My very mature, intelligent, beautiful 12 yr. old daughter wants to date a boy who is 15 1/2 yrs. old. He seems very nice and respectable. They know I feel the age difference is an issue at this point and think a friendship is ok (with chaperones) My mother and other parts of my family are questioning my stand on this matter. I feel if I keep this at this level they won't go behind my back. This way I have a little more control. My mother I feel is overstepping her bounds and should support my stand.
What do you think???? Please I could use any advise thats given.
2006-08-20 13:28:05 · 41 answers · asked by jersea1 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
congrats you want grandkids before shes a teenager. no hes too old for her until they are both 18. shes a child and doesnt need to date
2006-08-20 13:32:54 · answer #1 · answered by kleighs mommy 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My daughter which will be 12, Sept.16 was over me when I pulled up this question, and the first thing she said was "yes, it's wrong for her to be dating a 15 yr. old boy". I totally agree, but I thought about your problem & I made it mine. Your 12 year old daughter should not be dating at all, but I think if she wants or insist to go out with this boy, she should go in a group with an adult chaperon. You don't want her to go out behind your back because it's very easy for her to be pressured into something like skipping school to date him. I think your family should support you & also understand that some kids rebel against their parents if they do not get their way. Good Luck!
P.S. My time is near, but I hope not till the next 5 yrs.
2006-08-20 14:22:23 · answer #2 · answered by Big Mama 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's only 12!!! and the boy is 15 1/2 years old shes like still ya baby girl she should not date a 15 1/2 year old boy he may seem so nice and rescpectable just wait til there alone ... she'll come home and say mom can i tell u some? then you'll say yes okay honey what do u wanna tell me.. then she'll say i think im pregnant then you'll look like a damn fool so u need to brake there relationship up or ya little 12 year old will be a mom and u will be a grandmother at a early age ya daughter is, or she can just get an abortion.. ...holla! at cha gurl lata!
2006-08-20 16:07:59 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I could be wrong on this, but I don't really agree with 12year olds dating. I didn't really start dating till I was a freshmen in Highschool. It can be a little scary, but since you want to agree that your daughter is Mature enough to date, than maybe its alright. Atleast this boy is 15 1/2 and not 21. Some guys lie to little girls to get what they want. Than the out come.....Not good of course! Is your daughters father in her life? Ask him if he has any suggestions. Looks can be very decieving. But if you like, you should chaperone their date. Meet their parents. Ask her friends about the boy. Once you feel very comfortable about the boy, than I'd start letting her see him. My fiance told me that if my girls who aren't far off in the dating field ever get boyfriends that want to take them out on a date, he's gonna pull out his shot gun and shine it nice and clean and tell the boy that he better have them home at a decent hour and he said he'll question the crap out of him until he's nervous and scared enough not to mess around with our daughters. I think that is a good idea. Because sometimes WOLVES wear SHEEPS Clothing. And will make out to be the most SWEETEST and be the BLOOD SUCKER when the time is ALONE TIME WITH the girl. My dad never cared much about what we were doing, because we were gonna do it no matter what. I've dated guys older than me and lied about his age to my sisters and my dad. I got myself in a lot more trouble than I thought I would. But 1000questions the boy and maybe it'll scare him into NOT messing with your daughter.
2006-08-23 11:46:52 · answer #4 · answered by missbehave252002 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you serious?? The boy is almost 16 yrs of age, and his hormones are in rage. You are setting your daughter up for a sexual relationship. Are you ready to raise another child. You know that at 12 your daughter isnt. If you allow this relationship to happen, when your back is turned things will progress. Kids understand how to skip school and find other ways to find alone time away from adult supervision. Your daughter is still an innocent child, hopefully. It is your responsibility to keep her that way, and to keep her safe. Your mother is right in givingyou her opinion, and you really know that deep down.
2006-08-20 19:35:28 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I dont see it as wrong but as a father it would be tough to accept. A 12 year old should not be dating in the first place but a 15 year old boy is not a big difference. and remind them if they have sex that their world as they know it will be over and they will never see each other again. To be honest, I am 30 and have 8 year old daughter and if I were you I would not allow it but its always different when its someone elses problem.
2006-08-20 13:37:03 · answer #6 · answered by Later Me 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For that young of an age, yes it is.
A 12 year old shouldn't be dating anyways, neither should a 15 year old.
It is just like a 12 year old dating a 9 year old, doesn't that seem a bit odd...
Plus there are too many differences to list that would cause problems with the relationship.
2006-08-20 13:35:22 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are her mother, you know your child the best. I am still pretty young. Only seventeen, and I remember when I was 12 I wanted to date a boy that was around 14, it never realy ment anything, just that we were trying to look "grown up" we never kissed, or had any sexual relations, we just held hands, and sat at the lunch table together, your daughter isn't rebeling against you and you are right for letting her, this kinda stuff is important to little girls these days, just set your rules young. Like, when is it right for her to start realy dating, and start talking to her at this age about sex, It's important for her to know, If she is ready and wanting to date, you should prepare her and educate her about what it will be like when she's older, And make sure she knows and understands what dating actually is, And make it a priority to meet all of her boyfriends.
I have no expierence as a mother, but thats what my mom did for me, and I am seventeen, and I obey her, she meets all my boyfriends, and I don't date unless Mom and Dad both approve, they know where we go when we do go out on dates, and I have a curfew. I also know what young boys are realy thinking about, and I keep myself out of comprimising situations.
Do what you feel is best for her at this age, And You parents wont always agree with you.
Good luck
and God bless.
2006-08-20 15:26:26 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who is asking this question? A mother or a 12 year old girl?
I do think it is wrong for a 12 year old girl to date anyone at this age. 12 is still a child. Too young!
2006-08-20 14:01:33 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that that age difference is too bad if she is mature and responsible. And I am sure that you trust your daughter. But I still think that 12 is to young to be going on real dates. I mean maybe a group of friends going to the movies, so it isn't only the 2 of them. Or a highschool football game where there are parents and teachers everywhere. If you trust her, that kind of stuff is fine.
2006-08-21 09:22:26 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
A 12 year old is too immature to be dating period. No one should have to support your stand on the issue if they feel you are wrong. However you can tell your mom to keep her opinion to herself. You are asking for trouble if you allow your daughter to date at the young age.
2006-08-20 14:32:01 · answer #11 · answered by Mom 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋