I had been dating a girl, and after about the first month, she was convinced that she wanted to spend the rest of her life with me. I was the one she always wanted. The next few months proved it; we really grew closer and closer. God really had His hand on our relationship. Then one day, it almost seems like she gave up. I was completely blindsided. It was nothing I did. I had a cold and we couldn't see each other for a few days. Man, that's no reason to quit. Maybe I wasn't going fast enough for her plans. But why would anyone make all these promises and then completely blow you off in the end, no explanation, no nothing? That's what hurt the most.
2006-08-20 13:26:52 · 18 answers · asked by fhfan731 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
She had been with another guy, and was engaged for a few years. However she was not in love with him at all. She was very quick to break the engagement with the jerk (that's what he was), and go after me. She may have been "marriage drunk," her reason for committing so quick. God forbid she ever go back to him, in fact for all I know she may have.
2006-08-20 13:43:47 · update #1
She was too young to know what real love is, apparently. Consider it a lesson in life and move on.
2006-08-20 13:31:51 · answer #1 · answered by IthinkFramptonisstillahottie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is something else at work here besides not seeing you while you were sick. A brief absence does not split people apart. There is something that is bothering her, whether it's an action on your part or something about her. You should communicate with her that you don't believe it was the time apart, but something else. But understand it could be hurtful to hear, and be ready for it. If it's something you can talk through and work on, great. If you trust in God, then you know this could be part of his plan for you and that maybe this girl is not the one, but there's something you're to learn from this when the right person comes along. Maybe it's best you found out now that she's quick to end things at the first sign of a problem. Can you imagine marrying someone like that?
2006-08-20 20:34:33 · answer #2 · answered by Chris 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
With only spending a month with someone it is not enough time. You should spend at least a year with someone....through seasons, holidays, ups and downs of life. You were still in the "honeymoon" phase, pal. Take this as a learning experience and go SLOW!!! Don't jump into the sack, learn about each other......be intimate in the mind. Trouble is, all I read about on this site is ****** up relationships because people rush into everything........especially the sex part. You will end up doing what you want, sweetie, but unless you plan on taking a full assessment of your personal boundaries and how you can makes changes that are positive.....you will continue on the same path. It is up to YOU! All you were successful with was making a fool out of yourself!
2006-08-20 20:46:03 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
god had his hand in there and then introduced her to a different guy you can blame this one all on god why is it that people always thank god for the good stuff but he ain't around when the bad stuff happens you never see the losers of a football game saying i would just like to thank god for letting the other guys win so if you think god put you together then he also tore you apart god does have a seance of humor
2006-08-20 20:40:26 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This seems as though you and your girlfriend had a major breakdown in communication. Talk to her and ask her to explain her actions. Let her know you are confused and feel that you deserve an answer. Good or bad - I think you will feel better in the end. If she won't talk to you, be glad you don't have to spend the rest of your life with her!!
2006-08-20 20:38:04 · answer #5 · answered by Melissa B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like she had some other agenda going on whether it was marriage or something else. You might try asking her what she really wanted if it will help you deal with it. But ask yourself how you would respond if she said "marriage" or "living together" or such? Perhaps it just wasn't meant to be. If that is the case, just say to yourself: "Next!" and move on.
2006-08-20 20:36:08 · answer #6 · answered by empressfrancis 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people are totally into 'falling in love'. Unfortunately, once the thrill is gone, so are they.
Only way to to win one of those babes is when they are ready to settle down.
Enjoy the next ride & be a bit wiser.
2006-08-20 20:33:34 · answer #7 · answered by hellsbells 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ouch, I think she just wants to get married and you didn't move fast enought.
You don't need anyone like that, someone who wants do get married just for the sake of marriage, not because she is in love with you and wants to spend the rest of her life with you.
2006-08-20 20:52:00 · answer #8 · answered by mariana m 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She used u big time! In love after a month? No way!
2006-08-20 20:32:48 · answer #9 · answered by gemm77 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe she's just making excuses, maybe she doesnt really love you coz if she does she would understand you in any way, you have to talk about this to save the relationship but if she doesn't really want, then let her go, that's what she really wants
2006-08-20 20:32:07 · answer #10 · answered by dede 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋