I am married and my husband is the worst in bed. I even..?

Question

tell him out of the 22 guys I've slept with he is the worst. I don't mean say the worrible things and feel terrible after I tell him mean things.

While we were having sex last night I made him stop and told him I'll finish this myself. He started crying. He is the WORST LOVER EVER.

Has anyone else told their lover they are bad. Am I being too mean?

I'm with hom because we have a kid and I don't have to work.

Answer 1

May God Bless Your evil heart, and May He help Your Husband know He deserves better.

Answer 2

You are most definately being mean. Not even mean, heartless and incensitive. The man wants to satisfy you. Obviously his sexual experience is much less than yours. Try helping him out. Instead of getting mad because he's not psychic and knows what you want TELL HIM!!!! We aren't born great lovers...we have to learn it. Think of him as a clean slate. You can teach him exactly what you like. Also STOP BERATING HIM. You think there's a problem now. All this negativity could cause him erection problems. If you're lucky you might still be able to reverse the damage. But considering the fact that you have spoken to him in this manner (even if it is true) your lucky he hasn't divorced you.
How would you like it if it were the other way around?

Answer 3

telling him you'll finish it yourself is probably the worst thing you could ever say to a sexual partner!

instead of making him feel bad, you should have smiled and suggestively told him what you wanted him to do to you. telling a man what you want sexually is the best way to get it. i'm sure he would have obliged. however, now, you've made him self-conscious. he's got to be so embarressed about his inability to please you.

you need to do some serious penance for being so mean. i suggest starting by thinking about why you married this guy in the first place. it wasn't for the sex, obviously. then you need to do something really sweet for him- even if it's something as simple as going out for a walk together and just talking.

apologize for what you did. you may not be able to salvage this relationship, but you can at least be a woman and admit you were in the wrong.

Answer 4

Perhaps, since you are "married" this would be the time to "teach" your husband. You married this person, so you must like and enjoy this person's company. Right?? So why in the heck wouldn't you let him know what you need? If he went to the store and cames back with some crapy off brand you don't like, would you not tell him? If he comes home with a beautiful dress that you love, but it was the wrong size, I'm guessing, but you would tell him. Right?? So, now comes the sex topic. Tell the poor man, you'll both be happier, or divorced. Either way, you'll be happier.

Answer 5

It is people like you that make me wonder how I ended up with a man who thinks I am the Devil's spawn. I wish he'd met you first. Then, he might actually appreciate having a good wife.

I hope what you said (about what you say to him) isn't true. If it is, you deserve to be alone and to have to finish things yourself. Unless you are a complete flipping moron, you must know that your comments will only serve to end any possibilty you ever had for a happy relationship with a fulfilling sex life. Sure, beat the guy down. THAT will surely motivate him to learn how to please you. Mean? He** no. You are a disgusting human being.

Answer 6

Why are you so hostile? It takes either a whole lot of built up anger of a totally lack of caring about anyone other than yourself to be that cruel to someone you supposedly love.

Honestly, it sounds like you are the worst lover ever. Making love with your husband is about more than just the orgasm at the end. Do you feel ANYTHING for this man? It sure doesn't sound like it.

Answer 7

You are being way too mean? If you really love him, why would you want to make him cry? Men are mostly conscious about the way they are in bed. That is the worst thing you could do. Buy some books, tell him what you want and how. Encourage not discourage.

Answer 8

If you teach him, he has the potential to be the best you ever had. Women think men are born knowing what makes a girl tick so to speak. But if you show him what works for you and give him you know "a little to the left or a little to the right" And teach him how to get you off first then it's his turn. He will appreciate that and you both will benefit for life.

Answer 9

Maybe you're NOT WORTH THE EFFORT.... did you ever think of that? Your attitude sucks, and probably you don't and that may be the problem.

How about focusing on HIM for a change. If you are so self-centered that you feel you need to demean your husband this way, you should consider becoming a lesbian or a hooker. Although, it sounds like you're already a bit of a s l u t.

Answer 10

I believe you think he is the worst lover because you have 22 other freaking guys to compare to...How do you think that makes him feel? You should tell him what he can do that will make you feel pleasure when you two are making love...Don't tell him he is the worst...That will make him depressed and not have him talk to you.

Answer 11

Our skills are a reflection of what we've been taught (or taught ourselves), so basically you are telling all of us that you are the most pathetic sexual partner ever. He's doing what you've taught him, and you've taught him nothing! If you HAD skills (which I wonder about...why did it take you 22 guys to find one who would stick around??), you should have no problem teaching your man how to please you.

Give him a divorce so he can find a kind and caring partner who DOES have the skills to teach him. He deserves better than a mean and spiteful wife who treats him like garbage. If you put one TENTH of the effort into telling him what you like that you put into tearing him down, you wouldn't need to ask this question.