We both know we'll be great together (old uni mate), but he knows i'll hav to make too many compromises in the long-term. He still wants a short term relationship...
2006-08-20 14:08:28 · 19 answers · asked by Sona 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Why is it we believe men when they lie, but have such a hard time believing them when they tell the truth.
Honey, he is just not that into you. He will never be a good husband to you. He is doing you a favor by telling you the truth.
By you asking this question, you are showing that you cannot just have sex with this guy, you have expectations. In the end, you will be hurt, because you will be disappointed. Move on.
Find someone who wants the same things you do, you deserve to have what you want.
2006-08-20 14:24:05 · answer #1 · answered by Deb 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would he only be good for the short term. Dont you want to look for something that is long term. How are you going to feel if he decides that the relationship has been going on long enough n he dumps you. Do you want this on your shoulder that if you ever fall for this guy completely that he would never marry you, even if that is what you feel in the bottom of your heart. You should think about what kind of future you would have with this guy, and what the end of the relationship may actually be like before you go ahead and dive into this relationship.
My advice is not to pursue this guy at all, sounds like he doesnt want to be serious, sounds like he is just looking for a little fun to pass the time.
2006-08-20 14:17:18 · answer #2 · answered by LadyRaven 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Great lovers are fine if you just want sex but it sounds like you want a commitment and he obviously isn't cut out for that.
You need a man who has the whole package. Why would you want to make so many compromises in order to have a relationship with this man? Ultimately you won't be happy because you will be selling yourself short of what you really want in a man.
There are too many good men out there (who also happen to be good lovers by the way) so why bother with this one?
2006-08-20 14:16:42 · answer #3 · answered by Cute But Evil 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
But what do you want? I don't know enough of your situation to know why it would be a problem in the long term, but if this relationship is what you want, go for it and see what happens. If you do want to future with someone and it is absolutely impossible with this guy, well, it may not be a good idea then. Only you can decide this for yourself.
2006-08-20 14:14:48 · answer #4 · answered by dreamcatweaver 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're happy to have a casual relationship with him then do so, you don't sound as if you are unaware of what you might be letting yourself in for, so as long as you are not looking for a husband, and a great lover is what you desire at this stage happy hunting.
2006-08-20 14:22:39 · answer #5 · answered by stainedglassangel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if purely all of us might want to have a verify record of "the perfect husband" even as searching for one .. lol !! .. would not that be impressive ;) there is not any 'perfect husband/spouse' yet there is your perfect husband/spouse. to me i imagine the staggering existence better 1/2 is man or woman who might want to be your bestest pal .. some man or woman who's there for you emotionally and spiritually. till few months in the past, i had this psychological record of issues that "he" should be like .. yet now .. the record is interior the trash bin .. i am going to recognize even as i'm meant to entice close, it truly is going to experience good ... there is continually Allah subhanhu wa'tala to reveal to for coaching =)
2016-11-05 06:35:01 · answer #6 · answered by garion 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would enjoy it while it last cause you will never find a lover like that again. Do what you do for a boyfriend and show how good a women you would be. You can be the perfect women but do tell him what you want until it is time
2006-08-20 14:21:23 · answer #7 · answered by Ash 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only if you want JUST a lover, and NEVER a husband. Don't expect him to change, he's made it clear what he wants.
2006-08-20 14:32:10 · answer #8 · answered by jasmine828_34 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK, hear me good. HE ONLY WANTS TO SCREW! IT DOESN'T MATTER WHO, HE'S NEVER GOING TO SETTLE DOWN...IN OTHER WORDS, HE'S NEVER GOING TO STOP SCREWING OTHER FEMALES! YOU WILL BE CRAZY TO PUT YOURSELF THROUGH UNNECESSARY HURT RUNNING BEHIND THIS MAN! LEAVE HIM ALONE...OR EXCEPT THAT HE'S GOING TO HURT YOU. WHEN HE GETS TIRED OF SLEEPING WITH YOU, HE'S GOING TO MOVE ON TO THE NEXT THING POPPING. THAT'S WHY HE'S SO GOOD AT A SHORT-TERM RELATIONSHIP.
2006-08-20 14:17:32 · answer #9 · answered by lil_l2004 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
WHAT HE IS TRYING TO SAY IS HE WANTS THE FUN (THE LOVER)BUT NOT THE RESPONSIBILTY,(AS A HUSBAND)
WOULD IT BE WORTH TO YOU TO MAKE ALL THE COMPROMISE WITHOUT ANY SECURITY? I WON'T.
2006-08-20 14:29:29 · answer #10 · answered by MAO 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋