SEX....... i need someones advice?

Question

well i just recently broke up with my girlfriend last week... i have recently found a new girlfriend... i have know this new GF for all my life allmost...problem is that she has had many bf's in the last 4-5 years.. all sexually active.. me on the other hand.. i have had one partner... the new girlfriend talks about how good her sex was and etc...i would like to know what i should do.. im not sure if i can give her what she wants..... we have been toghether for a week or so...


thanks for any help :)

Answer 1

First of all, before I answer your qeustion, I think it's a red flag that she openly talks about sex with past boyfriends. Talking about sex itself is one thing but mentioning actual people and details can be damaging to a relationship - maybe not now but certainly later down the road. It's not fair to "compare" you to anybody, she should care about you for YOU - comparisons made for any reason (sexual, emotional, physical, etc.) can really hurt someone's image because you'll never measure up to a certain person. That's because you are YOU and unique at that.

So I would ask her to refrain from who did what best and how she did it. It's disrespectful to you. You should also talk with her about comittment and just how she sees the two of you. Might save you some heartache in the future. If your at a different stage of sexual maturity or desire than she is, does she care enough about you to stay faithful or not?? Just something to think about.

Also important to have the all-important chat about safe sex. STD's... birth control... and so forth. Talk NOW so it doesn't become a problem LATER.

Now then - as for sex between the two of you?? The best answer is... whatever makes both of you happy. There are certain things that lots of guys and gals like but not everyone. Communicate with your partner. If you like a particular thing or want to try something, then tell her. Likewise, be open to suggestions from her and be willing to give something new a shot.

Women also respond to things that feel good in many of the obvious ways; if you try something and she is smiling, moaning (in a good way), telling you how good it feels, or sometimes just screaming (also in a good way!) then I'd say your doing something right.

Take time, get to know each others turn on's and turn off's. Sounds like she can probably teach you a few things and there's nothing wrong with that as long as it's done with love.

The whole point of sex isn't just physical pleasure but also to bring two people close together. So just make sure you have the right kind of girl before taking that next step.

Sorry if this is long - I just want you to be informed and be safe (physically and emotionally) so you can have a happy and fufilling relationship. Good luck, dear. :)

Answer 2

obviously you are feeling inferior in this relationship regarding your sexual ability compared to your girl friend and her experience having had more partners than you however when we enter a relationship we all bring something into it. Whilst she may be more sexually experienced and says who anyway as great sexual performance with true meaning can really only be found in long term relationships. You bring commitment, tolerance and respect into a relationship something she may not have experienced in her many short relationships. Whilst she boasts how great the sex was you must acknowledge that is a very small part of a long term relationship. What about communication etc, the relationships she has had in the past could not have been too great on the whole as it seems no one has stuck around. Don't feel inferior you have great long term experience to bring into this relationship. Move slowly you have only just ended a relationship, you need time to resolve any issues and feelings from this. If you are already feeling inadequate re this new relationship then how you going to feel in the future. sounds to me like you are a committing guy, if you are reading more into this new relationship take a look, someone preoccupied with past sexual experiences as opposed to the true meaning of a long term relationship is not likely to be around for a long time. "If this OK with you then enjoy the moment, if not then be warned

Answer 3

Sex just messes everything up dude. I dated my best friend, we were active and then broke up after 2 years. Now everything is hell, because i lost my girlfriend and best friend. We are in the same peer group,so we see eachother every day still and its really weird-i almost hate her. Make sure that you and her are commited and know and understand the consequences before having sex. And she's probably just saying all of the things about her past experiences to make you jealous. Dont worry about it and dont buy into it. Just be natural and take things as they come. IF you dont think you and her should have sex, tell her so. If she doesnt comply and agree then you and her arent meant to be together romantically...she'll probably understand though if you've known eachother so long. Dont worry about it, if sex rears its head and you arent ready-then just say no. simple as that.

Answer 4

First: Why would you want to go out with a Ho?
Second: If you do, bloody well make sure you wear a condom, preferably two. Someone that's been so active, I don't know, I would drop her like a hot stone.
Third: If you're anxious about your night of sex, it probably won't make her happy. And she'll move on to another one.
Fourth: Tell her that you're not ready for this relationship and good riddance.

Answer 5

The chances are that you will be the more experienced, it takes time to get to know what women want and you have had 5 years,
Relax Studley you know where all the right buttons are in the dark.

Her last boyfriends couldn't have been that good either or they would probably still be around.

Take your time anyway - the word rebound springs to mind.

Answer 6

Let her know that her conversation regarding her sex life with her exes is inappropriate. Let her know that you would like to discuss both of your sexual likes and dislikes, but tell her you are not the last man or the ones before that. Also, let her know that before you were lovers you were friends, but now the relationship//friendship is on a different level (even the conversation).

Answer 7

I question people that "brag" about their sex life.

You should both be tested for STD's before you have sex with her but how many partners she's had is none of your business.

All women do not have the same "turn-on" buttons. If after her bragging you still want to be with this girl you will learn what she likes.

Answer 8

Well, I wouldn't put much thought into it cause if this doesn't work out you were kind of on the rebound. A true lady never kisses and tells, unless of course she mentions the sex just sucked and then and only then is this acceptable. No one like to be compared to. And if she is smart she will realize if you are worth it that is, that no one compares to you!

Answer 9

maybe those other gusy werent even that good..just cuz u been with one dont mean ur bad either..i mean i only been with my one gf and its how much u do it and how good u get..im not brraggin but i can give her a orgasm pretty much when i feel like im up to it. dont think about those other guys jsut do what u do.

and whats wrong with ur girl if shes telling u how could the sex was with those other guys?? u need to get her in check

Answer 10

Just let her teach you all she knows. A lady likes to be in control when she is in bed with her man. Just asked her what she likes. Don't be afraid to ask her what she wants. Or just come out and tell her how you feel. Either way you are a winner. She can show you all she knows and you will might like it.