problems with in laws. I believe my wife will stand by my descision. However I am concerned.
2006-08-20 13:57:51 · 24 answers · asked by subgenius 4 in Politics & Government ➔ Law Enforcement & Police
The problem is the inlaws? Your wife's parents?
Talk with your wife about your feelings. She needs to respect what your reasons are. But you also have to realize that these are her parents you're talking about. You can't just not allow them into your house. Work out some kind of agreement with your wife.'
2006-08-20 14:04:34 · answer #1 · answered by Bluealt 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you need to talk to your wife! BOTH parties can allow or refuse entry to the home by law. Own or rent, doesn't matter, it is the mutual home for both of you.
You said she allows them in? Then you said you think she will stand by your decision?
Being it is in-laws, and not knowing why YOU don't want them in your home and SHE does, is something to be compromised over.
If you are not there then why care? Again depending on the reason you don't want them in your home.
There is nothing you can legally do if your wife allows them in the home. This is a marital dilemma and not a legal one.
BUT, if she agrees? Then you do have an alternative.
A "Restraining Order" and sometimes a TPO (temporary protective order) can be gotten by simply going to the local magistrate court and filling out the proper papers, paying a fee ($25, in most states) but that also means going to court against your in-laws. That may not set well with your wife.
So discuss the options, weigh the outcome for the long run. Only YOU know the situation here and rather it requires these measures.
2006-08-20 14:23:52 · answer #2 · answered by Anna M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you'd have to be more specific in your question as to who this person is, and what problem was caused for you to have the feelings you have. To be fair to your wife you have to convince her about the severity of your request. Does she think the person is harmful to the household, or does she feel you are over reacting? I also think your wife should be fair, and respect your wishes because it's obvious you are very serious. Just the idea that she allows them in when you are not home troubles me. What is so important about this person that she has to have them there? You guys really need to talk or I see a real bad situation brewing. The house belongs to you both, and she has no right to disrespect your request if it is a valid one. Only you, and she know the real deal. You need to talk!
2006-08-20 14:14:14 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Explain your concerns to your wife in a non-demanding way. Don't expect her to "stand by my decision" but if you offer a reasoned appeal to her she may agree to respect your concerns.
If she steadfastly refuses, you're only "right" is to walk. She is an owner of the property and has every right to allow anyone on the property that she wishes without your consent or approval.
Be sure that you have sound justification for your position if you want any hope of her seeing things your way. Just because her brother is a "worthless bum" in your estimation isn't going to cut it. On the other hand if he were a convicted child molester and you had children in the home it wouldn't be an unreasonable request.
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2006-08-20 14:04:16 · answer #4 · answered by Bostonian In MO 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
What are your reasons? Will they hold water and sway a jury in court? If so, can you get your wife to agree that the reasons are valid? If you own jointly, then you have to make a decision in common as to who may and may not enter the house. Don't forget that your refusal of admission to her relatives, means that she can also bar yours.
If you have valid reasons, try to get your wife to see their validity and then work out a solution. Otherwise, expect to see a divorce lawyer and loose the house.
2006-08-20 14:07:59 · answer #5 · answered by St N 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can really feel for you in your situation but you answered your own question. You said WE own. It's her decision too. If she's letting them in then that means one of two things either she wants them there, in which case you don't have legal rights to kick them out unless she lets you, or she doesn't feel comfortable asking them to leave even if she wants to. If that's the case then because it's her family she needs to get over that and stand up for your rights as a couple. I really hope this helps. :)
2006-08-20 14:22:13 · answer #6 · answered by booti92 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it is your inlaws, you should not expect your wife to turn her back on her parents. They did bring her into the world. Maybe it's best that they come when you are not there if you are the one that is having problems with them. You would have more problems if you did not allow your wife to have contact with her parents. As long as you are not there, what is the problem? She will resent you later if you tell her not to have them around her. Trust me been there myself.
2006-08-20 14:05:24 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
You won't allow your in laws in the home you and wife share and co-own? I don't care for my inlaws, but I'm not about to tell my husband his mother can't come over!
2006-08-20 14:03:46 · answer #8 · answered by Jill&Justin 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
you can divorce your wife if you want, she has as much right to allow someone in the house as you do, as a matter of fact if you are home and she says yes and you say no they can still come in , since she is still saying yes.
This is between you and your wife.
2006-08-20 16:27:26 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
She lives there, too, she has the right to let in anyone she wants. You can't stop that unless you get a divorce, house is awarded to one or the other party, then it's strictly their domicile and their rules.
2006-08-20 15:34:34 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋