how do i take control of my own life?

Question

i can hardly even make a simple decision.. i dont have the will to take control. i have no backbone... what steps can i take please

Answer 1

This answer will sound corny to u, but here it goes...

1) Go to McDonalds and order a hamburger with only cheese. When they mess it up, tell them to fix it as many times as needed, so you'll feel more comfortable telling people THEY'RE WRONG! I have lots of trouble with this.

YOU CAN GO FROM THERE. IT'S THE SAME DEAL W/ ME...

Answer 2

It's very hard to make decisions when someone is always making them for you. Try simple things first, like what shirt to buy or what channel to watch. If your not that bad, try getting a part time job and then you have to make the decisions to get to work, etc. Good luck.

Answer 3

hey i think the first step that you must take is to analyze your self. sefl actualization by abraham maslow's. look deep inside yourself. talk to yourself in front of a mirror. decisions are made by you so think of what you really want. there's no one who could control your life and it's only you who can. i think you're old enough to handle things and situations for your own good. so be alert. think. prioritize. accept. dont fear!

Answer 4

seems that your primary problem is self-steem.
start believing in yourself. read some about it. dont take strong decisions yet. beleive in the inner you,
you let yourself to be the one, dont let anybody else to take the control. they can only suggest, you decide. and anything you do is always ok. mistakes are part of live, live with them. loves

Answer 5

Are you sure you want?
I refrain from making decisions. Statistically, 90 per cent of my decisions appear to be wrong.

Answer 6

Move, get a new job and new friends. And don't make any excuses why you CAN'T! Tell your Mom and Dad that you will write as often as you can and visit them when you can afford to.
This should be a good start.

Answer 7

All of the direction and strength in your life comes from what you love in your heart, so take a minute with me and think about what you really love, with all your heart, okay? It could be your parents and friends. It could be your family pets. They are loyal and give us their love all the time with no questions asked. Take a minute to get really quiet inside your mind and think about who you are inside. Think about what a truly special person you are - one of a kind - with special skills, too. It might be quilting or sewing. It might be love of animals. I watched a girl brush a horse once at a 4-H event at a county fair here in rural Maine, and there was such love in her eyes for her horse as she was brushing him, I knew how important that was to her inside, where it counts. So be thinking of something you really love. Is your room in good order? Do you have things in it where you really want them? You know, you could begin right now, looking closely at your room and begin just putting things where you really would like them to be, instead of where they are. Think of your closest friends - the ones you can tell anything to - the ones who will stand by you when the whole world walks out. It is still early enough to call a friend. You have not only the will to direct your life, but you have the love in your heart to make it happen. But what needs to begin to happen is for you to find out what is really the most important thing in the world to you. It is usually just one thing. Please give this some thought, okay? I often have trouble making simple decisions, too. I see too many options and alternate ways because I am smart, just like you are. So that does not mean I don't decide on things, it just means it takes a little longer to get it right so I am okay with my decision later. You're probably very sensitive and bright, so you see a lot of different ways things can happen, and it slows you down, trying to find the best way to act upon the things in your life. It would help so much if you could surround yourself with people who support you. But it's perfectly okay to be upset if you're sort of "stuck" just now. Everything will change, and it will change for the better, believe me. When I am stuck or upset I tell everybody I know. You'd think it would drive them crazy, but it actually gives them a chance to help out. And sooner or later one of them says something, it makes sense to me, and I get going again. When you're in a slump and feeling down on yourself, it seems to last forever. Trust me on this one: talk to someone, just like I am talking with you right now. Get it outside yourself where you can see it. Don't keep it all inside where it stays stuck. Get it out where you can change it. One of the first steps you should take is to vent. You know, tell someone how upset you are with yourself or your life just now. Nail your feelings by talking them out to someone else. Find someone who really will listen to you. Someone you really trust. As you are talking to that person you will find yourself saying things that don't really sound like you to yourself, and that is when being stuck will start to change for you. Talking gives you a chance to hear what you're telling yourself, and I know you will hear that there is a better way for you. I am sending this message to you with good energies and the hope you will believe in yourself and begin to open up a little and say how upsetting this all is to you. This will give others around you a chance to help you. Take good care now, and here, have a big hug from me! I am Chris, in South Portland, Maine, U.S.A. (I am 63 years old, and I believe in you. Have courage and put your chin up. Cry if it helps, but keep going!)

Answer 8

you have to have confidence in yourself and set goals. start small and work your way up. you can do it. good luck

Answer 9

life has no control. you let it be my friend.

Answer 10

think for yourself..be yourself