I met a very nice, smart, funny, well mannered guy. But, he's just not physically my type (and he has some opinions that I disagree with strongly). I enjoy hanging out with him,we have fun and I like the attention. He wants to take me out on a "date" date. He's made it clear that he doesn't expect anything from me, and I've told him that I'm not ready to be a girlfriend to anyone. If I let him take me out, am I leading him on? I don't want to be mean, or hurt anyone.
Thanks in advance for your honest advice.
Flamingo
2006-08-20 16:19:17 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I just got out of a long term relationship with a harsh break up.....so it's nice to have a male friend.
2006-08-20 16:20:07 · update #1
Um, my ex left me. I had an engagement ring on my finger....don't f-ing talk to me about commitment.
2006-08-20 16:27:05 · update #2
Just do it! You never know where things could take you!!! Talk to him about the issues that you don't agree with and you never know! You might have someone you are totally falling for right under your nose!
My now husband and I played this game for a while....and after 4 years of dating, and now 2 years of being together we are very happy. I wasnt physically attracted to him at first, but he grew on me. I love him more than anything now....
So go ahead, and take a chance.....
As long as you've told him that youre not interested and he isnt either....then what do you have to lose? It might turn into something more that neither one of you expected!
2006-08-20 16:30:29 · answer #1 · answered by Jenna D 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am currently in a similar situation. The woman I'm pursuing just got out of a harmful relationship, and does not trust guys for any reason. She told me she just wants to stay friends for now, which is fine for me, because I will stick around. I too, am a funny, charismatic, and well mannered guy, but if you feel like you don't have any chemistry with someone, then you are only lying to yourself. When the truth surfaces, you will both end up hurt. The best thing to do, if you can see yourself with this guy in the future, is to maintain a good friendship with him, because chivalrous and respectful men are hard to come by these days.
2006-08-20 23:40:13 · answer #2 · answered by Butterball 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you let him take you on a "date" date then yes you are. He will think you are warming up to the idea of him as more than a guy friend. So go out together dutch treat. Then it is a date with no expectations, and you aren't giving him the wrong impression. Your going out a buds, not man and woman.
2006-08-20 23:28:00 · answer #3 · answered by songbird092962 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
of course you are leading him on and the part he doesn't expect anything form you is a lie that is his way of break the ice guys don't say hey can i date u and have sex with u of course not u have to be nice first and girls know that.
e.g your going out with him every time he ask you out i think he wants to be more than friends and I think you know that too and still you act like you r the victim in the situation
2006-08-20 23:30:47 · answer #4 · answered by Ka-El 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
So why arn't you ready? And why isn't he your type? So you just recvently left a long term, that maybe you should't have. So what? It's senseless to be a coward and never commit, for the rest of your life. Stop playing the stubborn defiant coward, and open your mind to commitement, for once.
2006-08-20 23:25:51 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well to not lead him on tell him before you agree to go out that you just like him as a friend before going out with him when he asks. See if he's cool about it and if he still wants to hang out after you tell him that then you wouldn't be leading him on he knows now.
2006-08-20 23:24:56 · answer #6 · answered by hearts99992000 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As long as you told him what your expectations are I dont think you are leading him on.
2006-08-20 23:23:55 · answer #7 · answered by Bugs Malone 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In your state of mind, you shouldn't be dating anyone. You are a danger to anyone who happens to be male. Please, stay away from me!
2006-08-20 23:30:34 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋