my sister knew I was feeling this boy for long time and all of a sudden saturday night she had sex with him and she didn't tell me I had to find out from someone she told at church. that really hurt and she still has't said anything and this just happened this weekend so I am really hurt because of this.
2006-08-20 15:49:21 · 45 answers · asked by kendraym 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Well, I think that this is breaking some social code: To have sex with the boy she knows that you like and would like to date. I understand that you have not spoken to her about it yet - and of course not him either as you are not going out with him.
Theoretically she didn't actually do anything wrong. You are not dating this guy, you "like" him. You have "liked" him for a long time. How come you haven't made a pass at him? For how long have you "liked" him? She might have thought: "Well, if she likes him - why doesn't she move on - make a pass? Maybe she is not interested in this guy anymore...." before she did what she did.
On the other side, you have assumed (and I think it is quite common to assume) that as you have stated the fact that you "like" him, this will make him "yours" - at least in how your friends do their act. (And sister is closer than friends even).
I understand that you are hurt. Nevertheless, it occurs to me that since you have not made a move towards this guy in order to make him notice you and preferably see you - you probably can't expect that your friends keeps their fingers off of him. (But your sister!) If you should talk to her or not - I don't know, but if I was you (I'm not) I'd get over him and move on. He's not for you anylonger. There are other nice guys to look for. And when you find someone - make sure you make a pass, or that you keep your mouth shut for a while if you don't dare to make the pass...
Good luck and best wishes.
2006-08-21 03:47:14 · answer #1 · answered by IfYouSeeKay 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a hurting feeling when some one disregards your feelings especially when it is family. Talk to your sister and find out the truth when something does not sit right with you ask questions. Then forgive your trifling sister forget about the guy and move on now that your sister has shown you what she is capable of never forget this lesson the more you live the more people will show you who they are.
2006-08-28 15:49:28 · answer #2 · answered by Eisha 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok kendraym! This feels like a Jerry Springer moment to me! And you found out this information at a church? Ok I hope I'm not visiting the trailer park because I don't like those places! LOL! LMAO! Well girlfriend the only thing I can maybe advise is that you now have to find someone even more better looking then him, not tell anyone, until you get yours!
2006-08-28 09:06:44 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he knew you liked him and he pretended to be interested in you then i'd say he's trash and you could do much better. if he had no idea then don't blame him, just look at what kind of person he is to just screw your sister and be done with it. on the other hand, your sister disrespected you by sleeping with him knowing how you felt. for starters, what kind of person is she just to go out and not try to get together with him, but to just screw him and then tell somebody at church. what the hell is that. thats your sister and she should respect your feelings about it. there are so many other guys out there she could've done but she picked him. seems to me like she did it as a spite thing. anyway, honey, just find someone better than him and keep your eye on her.
2006-08-28 05:32:19 · answer #4 · answered by melanie c 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well first, you need to find out from your sister if it really has happened, you are only going by word of mouth ( even tho it was someone who attends church, doesn't mean that they are a saint and telling the truth) Ask your sister about it then react from there!!!
2006-08-28 13:40:23 · answer #5 · answered by kat 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sex on Sat and tellin' about at church on Sunday?...RoTFL...pardon me...that is kinda creepy funny...
ANYway...if you only liked the person but never had a relationship with him - she really didn't do anything wrong in my book..sister or no sister...she SHOULD have thought about it maybe and refrained from ..ummm doing the deed with this guy until talking to you first ...maybe...but not necessarily...BUT ...sounds like all it was to me was a fly by night thang...maybe a few too many drinks and a lil sex to chase it with....ewww..nuttin' special THERE anyway....Move on...but doubtful your sister ever intended on hurting you...sounds like one of those stupid "it just happened" moments that she probably wishes never did. Cut her a break and cut him out completely...he doesn't sound like no kinda prize to me.
2006-08-28 10:20:18 · answer #6 · answered by svmainus 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Before it happened with your husband (which is what happened to me) you learned that your sister is a rat, a fink, and not to be trusted.
As hard as it is, please don't confide in her ever again. This isn't something she'll 'grow out of' or overcome. She is putting out her sexuality as a way to be superior to you, and you cannot trump that without debasing yourself, so let her alone in her stupid bid for being on top.
If I were you, I'd work hard at school to get a good education. Maybe you can get a scholarship at a far away college and be a person outside your sister's area of influence. And don't invite her to your new world, either.
2006-08-27 06:13:31 · answer #7 · answered by nora22000 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all it is really sad that your sister would do something like that to you. Second, she was telling someone at CHURCH she had sex with a guy?! Now that is just not right...
Honestly, I don't know what to say about this.
2006-08-28 08:13:11 · answer #8 · answered by .Just.Another.Female. 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have not been women enough to go up to the man and let him know how you were feeling him then you have noone to blame but yourself if he ain 't feelin you and he s diggin on ur sister then he did what he needed to do I can't believe the simple fact that u like him makes u think u own him i like gwen stefani but hey i don t hold resentment to gavin her hubby and even if my bro was bonin gwen i would nt be mad i d prolly wanna know the details tho lol
2006-08-25 05:42:22 · answer #9 · answered by glass_city_hustla 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a bit of nasty..a sister sleeping with someone she knew you liked.. what kind of church do you go to where they discuss Their Saturday Night Sexual Escapades?
Be that as it may.. I'd ask her about it.. what else can you do? Maybe the oh so Holy Church Goer is a liar..ha ha the devil made them do it~~~~~~~!!!!
2006-08-28 14:43:33 · answer #10 · answered by neelyohara2004 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋