How can love be wrong when it finds you?

Question

Okay read some of the answers to one of my questions and decided to add another based on those answers. I am the loveable loser that has had the honor of being cheated on three different times by three different women. I never picked them they all approached me and understand ladies I have very diverse taste when it comes to women but I do notice that I have a slight pattern because of one thing that someone I know said to me. Happiness will find you be it love life or whatever it finds you not vice versa. I date in and out of my race but no matter what the women that appeal to most are the ones that pick me. So, with that said, how do i find that right one when it seems the right one finds me first?All days can start sunny but in my life more than not rain clouds form quickly. Ladies help me out i crave your insight more than others in this matter.

Let me rephrase this slightly cause I think i left something out that has made me look like a pity case which I am not. I look for love and find that when looking and going outside of the box it ends in diaster but when I met the girls that find me we have good lifes that fizzle at the end. I am a good guy just find that I met women that have two sides that unfortunately i see the side i did not knew existed riding some guy when i walked into my now defunct homes. It never is there until when it seems that everything is looking up. Now lets try again shall we and see if I do not have this woe is me approach i do not want.

Answer 1

If you see a pattern and in that pattern it all turns to dirt, CHANGE THE PATTERN. What we are most attracted to may not always be what we need or what is best for us. Get out of the pattern and make a new one for yourself, from experience, it works.

Answer 2

well im not a lady and the answer is simple. there are not the one for u.ur thinking that they are but its all mind games and u need to realize that.there is the one out there but when and how u meet is unknown.girls who approach u man are usally just a easy girl. now they can really like u and tored of waiting for u but i dont think thats the case is it.u just want to b loved and thats all.dont rush it man if they are the one it will take time.love is happy and hurtful thing but in the end u will be happy.what i did was date different girl and then one just stood out and well thats the one. i got lucky and who knows she may not be but she is here now and were happy so im hoping it will be all good.so the answer too question u posted.those girls were not the right one and they found u first just to have someone.someone else came along and boom ur gone.so u dont want a girl like that.thats why u should just date and date and if they are intrsted in u then let it progress.intrested is they call u alot and u can tell they care.belive me i know been there and look im happy so u can be to.take my advice man.good luck

Answer 3

First off... what is your taste?What kinda of lady is it you want? Are you sure the ones that find you really meet your standards expectations if you will. You almost sound to passive and they get board you don't measure up to what they want in the long run. I'm not saying it's your fault but find some one a little hard to get and play hard ball keep her guessing keep her interested!! Study the girl first and make sure she's not desperate or on the rebound and that she is truly what you are looking for. Let the new prospect know your values before you begin dating and let her know you won't tolerate cheating or lies!!

Answer 4

Maybe you like the ones who pick you, because you want the security of knowing that someone loves you first. You might be missing out on great relationships with other women, because some part of you isn't willing to take the chance and ask a woman out who might say no..or say yes.

Answer 5

since you know the ones that find you are not the right ones then you dont fall for them. as for you looking dont look too hard. how can you say they are right when you turn arouNd and say they hurt you? ALWAYS FIND A FRIEND FIRST you look too hard or want to love some one so bad that is why you get hurt. you probably scare the women away or they see that you are easy prey you need to slow your role and know that the right one is out there stop expecting it to be the next one. stop opening yourself up so soon. you allow yourself to be the victim, by crying out that victim mentallity. keep somethings to yourself, feelings dont open everything when the right woman comes alng you will know. trust that you will know

Answer 6

First you should take a long look at yourself and find out women are cheating on you.

Usually when a woman cheats, there is something lacking in the relationship.

Answer 7

I THINK THAT'S EXACTLY WHAT YOUR PROBLEM IS...LOVE FINDS YOU, INSTEAD OF YOU FINDING LOVE! YOU NEED TO REALLY DECIDE WHAT YOU WANT IN A WOMAN AND THEN YOU...GO...FIND...HER! WE AS WOMEN CAN SMELL A MAN THAT HAS BEEN HURT BEFORE, OR THAT HAS LOW SELF-ESTEEM, ETC. WE KNOW WHEN YOU'RE VULNERABLE AND JUST LOOKING FOR A NIPPLE TO CRY ON! I THINK THAT IT'S GREAT THAT YOU'VE DATED A VARIETY OF WOMEN, BUT NEXT TIME, "YOU" TRY PICKING "THEM" AND STOP LETTING THE VARIETY PICK YOU!

Answer 8

perhaps you should just casually date and stay away from serious relationships for a while. you can't keep falling for these women no matter how desirable they seem at the time.

Answer 9

Sounds like its not the women. The one thing they all had in common is YOU.

Answer 10

ITSNOT UR FAULT U'LL FIND TRUE LOVE BY MISTAKE YALL FIND EACH OTHER IN THE SAME PLACE BUT U HAVE TO WAIT FOR THAT WONDERFUL DAY TO COME U HAVE A GIRL WAITING FOR U RIGHT NOW JUST WAIT