give the baby up for adoption?

Question

im 24. should be able to do this but im not stable. not independant. single. my family wants me to keep baby. im due in 6 days and im so scared and dodnt know what to do w a baby. am ot cold-hearted just dont know how i can do it alone... baby b better off w adoptive parents or get my **** together cuz im 24....pls hep. i know i did it to myself but 6 days and so scared

Answer 1

You should raise the baby yourself and with your family's help. Hard times don't last a lifetime and that's the truth. Do whatever it takes. The main thing you have to take into consideration is your judgement. Don't be scared of the unknown.

Answer 2

The only person who can answer this is you... you will have to take the baby's life into consideration. Do you think their life will be better being raised by you, or by people who really want the child? If you do give it up for adoption, there are lots of options. Open adoptions make the baby legally the adoptive parents' child, but you can still be a part of the child's life. And in most adoptions, you can choose the parents so you make sure they get a good home. Just remember, adoption is very permanent and there is no way to get the baby back. So try and think of what is best for the baby. It does not really matter what age you are, you should only keep a baby when you are ready to be a mother for the rest of your life. Good luck!

Answer 3

Your 24 you have to grow up sometime,this baby will definitly change your life for the better.I was 19 when i had my first son he turns 5 tomorrow.His dad left when i was 5 mths pregnant and with the help and support of my family i did it,you can 2.I am now married to a wonderful man and we have a 1 yr old together.He raises my oldest just like it is his.I wont lie to you being a single mom is hard for the first few mths w/all the needs of a newborn and after that all you will have is joy.You didnt do it to yourself honey a man helped.If he walked away hes not a man but i hope you dont do the same.You will always wonder about the baby you gave up,then one day when your ready it will be too late.The worst thing for a mother 2 do is give up on her child.Ultimately the decision is yours and if you think giving the baby up is the best thing then maybe you are right.It is a huge decision,please think long and hard about it first.Wish you the best in whatever decision you make.

Answer 4

This is a hard one. I'm adopted, I was lucky and raised by a family that I love very much. I recently found my birth mother, it was nice to hear her story, and now I love her very much too. If you really feel like you are not ready, then you don't cave into what your family wants you to do. It's best to make your own decision. However, I am thinking there is a part of you that really wants to keep this baby. It is scary, I was terrified when I had my daughter, but I fell so in love with her, it's amazing and really did take my breath away.

P.S.- If you decide to keep the baby then you won't be the first person without a stable life to have and raise a child, but it sounds like you are ready to be stable and independant, you'll be fine, really.

Answer 5

look your baby did not aske to be brought in to this world its not its foult and you should not be scared its natrual and it happens to most of wemon you shouldent be scared a women giveing birth is the most beutiful thing that could ever happen to a women thats gods gift to you your 24 im 23 i have 4 kids 2 boys 2 girls and i strugel yes i do im merried know but my first 2 boys i was all alone when there dad got put in jail my baby was only 3 weeks old and i had to do it all by my self but i got through it by getting held fromm d.e.s until a year latter i meet my know husbend and had my 2 girls hunny like i said DONT BE SCARED you only have one the department of economic securty eill help with school job training and day care what more help can you ask for besides your family whants to help to right hunny think about it cuse onces you make the disision then theres no turning back so dont do anything you will regret!good luck

Answer 6

Go to planned parenthood and talk with the counselors in your area.

Many, many people cannot have children and want to adopt newborns. It is a gift they wait for years to receive. They provide good homes, have the finances to raise the child well.

If you decide to give up the child for adoption, they do not let you "hold" the child that you have carried for nine months as it can be devastating to finally see your child's eyes, hear their cry, and see them breath, and then to give that little person to someone else.

It sounds like you have a good support system. Your family cares. You will have assistance a lot of single mothers do not receive.

This is ultimately your decision. And I think having children is scary, no matter who you are. Think this over very carefully, you are in charge of this child's fate. If you can't handle it, then make sure you have provided for him/her in some manner, be it adoption or family members.

Answer 7

You should raise the baby. The only time giving up a child is appropriate is if you are unable to care for the child for a real reason. Everyone gets scared and has doubts before having a baby but it will all work out. Good luck if you keep it!

Answer 8

You have time please don't panic. You don't have to make a decision until after the baby comes, talk to your family will they help you if you keep the baby. Giving the baby up for adoption is a very hard thing to do, but it can be wonderful for the people who adopt him/her. Maybe you could have an open adoption where you and your family can be part of the child's life. Please calm down take a deep breath and have your baby. Good Luck if you want to talk you can email me. By

Answer 9

You're scared now of the unknown.

If you're not sure whether to adopt the baby, don't. If you find that you are unable to care for it, even with the help of your family, and think another family would be better for the child, you could consider adopting it then.

Try not to beat yourself up or use phrases like "I did this to myself." Try to live in the present and the future, and don't dwell on the past.

Answer 10

Most likely when u give birth you won't want to give your baby away. Come on! you carried the baby for 9 months inside of you - you gave it life! - why would you get rid of it now? If your family wants you to keep it that means they support you and will be there for you. I got pregnant at 17, had my son at 18 - I was scared...confused but let me tell you - he is the best thing that has ever happened to me, he brings me joy every single day... so does my daughter...kids are great!


My family helped me out a lot... I had to work hard, learn how to take care of the baby and all that - you get the hang of it quick so don't worry about that. Once you have the baby all you wanna do is protect him, care for him, love him as much as you can. It is all worth it!

Answer 11

Do what's best for the baby- that's the best (and sometimes the hardest) way to be a good mother. And only you know what will be best, so only you can make the decision. As long as you know in your heart that you have made the best choice for your child, you will make the right decision. Good luck- the next few months will be tough, no matter what you decide.