i lost my life partner 4 yrs ago after 23 yrs together. I am still depressed. I have been diagnosed bi polar. I am disabled. i use a scooter and have no other transportation. sunday is a hard day for me. i had company for supper and Im still sad. I tried Church and that didnt work for me.
2006-08-20 13:44:41 · 14 answers · asked by nora7142@verizon.net 6 in Health ➔ Mental Health
Sweetheart my mom went through the same thing and finally she went to therapy and it worked for her. Now every Sat. we do something in memory of her partner and it just makes mom smile and we celebrate life instead of being depressed. Go talk to someone I promise it helps. Good luck and God bless.
2006-08-20 13:53:00 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry it is so hard. You mentioned you have bi-polar. Are you taking your meds? Are you seeing a professional? Maybe the church you tried isn't the right one for you. I went to about 20 (literally) before I found the right one. Don't give up on yourself. I'm sure your partner would want you to be happy. And although you have a disability that doesn't mean you are incapable. Perhaps there is something that you could do to help others. Even just helping people learn to read at the local library, you don't have to walk to do that. Find a purpose for yourself.
2006-08-20 13:53:33 · answer #2 · answered by glitterprincess 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you on meds and seeking therapy for your depression? These things will help. I see a lot of people have said do this and do that, but I know how hard it can be when you are depressed to do anything. Try repeating to yourself that "today is a good day". Then when you are having a good day, do something nice for yourself.
It sounds like you may be stuck in the grieving process. Try this book..."The Grief Recovery Handbook". It can help you get through the process, you will feel better. This is a workbook, you will need a partner...either your therapist or a good supportive friend.
Good luck. It does get better as long as we keep moving forward.
2006-08-20 13:55:44 · answer #3 · answered by Deb 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know they say that time heals all wounds, but I don't know who came up with that saying!! I think that you need more friends to help talk you through bad times. Sometimes having someone listen helps a lot. How many churches did you try? May be you need to try another one. There are many kinds of churches and you gave up to fast.
Just realize that you will feel better. It may not be now but it WILL happen. You might even find another partner, who knows.. Just keep your head up and be patient. Don't give up, it can only get better.
2006-08-20 13:55:27 · answer #4 · answered by wandito 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like you are depressed you need to talk to someone and medication will also help. Don't be ashamed to ask for help everyone needs help at some point. Try and get out to meet people you never know your new life partner could be just around the corner waiting for you.
2006-08-20 15:06:23 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to find something you are intersted in and start doing it. I am disabled too. There are a lot of places where you can volunteer to get out and do something. Staying at home and just brooding over it is not what your partner wanted.
2006-08-20 13:53:45 · answer #6 · answered by ray56_32223 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Contact your local mental health or health department. It sounds like some therapy and/or medications would be helpful. Most health departments can provide transportation.
2006-08-20 13:51:04 · answer #7 · answered by sab 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make sure you tell your medical provider how you are feeling.
Try going to a support group for grief.
Get a dog, cat or bunny for a pet - you would be surprised how well that may work.
2006-08-20 13:51:18 · answer #8 · answered by D 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
vent with me dogmicjoe@yahoo.com. i'm really sorry. try metanoia.org. it's an online therapist site. try 1800 273 talk. also holisticonline.com, depression-helper.com, conqueringstress.com, nolongerlonely.com, stressbusting.co.uk/, zacharyodette.com, bipolarhappens.com, God will help you thru this.try solveyourproblem.com
2006-08-20 13:53:28 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What about volunteering at a pet shelter?They always need help and everyone I have met there has been really nice.When you are helping out,it makes you feel good.
2006-08-20 13:49:39 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋