Okay, here is the situation. This girl i like is 13. I'm 15. She used to be all over me, i mean, we would always do everything together, and we would stay up really late at night, and talk every night. Well anyways, people started talking about it, and she really backed off. So I asked her out, she said I dont know. I thought it was a nice way of saying no, but she told her friends she might like me. Well it's been about 2 months now, and she has completely backed off. I mean she recently got back from Costa Rica, and we hasn't even talked since, and she got back on Sunday. And rumor has it that while there, she was all over these two guys in my youth, just like she used to be with me. Well now her friends say she dont like me at all, and just dont wanna hurt my feelings. But her and her mom are really close, and her mom says she's just scared, and cant decide between me and these other guys. But she says she duz like me. What should I think. I mean i just cant move on.
I mean i've liked and many girls, but none like her. There is just something about her, and I know I sound crazy since I'm only 15, but i'm being dead honest. I would do ANYTHING to get her back, will she come back around? And what should I do? I mean because, it was obvious she liked me, she even sent me a song one time, and I think she was trying to say something to the effect that she likes me, just doesnt know what to do. But i missed the point. Well now it seems she has lost those feelings, for no apparent reason, so what should i do to get her back??
I mean, she has barely talked to me. It seems like she is trying to avoid me. But i have no clue why. Should I ask her. I mean, she could be mad because, I havent talked to her. But i dont wanna pressure her. Because today, her mom told me, that if I really like someone else, I should move on. But that if I really like her daughter, I should be patient. What should i do??
2006-08-20 15:30:50 · 10 answers · asked by how many 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well dude to be totally honest with you, This girl is very young.She is going through one of those spells where she does not know what to do.At this age,she can change her mind on the drop of a dime.You have 2 choices here that you can make.The first choice is to stick around and hope that she will come around some day,which is no guarantee.You can try to talk to her and let her know that you are there for her if she needs you and hope that some day she will come around and love you for being such a nice guy to her,Also remember that girls this age will run from the fear of someone comming on too strong.They may give you the impression that they want you around all the time but then they get scared and say that you are hanging too close or some will just avoid you.
Your other choice is to move on and find someone new even though it is hard.Who knows,maybe she will see that you are not interested in her anymore and if she really loved you then maybe she will come running back to you.
I had several girlfriends in my teen years and several of them that got this same way,found out that i was with someone else and they always seemed to come running back.Some came back after i was out of school and was married and some of them that were dreams then ,well lets just say Thank god for unanswed prayers.
Keep in mind that there is a reason for everything and if you love her then set her free and if she loves you then she will come back but you cannot force her to love you.Just show her the goodness of your heart and let her decide.
good luck
2006-08-20 15:58:14 · answer #1 · answered by jlthomas75844 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, whatever she is feeling about you, being all sad and upset and following her around like a soggy puppy dog isn't going to get her back. This may sound crazy, but I think you should try to forget about her for a while. Start doing things you love to do, get really good at something, become a more talented and interesting person through developing your interests and talents. Know that you don't need a girl to be "complete". This is a real turn off, when a guy thinks he needs a girl to be "complete". They do it in the movies, but in real life, sorry - doesn't work - it is way too needy. You need to be a complete person in and of yourself. Stop following her around, stop asking her mother what she thinks, and focus on making the most of yourself that you can. Confidence and happiness attract girls. Become more confident in yourself through working on what is important to you (outside this girl), and let yourself for get her a while (so that you can be happy again). That is all you can really do. And this way, even if she decides she doesn't like you, you'll like yourself better! Someone else will be bound to notice how cool you are. Good luck!
2006-08-20 15:43:02 · answer #2 · answered by starlet_8 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow! First of all you are young, and you have plenty of time for this kind of relationship. It seems pretty intense for your young age. That said, I understand that young love can be very powerful and it hurts just as much as mature love when it doesn't work out. Keep in mind, that she is only 13. She really shouldn't be commited to one particular guy at this time. You should not tie yourself down as well. Try to move on and avoid the hurt that could be coming your way. Meet some other girls. Be friends with lots of girls. If it is meant to be, she will come around. Don't waste your time waiting...the best way to cure pain from lost love is to find someone new. Trust me it works. Good Luck.
2006-08-20 15:40:18 · answer #3 · answered by sleepless in the ATL 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Obviously you're really taken by her, you question is a mile long.
But.... she is thirteen and in my opinion a very bad girl. Be happy you're rid of her, I hope while you were doing whatever you were doing you had protected sex. Jesus son, wake up. Take her mothers advice, even she must know, how she sleeps around. You will meet a lot better and nicer girls in the future, trust me on this, ok?
Because you will! Right now concentrate on your studies until the right one comes along. What you felt is puppy love and it seems real to you right now, but 10 years from now you think back on it and realize how young you were. BE happy she's out of your life.
Have a great year and Good Luck with your life,
2006-08-20 15:41:36 · answer #4 · answered by Mightymo 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Now listen, this is a subject in life that is hard to understand, I am really busy trying to get myself started in this life but your question caught my eye, I know how it is to love someone and not know if they love you back, And don't think that just because your fifteen makes you not be so much in love you would buy the world for someone. It sounds that she likes you and it sounds that you and her have spent so much memories of laughter and love between you two, others might not see that as love but I do, It sounds that you love her not LIKE her, Remember that NO Matter what anyone says you love this girl, and her mother is right be patient with her and wait for her that will show her that you love her, give her mother a note to give to her and put in it " I love you ______ and I want you to know that every minute of the day I think about you and I remember those fun times we spent with each no matter what happens between us, know that I am going to wait for you because I love you and I have picked you as the friend the companion I wan't to spend the rest of my life with, I will wait for you and no matter what you choose I want you to remember I love you and I will always have the memories of you in my life." You can also use this as just a example if you would like, Good like my friend and let life be life and let the winds of Love flow the way they want, but remember don't give up!
Hope I helped, Good luck and whatever happens remember I will always remember you and this question, It actually made me realize I love the girl that I have and I have been lost in other stuff. Thank You for helping me as I help you! Your Friend, BlueSueder
2006-08-20 16:17:40 · answer #5 · answered by E.F. Landeros 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-26 20:37:07 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just give her space tell her it's okay if she's not ready for a relationship but you'd like to continue seeing eachother as friends.And when she gets comfortable around you again then ask if she's ready. She just got nervous because of what others would say
2006-08-20 15:38:11 · answer #7 · answered by Jessica R 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you should really say you're sorry even though you don't know why she's mad at you. and if she doesn't accept it you would just have to move on.
2006-08-20 15:37:54 · answer #8 · answered by Jobo N 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Play it cool, she'll come running.
2006-08-20 15:37:10 · answer #9 · answered by DJ Fizzy xx 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
talk to her
2006-08-20 15:37:22 · answer #10 · answered by Lola the Snake 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋