Okay, here is the situation. This girl i like is 13. I'm 15. She used to be all over me, i mean, we would always do everything together, and we would stay up really late at night, and talk every night. Well anyways, people started talking about it, and she really backed off. So I asked her out, she said I dont know. I thought it was a nice way of saying no, but she told her friends she might like me. Well it's been about 2 months now, and she has completely backed off. I mean she recently got back from Costa Rica, and we hasn't even talked since, and she got back on Sunday. And rumor has it that while there, she was all over these two guys in my youth, just like she used to be with me. Well now her friends say she dont like me at all, and just dont wanna hurt my feelings. But her and her mom are really close, and her mom says she's just scared, and cant decide between me and these other guys. But she says she duz like me. What should I think. I mean i just cant move on.
I mean i've liked and many girls, but none like her. There is just something about her, and I know I sound crazy since I'm only 15, but i'm being dead honest. I would do ANYTHING to get her back, will she come back around? And what should I do? I mean because, it was obvious she liked me, she even sent me a song one time, and I think she was trying to say something to the effect that she likes me, just doesnt know what to do. But i missed the point. Well now it seems she has lost those feelings, for no apparent reason, so what should i do to get her back??
2006-08-20 15:06:33 · 10 answers · asked by how many 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I mean, she has barely talked to me. It seems like she is trying to avoid me. But i have no clue why. Should I ask her. I mean, she could be mad because, I havent talked to her. But i dont wanna pressure her. Because today, her mom told me, that if I really like someone else, I should move on. But that if I really like her daughter, I should be patient. What should i do??
2006-08-20 15:10:06 · update #1
Oh my gosh. that is the sweetest thing that I have EVER heard. If I were you I'd just email her what you typed as your question. Just remember, she's 13, so go slow or it will really freak her out. Good luck!!
2006-08-20 15:12:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow..thats kind of weird, because i'm sort of in the same situation as you...aside from i'm 15 and i like a guy who is 18..but besides that everything seems to be pretty much the same..even the part when you said that she sent you a song as if she were trying to tell you something-the guy that i like did the same thing....
Anyways....honestly i'm not really sure what you should do... most people would probably tell you that you're still young and that there are many other people out there and one of them will be that special someone for you-well thats pretty much what people tell me and all i can say back to them is well maybe i've already met that 'special someone'...yeah, anyways here is my advice....--->..have you tried talking to her
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Good-Luck.---and let me know how it goes < Kim36xFH@yahoo.com >
2006-08-20 15:23:32 · answer #2 · answered by Kim 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, i myself being a girl also (im 15) i think that maybe she is scared.. because relationships can be a scary and stressful thing .. thats sort of why i broke up with my boyfriend. but really heres my advice: if you like her A LOT which i can tell you do : ) let her know, tell her what you are saying here! but dont make it sound like .. obsessive because girls dont like that, thats the scary part of relationships!! when guys get too obsessive about them. just let her know that you really like her and you dont want her to be scared and if she truly sincerely does not feel the same way about you back, tell her to let you know so you arent wasting your time. im sure she'll understand. dont wait around for her though because she may just feel like she wont be scared with anyone else and go date some other guy! but the truth is, its going to be a scary road with any guy because its different when you start dating, so yea thats what i would do if i were you .. confront her about it and let her know you care about her oh and be sure to tell her that youve never felt the same way about any other girl the way you do about her .. i think she'll like that, i know i would! lol so good luck bud and i hope you get the girl =]
ps. DO NOT SMOTHER HER!! give her the space she needs, she'll appreciate that, and dont be obsessive !! remember !!
2006-08-20 15:15:46 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to her face to face and ask her or a less direct approuch would be call her say hi every once and a while and make eye contact as much as possible. it may seem weird but it will tell her your still interested. 3rd choice talk to the guys she likes and ask if they feel the same way if they like her backoff and give her some time if not walk up to her and ask her out on a date or something all those should work!!!! Write me on how it went and which choice you picked at snowturtle0130@yahoo.com
2006-08-20 15:15:05 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey you dont sound crazy i am 16 and i feel the same way about a girl just try to hang with her as much as you can I dont mean to be rude but it would help to learn who all she talks to on the phone just to see but just try to get her to like u more trust me it will work u may even try askin her out agian and tell her this is your final chance but i dont want to be mean about it so just use some of this to try it and email me back if u try it my email is d6g007@yahoo.com
2006-08-20 15:14:38 · answer #5 · answered by d6g007 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's just immature. She's only 13 and probably can't deal with having a boyfriend. Give her time to grow up she may come around.
2006-08-20 15:13:15 · answer #6 · answered by cindos_69 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can try and talk to her and tell her how you feel but she is very young and may not know how to deal with relationships well yet. kinda sounds like she doesnt want to have ties with just one person to.talk to her and go from there. good luck.
2006-08-20 15:18:33 · answer #7 · answered by countryrose24 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be patient. let her have her room and if she really does like you then she will come around. If you really love or care for someone, let them free and if it was meant to be she will be back
2006-08-20 15:15:15 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
she is young and you both are. for someone to become attached at this age is asking for alot. she is probably still experimenting with her feelings on guys so dont feel disapointed that she is not responding much anymore. read more tips on dating and relationships on this site
2006-08-20 15:13:32 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
try to talk to her about the you/her relationship.
2006-08-20 15:12:20 · answer #10 · answered by wordsofapoet 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋