This girl is so much to me. I would really aprreciate an honest answer, true answer, thanks.?

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Okay, here is the situation. This girl i like is 13. I'm 15. She used to be all over me, i mean, we would always do everything together, and we would stay up really late at night, and talk every night. Well anyways, people started talking about it, and she really backed off. So I asked her out, she said I dont know. I thought it was a nice way of saying no, but she told her friends she might like me. Well it's been about 2 months now, and she has completely backed off. I mean she recently got back from Costa Rica, and we hasn't even talked since, and she got back on Sunday. And rumor has it that while there, she was all over these two guys in my youth, just like she used to be with me. Well now her friends say she dont like me at all, and just dont wanna hurt my feelings. But her and her mom are really close, and her mom says she's just scared, and cant decide between me and these other guys. But she says she duz like me. What should I think. I mean i just cant move on.




I mean i've liked and many girls, but none like her. There is just something about her, and I know I sound crazy since I'm only 15, but i'm being dead honest. I would do ANYTHING to get her back, will she come back around? And what should I do? I mean because, it was obvious she liked me, she even sent me a song one time, and I think she was trying to say something to the effect that she likes me, just doesnt know what to do. But i missed the point. Well now it seems she has lost those feelings, for no apparent reason, so what should i do to get her back??


I mean, she has barely talked to me. It seems like she is trying to avoid me. But i have no clue why. Should I ask her. I mean, she could be mad because, I havent talked to her. But i dont wanna pressure her. Because today, her mom told me, that if I really like someone else, I should move on. But that if I really like her daughter, I should be patient. What should i do??

Answer 1

Dude... she's just not that into you.

Seriously, if you start spending this much effort and energy worrying over some girl, all other aspects of your life are going to suffer. If you're like this NOW when you're not even dating her, how much more stressful and nerve-wracking are you going to be if you actually started to go out?

I say back off, spend more time and energy on school and friends, and what will be will be. It's too early to be getting this emotionally tied to someone and it's not healthy for you. You're at an age where you should be enjoying your freedom, having lots of friends, meeting lots of girls and getting to know them, figuring out what you like, don't like. But too young to settle down.

This is taking up too much of your time. I'd cool it and release yourself from this emotional prison you seem to be in.

Answer 2

I'd go with her mom on this one. A lot of people get nervous at the idea of a relationship because they don't want to get hurt. Also, she might want to keep her options open for the other guys, even though she likes you. This could be a mistake on her part, since you seem like a great guy. But I wouldn't hold it against her- she's only thirteen so she's probably not too experienced with relationships (at least, I hope not).

Call her and talk to her, just as friends. Ask her how her summer was, what she did in Costa Rica, etc. Don't immediately talk about how much you like her- she's already nervous and you don't want to scare her. But when you get comfortable talking to her (or even better, if you spend some time with her ALONE in person) tell her how much you care about her. Tell her you really want to be her boyfriend because she means a lot to you. But also explain that if she isn't ready for a relationship with you now, you're willing to just be friends for a while. Then- here's the important part- if she doesn't want to be your girlfriend, really do just be friends with her. Make every effort to back off- otherwise she'll just feel like you're a stalker. Make sure she knows that she can take her time deciding. In the meantime, if you want to have some flings with other girls, I think it's okay (though you may not want to). Hopefully, she'll soon realize what she's missing out on and go for you. Good luck getting the girl! :)

Answer 3

wow, you must really like her eh? Well love heres the deal. If you love someone I dont think you should give up on her. I mean your young, so alot of the time, relationships arnt really all that serious. But being her age she probably is just curious about other guys and wants to look around, which might be why she wasnt quick to take you up when you asked her out. She might just need some time. Some time, to well think things up. I know that it must be killing you inside, just waiting for something from this girl. But give it some time, and if it doesnt work out, im sure that there is someone out there just waiting to meet you. You sound like a real good guy, and I dont want you to give up on her just because it is taking a little while. Give it some time. Who knows, if this is the one for you. Im a firm beleiver that things happen for a reason, and that if this isnt the girl for you, that one day you will find the one for you. Dont worry yourself too much. Time will tell her true feelings.Kepp strong, hold on tight and keep your chin up. All the luck for ya. I will keep you in my prayers.

Answer 4

wow you are stuck in a rut!! im so very sorry. Heres the thing. I did the same thing to a guy.
When a girl is 13 she probly isnt that into guys. Of coarse she will try to be, but she isnt. She likes the chase and getting people until they like her back..
Her mom.. now thats the confusing part. Maybe her daughter hasnt told her what she thought, maybe its the truth. But instead of waiting for this girl to call you. Maybe you should call her and get it straight from her instead of her friends. Talking to her will be akward but its better than waiting. Time is your problem as of right now...

good luck. I hope all goes well for you. Also try finding someone else too. even if it is just another girl- friend.

good luck again. =]

Answer 5

Tell her what you are feeling. Tell her that you miss talking with her, and that you have genuine feelings for her. Ask her how she feels about you, if you did something to turn her off cause you feel like she's avoiding you (she might not see that she is, she could be doing it unintentioanlly). If she says that she doesn't know, tell her that you can't wait anymore, cause its killing you to see her and not be close with her, especailly cause you have feelings for her, and she's off talking and flirting with other guys. You either need some closure to move on, or you need her to say yes to fulfill all that you are hoping for, the only way to do that is to talk with her. If you can be open and honest with her now, and you two do get together, I think you will have a really great relationship with one another.
Good luck and all the best!

Answer 6

Move on. There's alot of difference from 13 to 15, and she's too young to know what she wants.

It sounds like her mother really approves of you and would like to see you stay in the picture, but it isn't fair to ask you to "be patient". I think two months is already being as patient as you need to be. You may not like it, but you have your answer. If she has trouble "deciding between" you and some other boys, then I wouldn't just hang by a thread while she's making her crucial "decision".

Go out with girls your own age and who are more mature than someone who is just 13. It sounds like you don't enjoy playing games...there are plenty of girls out there who are like you - they don't beat around the bush either. I know you really like this girl, but trust me. She's only one in what will probably be a long line of girls you like before you finally settle down, so learn the lessons, don't be bitter, and get on with your life.

You have alot to offer. Don't get dead-ended like this.

Answer 7

At 13, girls pretty much don't know what they want. She must've liked u before, but as she meets new people and experience life , it opens her mind up, maybe she was hurt that u were clueless of what she's trying to tell u when she sent u that song, that's why she now barely talks to u. I suggest that u move on, after all, there are lots of fish in the sea. :)

Answer 8

You should really talk to her...think about it...if you like her you should try and see what is going on. Ask her mom why she is so scared and then try to find time to talk to her.. I am not an expert but if she cares about you I think she should try and work it out with you. Get the confusion out of the way. I care about someone and told them how I felt and his feeling aren't the same but I am still friends...so no matter what at least talk to her as you would a friend but don't gang up on her....give her time to see you as a friend before going on to letting her know how you feel .....

Answer 9

The more you push, the further you will push her away, cool it, just ignore her, no matter how it hurts you inside, show some attention to another girl, not 3 or 4 girls, but just one, nothing heavy, with you ignoring her and paying attention to someone else, jealousy will set in and she will do a 360 right back into your arms.

Answer 10

Perhaps she is no longer interested... afterall, we are talking about a 13 year old GIRL... not a woman. Her interests might be totally different at this stage in her life. I recommend being cordial and polite and perhaps initiating conversation from time to time... but don't monopolize her time, that will certainly suffocate her. Be patient... you will learn if you have a lot in common and share similar interests. Be patient... that's what love is about.