If you were adopted how did you feel when you meet your birthfamily?

Question

i just spoke to them on the phone today for the first time im so scared to meet them tomorrow
How did you feel when you meet your birthfamily?

Answer 1

I personally am not adopted but my mom was. She met both sides of her birth family, with her birth mom things were too weird her mom tried to make up for lost time and still treated her as her little baby girl (essentially she acted clingy) when my mom met her birth dad she felt very comfortable and she felt she had found what she was missing... she is in contact with both sides, but she definately feels closer to her dad. I think that your birth family will never be the same as your adopted family or the same as a family you were born into and stayed with, but you should be able to form some sort of a bond. Good luck :)

Answer 2

Congratulations! I am still searching for mine. Be sure to meet them with realistic expectations. I don't know your age or your reasons for searching so I can only speak for myself. I would want to be friends with my birthfamily. I would hope to build a relationship but without excluding my adoptive family.

Answer 3

I was adopted when I was 14, so I knew my birth family beforehand. I won't go into details but I wish some of them had signed their rights away when I was younger. One still tries to call me now and I avoid him. But mine I think is probably a different situation. I think it's normal to be nervous but be realistic, too. Good luck.

Answer 4

I am not adopted, but I was raised without my father. I have mixed feelings. Some days I want to know what he looks like, if he has kids, and other day I don't really care. I think more then anything I just want to see what he looks like, and to meet my potential siblings. I would be nervous too. It's OK. Just remember that they aren't your parents, really, and that if you don't like them, you'll never have to see them again.

Answer 5

I wasadopted at birth and always knew I was adopted, it was never a secret. I always wondered where i came from or why they gave me up, but knew it was for the better. I could have never given up my kids. I wanted to know who they were for medical reasons, mainly. And to know where I came from. Maybe who I looked like. I have always wanted to know who family was so my kids would not grow up and fall in love with a relative. In our family, it has never been a secret. Although, I did not feel a bond with neither one of my biological families and have not kept in contact, they are in my prayers.And I know who they are. ?

Answer 6

I was adopted by My biological Mom's Parents [ My Grandparents ] & I knew who My Mom was all My life.

But, My Biological Dad didn't come around until I was 16 & he is a jerk

But, My biological Mom is too

Answer 7

CONGRATS!!!
I went with my ex to meet his birth mother and he was scared as well. When the day came it was very emotional. Everyone was asking questions and seeing how you all look alike. It should be fine. You are very lucky to have found them!

Answer 8

I WASN'T ADOPTED BUT MY PARENTS DIVORCED WHEN I WAS 3 YEARS OLD. I DIDN'T SEE MY DAD OR HIS FAMILY THE WHOLE TIME I WAS GROWING UP. MY DAD DIED DECEMBER 2005. I FOUND HIS SISTER ON THE INTERNET AND GOT UP THE NERVE TO WRITE HER. I FOUND OUT I HAD A GRANDMA STILL LIVING, 3 UNCLES, 3 AUNTS, AND A WHOLE LOT OF COUSINS. MY GRANDMA NEVER FORGOT ABOUT ME. IT WAS GREAT MEETING THEM ALSO. JUST BE YOURSELF. THEY WILL LOVE YOU FOR WHO YOU ARE.

Answer 9

i was happy they gave me up and waited until i was grown to meet me. I don't blame you one bit for being scared but believe me they are very scared to meet you too...it will be fine just remember just because they gave you up does not mean they didn't love you. My mother gave me up cause she did love me she knew she would not be a good mother

Answer 10

Sorry i wasn't i came out my mom ( u know what) and im still with my mom and all my other family members