if it's not their thing or they object to it. There's plenty of other ways of learning how to be a good lover (eg talking to to friends, books etc). Porn is not compulsory!

NB: I disagree with the view that liking porn (any porn) is an automatic sign that a woman is an abuse victim and/or brainwashed or submissive. What if she identifies with a dominant character? (Not that she should necessarily have to.) What if she's w**king alone? (No-one to submit to surely?) And, in any case, can we honestly say that *all* porn depicts women in the same way?

Answer 2

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Answer 3

Well unfortunately almost all porn is made for man, plus is not real sex. Woman are treated like sexual objects, there is not love (that is obvious), not even passion or desire.

Why do you think there is not kissing or touching. It is only the balls to the mouth, to the vagina or to the butt and a very few clitoral stimulation. You will hear a lot of "Oh yeah" and another stuff, nothing engaging. (Don't you like your girlfriend calling out your name while you guys are on it) This is just involving different amounts of people, the same or different genders.

The message of most of the porn is: "Hey I am a champion I f*** this b****(s), and she (they) like it because I am good"
I agree with you it will teach you the mechanisms, but will not motivate you to follow it.

I do watch porn, (quite a lot as you can see it)and I have been turn on, off or totally disgusted by it. I like the ones that have that have real couples on it. This is what you guys might called the cheesy ones. But seriously it is a real turn on to see desire and passion of both partners, once that is taken care off, I can see wild things. If that happen I guarantee it will rate higher than the most hardcore videos.

Sex involves all body, heart, mind and soul. Therefore why not improve porn, or at least have more of the type that a woman will watch. It does not mean it will be less wild, it will add more spice to the wilderess. Some couples might not agree to expose their sexual lives, but we can learn from those who are willing.

Answer 4

Women don't like it because it is degrading and violent and promotes degradation and violence. Men who view porn think of and treat their SOs the same way as these "actresses"
Women who have been sexually abused and or brainwashed or who are extremely submissive fool themselves into thinking they like it.

If porn is a learning tool why don't men know anything about pleasing women?

Guys would/did cheat just as much without porn. They are encouraged to do so by their buddies, the media and testosterone. Human beings were not made to be monogamous. Women just have more to loose by NOT being monogamous, children's parentage, security all due to a patriarchal society. Plus women have been brainwashed with the Prince Charming on a white horse fantasy since early childhood.

Answer 5

Unlike Men, who are aroused by seeing sexual situations and nudity, women are more aroused by romance which is not really what porn offers. As far as learning to be wilder in bed, I am not sure that would really keep anyone from cheating, but if someone was interested in learning new tricks for whatever reason, wathing pron would probably not be the way to do that.

Answer 6

I think that is a broad generalization. Most younger girls don't like it cause they are insecure or some women just don't get turned on visually. Regardless, being good in bed has to do with personal ability or desire for experimentation. I don't think a porn can teach that.

Answer 7

I think it's just the fact that porn isn't for everyone and peoples opinion of porn too stops them from watching it. Some people like porn some don't simple as that.

Answer 8

I know my friend hates it just because she doesn't want to see other girls performing sexual things on a man. However I LOVE watching it. Some are pretty humorous and other you do learn some things. My all time favorite is One Night in Paris :)

Answer 9

I watch it a fair bit. And I agree with what you're saying, sometimes it is for research purposes. It might give me some good suggestions so that I don't have to sleep with a million men to find those out. My boyfriend and I watch it together. He likes that idea, means he doesn't have to put much effort into foreplay!

Answer 10

Because most porn is made to please men. Very little porn shows the kid of stuff that women want to see to be tittilated. Instead it shows men pounding on hairless vaginas for ridiculous amounts of time. Porn usually turns me waaaaay off.

Porn isn't real sex; it's fake sex. There's nothing to learn from it if it doesn't show the kind of sex you want to have.