I am involved with a boy I deeply care about but I am sure that I do not love him... I am still a virgin but I do not pretend to be one any longer. we have been together for 6 months and I believe it is time for us to move forward. I am not sure if I should depreive myself from sexual contact whatsoever just because I do not feel that I love him. He has said he loves me and he is ok with me not saying it back. Our relationship seems perfect but I am uncertain of taking such step because it could ruin what we have. Maybe I should wait longer but I do not think that is fair to him. I need someone else's point of view. Sincerely thankful, Uncertain Girl
2006-08-20 14:10:30 · 10 answers · asked by never in love 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you do not love him, let him go. He deserves someone who loves him back, someone for whom sex will be more than just going through the motions.
2006-08-20 14:17:10 · answer #1 · answered by SLWrites 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats one gift that has not be opened. Keep it that way. IF your relationship is perfect as it don't do anything else. He wants what no one has gotten from you. Is he virgin? Will he remain in love with you after sex? If he is willing to wait until you're married then do that wait.......Don't give urself away. There are alot of women who 2day wished that they had. There are a lot of issues that comes with that. You do not have to worry about diseases. If he's with some1 when u're not around. No baby daddy drama. I say Wait.
2006-08-28 19:46:09 · answer #2 · answered by nikki 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
look i'm gone keep it real with you love like a baby once you give birth you can't give it back. what i'm trying to say is having sex is special and diong it with somone is the best part. When you have sex you give a part of you to this that says I love you emotionally and so for but if you do it before you love this person you lose part of your self that you gone for ever making you wonder will you ever be whole again?Make it specail make it count. you only get it once.
2006-08-28 20:37:01 · answer #3 · answered by Ms.Bossy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok heres what you do! if you deeply care about him and feel like your ready to have that step with him then go ahead! but if you dont LOVE him then how long will it last afterwards! i mean he might eventually cave in and say that he wants you to love him and a girl cant just push those words out of her mouth unless she means it! all i can say is dont do it yet unless you feel ready! no matter if your inlove or not!
2006-08-28 20:00:31 · answer #4 · answered by hunny_boo_boo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
babygirl save ur self dont have sex wit someone u dont love, being a virgin is a great thing ur body is ur temple sweetie, alot of responsibilties come with sex,then u dont know if he really love you men sometimes tell u what u want to hear i have a sixteen year old daughter and i tell her the same everyday trust me baby if i could turn back time i would have saved my self. let him please hisself until u feel ready
2006-08-28 20:17:08 · answer #5 · answered by angela h 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't waste your first, trust me, I'm years older and I have one thing that I'm grateful for, I saved my first for someone that I completely loved. No regrets. I have several friends that can not say the same.
2006-08-28 20:59:56 · answer #6 · answered by aly_girl501 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you do not love him, Save it for the one you love. Save it for that special guy whom you hope to spend the rest of your life with.
2006-08-28 21:07:54 · answer #7 · answered by blueeyes 2c 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, the man that you are dating is proborly just in love with your vagina. So, no you don't have to be in love in order to have sex because you will get hurt...you just need to be horny.
2006-08-28 16:51:49 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's not fair to you to feel pressured into having sex either. if he loves you as much as he says he does, then he'll respect your decision to wait. honestly, sex is SOOO much better with someone you love. I know everyone says that but I can't stress enough just how true that statement really is.
2006-08-20 21:17:56 · answer #9 · answered by cindos_69 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No silly, you are suppose to be in love before you get married, then have sex.
2006-08-28 17:37:54 · answer #10 · answered by kayboff 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋