This is not fair! My grandma wants me to get a boyfriend when I'm 17 because she got her boyfriend when she was 19. I'm 13 years old by the way. She says I don't need to worry about boys yet because when she was younger she didn't. Well I'm not her and thats what I told her but she said "don't talk back, 18 is what it is going to be and thats final." I told my momma but she can't talk her in to letting me have a boyfriend when I'm 15. I afraid to ask my daddy. Man this is not going to work out for me. I am trying really hard to not get a boyfriend and keep it secret, and I dont know how long I can do that. So I want to know what ya'll think of this problem and plz tell me what should I do?
2006-08-20 14:51:49 · 6 answers · asked by Thug a Bunny 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
My grandmother calls me a s!ut and a co*ksucker all the time. It is very hard to keep a boyfriend a secret, I have tried. Maybe show her how mature you can be, and how responsible you can be, and maybe she'll change her mind.
2006-08-20 14:58:16 · answer #1 · answered by Pirate_Wench 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I know how you feel even though my situation was a bit differant I lived with a single father who was in the military (how do you think the boyfriend thing went on that one) he has always been very protective of his little girl, so i did what any (rebellious) gal would have done at that age and tried to hide my bf's and even my regular friends that were boys. Let me tell you this from experiance nothing good came of it tring to hide one part of your life never works cause that one part whether it is a bf or your best friend the fact of the matter is that well inevitabley land you in a hole of large size whether that means house arrest under parental supervision or a juvenile detention center, and thats because sometimes when you hide things the places that you try to hide at turn out to be very bad places.
for example my father hated my best friends (they were twins in texas) and I had to have it my way and i would hang out with them after school and tell my dad i was taking an after school course (which came back at me) or i would walk to there house cause i never wanted my dad to know who i was going to see and once had some guy try to grab me while i was walking there it was real scary not to mention they had older bro's and sis's that were kinda well lets just say she was in jail for more then 4 years.
then because i wanted a bf as well at that age mind you this is all between the age of 13-16 ---- problems big ones arise of that then you have to LIE to start with and even the smallist white lie is a LIE none the less and every one add's up and it is no fun triing to gain respect and trust back from your family my father just barly started trusting me again and i regret all the lies i told him just so i could be cool with my friend or bf's cause when you have to Lie to be with someone it comes back in somthing called Karma (i beg you that word is spelt 100% correct look it up even if you know it look it up for a full refresh) it will come back.
remember the 5th comandment honor thy mother and father - and i am sorry to say your mother is right by honoring or at least listening to your grandma thats all it is.
besides being true to yourself and finding out exactly who you really are should always be the 1st and formost thing in your life believe me i am 25 this thursday and i still question that myself on daily basis.
don't rush you innosence away when it is gone it is something you can never get back no matter how hard you try.
i am not a religous person never have been but i will always hold the 5th commandment close to my heart cause of my past when i didn't listen to my dad i always will now.
keep in mind they dont do it to ruin your life or anything of the sort they just want the lil girl to be safe and stay on the right track and boys at 13-15-16 is nothing but a waiver of the right path.
make friends 1st male or female if he cant be your friend 1st and formost then he aint worth your time!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-08-20 15:38:50 · answer #2 · answered by pandala777 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sweetheart, you just gone have to face it that your grandma want whats best for you. Try to get use to it for a while. Trust me. It will work out.
2006-08-21 13:00:46 · answer #3 · answered by Sexy Thug 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
why is your grandmother controlling your relationship? I would not let her do that say grandma it's not your decision to control my social life, it's mine, so F*** off! jk, be polite, but say it's your descion.
2006-08-20 15:03:56 · answer #4 · answered by Alden C 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
well.. ur grandma is right... but... wat do i care...lol.... i'm 13 and i have like a bout 8 ex-boyfrendzz... i know dats not much... but it's ur choice.. u could choose to follow ur grandma or break ur grandma's rulez...
2006-08-20 15:05:14 · answer #5 · answered by riddick_230i 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
just get one anyway. grandma???? that is wierd
2006-08-20 15:14:58 · answer #6 · answered by king cobra 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋