What should I do?

Question

My husband is Muslim and he asked me to cover my hair when I am out in public because that is part of the religion. Now, I have not converted to his religion but, I do love him and want to make him happy. The hair covers are not that bad but, not really sure what I should do. Please advise

Answer 1

comprimise, if he does something for you, you'll do that in return

Answer 2

It's unfortunate this all wasn't worked out before you were married. Out of respect for your husband and his religion, and because you love him and want to make him happy, put aside your doubts and wear the covering. But you two really need to talk... is he expecting you to convert? Do you know in your heart if his religion is right for you? You have some serious discussions that must take place with your husband. As for that hair covering, you could compromise and always wear it in his presence while in public; if you're by yourself, it's your time to do what you want. Good luck.

Answer 3

This is a tough one. I would say to do what you feel is right first and foremost. But realize that even though you are not muslim and may not carry the same beliefs you will be portraying yourself to the outside world as a muslim. In today's society unfortunately that can lead to much hatred and discrimination. You have to decide for yourself if you are willing to take that chance. Are you willing to stand up to ridicule and possible harm for a belief system that you don't carry? Unfortunately it is not just a matter of accessorizing, it is changing the whole way you will be viewed by the outside world whether you have changed or not. Good luck.

Answer 4

Muslims do marry out of their religion sometimes. His religion is something that you are going to have to come to terms with such as converting or not because there are so many lifestyle changes that will continue to come up beyond the head covering.

Answer 5

You should have covered this question and others I'm sure before you were married.
I am afraid that you are in for a lot more surprises before long.
You should be very careful and keep yourself alert because too many things happen to women who marry muslims.

Answer 6

Well I think you made this decision when you married him, knowing he was muslim. Looks like you'll have to cover your hair.

Answer 7

My sympathies and best wishes for your successful marriage. Tell him that you are not a muslim, and that he should respect you for your sensibilities and feelings; if he chooses his myths over your feelings, show him the door - it is just not worth it. Good luck, and I really hope it works out right for you, either way.

Answer 8

I guess you need to discuss this issue with him. If he is using religion as an excuse to make you do things, you are going to start having problems.

Answer 9

If you want to cover yourself because YOU Like it - then do it.
If only he wants You to cover your hair
- don´t do it, even when you love him.
(...not only to make him "happy"..)

It is YOUR choice, not his!

If he loves You, he´ll understand it.

Greetings!

Answer 10

I think you are a liar.
Muslims do not marry non-muslims. Especially ones that are as serious about thier mythology as you say this one is.

Answer 11

Before you get sucked into that cult please read:

What does the Q'uran say about Women


1. Women have fewer rights concerning divorce (2:28) - "Divorced women shall wait concerning themselves for three monthly periods. Nor is it lawful for them to hide what Allah hath created in their wombs, if they have faith in Allah and the Last Day. And their husbands have the better right to take them back in that period, if they wish for reconciliation. And women shall have rights similar to the rights against them, according to what is equitable; but men have a degree over them. And Allah is Exalted in Power, Wise,"

2. Muslim men may marry up to four women (4:3) - "If ye fear that ye shall not be able to deal justly with the orphans, Marry women of your choice, Two or three or four; but if ye fear that ye shall not be able to deal justly, then only one, or a captive that your rights hands possess, that will be more suitable, to prevent you from doing injustice,"

3. A man's inheritance should be a portion of two females (4:11) - "Allah directs you as regards your Children's inheritance: to the male, a portion equal to that of two females: if only daughters, two or more, their share is two-thirds of the inheritance; if only one, her share is a half,"

4. It is acceptable to beat women (4:34) - "Men are the protectors and maintainers of women, because Allah has given the one more strength than the other, and because they support them from their means. Therefore the righteous women are devoutly obedient, and guard in the husband's absence what Allah would have them guard. As to those women on whose part ye fear disloyalty and ill conduct, admonish them first, then refuse to share their beds, and last beat them lightly; but if they return to obedience, seek not against them Means of annoyance: For Allah is Most High, great above you all."

5. Beautiful virgins await Muslim men in Paradise for their sensual gratification - (55:56) "In them will be Maidens, chaste, restraining their glances, whom no man or Jinn before them has touched." (56:35-38) "We have created their companions of special creation. And made them virgin pure and undefiled, - Beloved by nature, equal in age, - For the Companions of the Right Hand," (78:31-33) "Verily for the Righteous there will be a fulfillment of the heart's desires; Gardens enclosed, and grapevines, and voluptuous women of equal age,"

In the Hadith Muhammad said more women were in hell than men and that women lacked intelligence (Volume 8, Book 82, Number 794)

"Once Allah's Apostle went out to eh Musalla (to offer the prayer) o 'Id-al-adha or Al-Fitr prayer. Then he passed by the women and said, "O women! Give alms, as I have seen that the majority of the dwellers of Hell-fire were you women." they asked, "Why is it so, O Allah's Apostle?" He replied, "You curse frequently and are ungrateful to your husbands. I have not seen anyone more deficient in intelligence and religion than you. a cautious sensible man could be led astray by some of you." the women asked, "O Allah's Apostle! What is deficient in our intelligence and religion?" He said, "Is not the evidence of two women equal to the witness of one man?" They replied in the affirmative. He said, "This is the deficiency in her intelligence. Isn't it true that a woman can neither pray nor fast during her menses?" The women replied in the affirmative. He said, "This is the deficiency in her religion."

Is this something you really want to get mixed up in? I don't think Muslims respect or care for women very much, what do you think?