So, im wondering if he truly cares about me Or is buttering me up for sex.
See, iv liked him for awhile and hes liked me for awhile, and I told him before i wasnt ready for a relationship and he still stuck with me, and helped me get over my fears of it so finally he asked me out and I said yes, and the other night he asked if he could go down my pants and I said no, not yet.. and He said okay sorry and wouldnt go anywhere near my private regions, and he told me its fine, if im not ready hes not rushin me. He tells all his friends that im his girlfriend and I know he talked to one of his friends for how much he likes me, and before we were even going out he introduced me to his parents, he looks me in the eyes and tells me im the most beautiful girl hes ever been with and that he loves me and cares about me and always will be there for me..
So, does he care? or is all he wanting sex??
2006-08-20 15:41:05 · 16 answers · asked by STFUbeezy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
YES if he didn't care, you would be gone and he'd be with a new person every time you turned around. And good for you for sticking to your guns. most just don't care who they sleep with anymore.
2006-08-20 15:48:23 · answer #1 · answered by Nicky K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He obviously cares about you. He hasn't tried to push you into going too far. He has introduced you to his parents, and he looks you in the eye. The eyes are the windows to the soul. I don't think he is buttering you up for sex. It doesn't seem that way to me. Not saying he won't try again. Do not have sex before you are ready. It is so much better to wait until you are an adult and can handle the consequences a sexual relationship can bring. You will never regret waiting, but you may regret having sex too soon. Good luck to you. Sounds like you have a very sweet, loving boyfriend. Now worries.
2006-08-20 15:49:55 · answer #2 · answered by sleepless in the ATL 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How long was it after you agreed to go out with him that he tried to down in your pants?
If it was short, then it sounds like he wants sex. If it was a reasonable amount of time, then he might care.
Without knowing the answer to the above question, it sounds like he cares because someone who just wants sex usually doesn't wait around very long and provide a lot of support (which he seems to have done). It might be a mix of both, too.
An answer to that question above might help you get a clearer answer, though.
2006-08-20 15:51:50 · answer #3 · answered by dpfw16 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he does care about you. Most guys in the heat of the moment will try to go down your pants (it's not good but that's life) and the fact that he stopped trying when you told him to is a good sign. It's also good that he's upfront about you to his friends and parents. But still, be careful- if you tell him you don't want to go further and he still tries to (even if he tells you that he doesn't want to rush you) it's still possible that all he wants is sex. One of my exes kept telling me it was my decision whether or not to go further, but at the same time kept asking me if I wanted to go further, and he was really pressuring me even though he tried to make it seem like he wasn't. You just have to be on the lookout for that kind of guy, I guess. But I think your guy's a good one so best wishes to you for your relationship!
2006-08-20 15:48:47 · answer #4 · answered by Blondie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
certain, i trust that 2 human beings could be in love and characteristic a effective courting, with out sex. My husband fell very sick for a protracted era of time and lets not have sex. It did not replace our love for an further in any respect...or our courting. The actual contact of purely cuddling, kissing and hugging became more effective than sufficient for us. Our marriage isn't in accordance to sex. particular, this is an excellent expression of love, even with the undeniable fact that this is not the in ordinary words one.
2016-11-30 21:59:15 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This guy cares. Just be aware, the first guy said we all want sex. That's true. So remember, the longer you stay with him, the more he will want it. Eventually, he may leave to find it elsewhere, maybe not but I've seen it many times. Be open to experiment safely. He respects you so he will be very gentle. Use communication and try to trust and not be too nervous.
2006-08-20 15:51:09 · answer #6 · answered by m-t-nest 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All guys want sex, but the only way you will ever know otherwise is to take it slow -- dont have sex just because he wants it. If he really cares about you, then he will want to spend time with you and enjoy your company.
Take it slow and only do it when you are ready and dont forget -- always use protection
2006-08-20 15:48:45 · answer #7 · answered by mama 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if he holds true to his word about waiting for you to be ready then I dont see how there is a problem. Of course, just about all guys want sex. But you will know if they truely like you if they do not rush you into it.
2006-08-20 15:49:18 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems to me from reading your question that the guy really likes you and respects your decision to wait. Try to look for the positives with this guy. It seems that you have found a good friend.
2006-08-20 15:49:58 · answer #9 · answered by Teacher 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The way you describe the relationship, it sounds like he truly cares for you. You hold out for as long as you need to, he should stick with you regardless.
2006-08-20 15:49:45 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋