Ok well i need some help here guys.... My gf broke up with me 2 months back about early July...well i know that she was seeing some guy for a little bit here and there.....well tonight she calls me and gives me the shocking news....here's the news...well we had sexual intercourse back in July just before the break up and after a month and half she comes back saying she thinks she's pregnant and she thinks it's my kid.... :O :O now i kinda made a note saying we should get it tested to see if everything is okay...and she freaked out thinking i am blaming her for something...well how am i suppose to believe what she tells me? and how am i suppose to make my self confident that really the baby is ours and not to freak her out...any comments?
2006-08-20 13:23:43 · 31 answers · asked by Ahsan P 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
she's your ex, remember? let her freak out, get that DNA test done so you know if the kid is yours
2006-08-20 13:33:03 · answer #1 · answered by Michael 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She did not consider your feelings when she broke up with you so you would be a fool to consider hers with something this big that will have such a major impact on both your lives. You better get a DNA test because the law states if your name is on the birth certificate then for the next 18 years that is your responsibility unless you get a DNA test to prove other wise. So I say instead of waiting around after everyones life has been impacted by this in some way I say get a DNA test as soon as that baby is born, and fuc*k her feelings. I mean really do you want your mom to get attached to a kid that is not yours, and does not have her blood running through it as a grandma I don't think so. Good luck.
2006-08-20 20:45:39 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She sounds young, you sound young not a good equation.
You sound like you're at least attempting to have concern and are interested in some solution or outcome.
If she's acting like a hot headed female, and you're both under age?, then the best to do is get the parents involved.
A. Babies are expensive, and will ruin your life.
B. There are an amplitude of options out there for you to look into.
C. YOU WILL NEED support, from your parents, during this confusing rough time in your life.
D. If she is ACCUSING you of being the father, then you have EVERY RIGHT to demand a biological test. NO IFs, ANDs, or BUTs.
E. DO NOT let her screw up your life on an accusation of fatherhood. Women are scandelous. They will get you for every possible penny. If you don't pay, they'll screw your credit, life and criminal history.
Seek help from your parents.
2006-08-20 20:32:37 · answer #3 · answered by Rebel Regan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who caused the breakup? Do you want to raise and support somebody else's child? Do you know for sure that she had been having intercourse with anybody else at the same time as you, or, shortly after the breakup? What caused the breakup?
DNA testing, and just like a car accident, admit no responsibility till there is proof.
2006-08-20 20:30:20 · answer #4 · answered by chuckufarley2a 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who cares if she freaks out.She broke up with you. Right. Now she pregnant she comes back to you. She thinks she going to make you the baby father. Don't fall for that. Have an DNA test done. Then if you're the baby father then and only then do you step up to the plate and take responsibility.
2006-08-20 20:33:03 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Life lessons are about to begin so pay attention my friend and listen well. Tell her for the baby's best interest and hers as well you need a test to determine who the child's father actually is so the child can know who is truly its father . Sit down and explain your side and why you must know so you can prepare for this child and so that she can know as well. Get the other guy involved if he is willing and do what you can to make sure that child knows who its father really is and so she can too it will only help her in the end. Good luck and best wishes.
2006-08-20 20:32:38 · answer #6 · answered by Shadow 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her you know without a doubt that you can't have children.
If that don't put her to run to the other guys, make sure you medically find out if it's yours before doing or saying anything else.
Believe it, it's a serious responsibility and problem; even if it's not yours you can end up responsible for it base on what you do now.
So find out if it's yours before anything else. If it's yours and you're not ready for the responsibilities try getting her to abort it. Explain to her it's not the best thing for any of you right now.
Other than that you have to hold up to your responsibilities.
2006-08-20 20:41:05 · answer #7 · answered by kasar777 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are absolutely right...she cannot tell you that you are overreacting cause you are right!
you must have done an dna blood test to see if the baby is your or not
being a parent is a permanent situation and you will have to deal with a lot of expenses and child support...so be careful
i only hope you can talk to her and explain that is not like you think she´s a slut...is just that you want to assume your responsability if the baby is yours and be totally commited to it ...and you dont want mistakes
maybe that would help you to make her feel better
good luck
2006-08-20 20:32:32 · answer #8 · answered by miliscal123 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DON'T BE AN IDIOT! GET A PATERNITY TEST. If the child isn't yours and she convinces you not to get that test and you have been acting like the child is yours all along then you are paying child support for that child regardless of if the child is yours or not.(If you get together and should break up again that is!) Get a test. Likely, it could be any ones. If the child is yours that doesn't mean you need to get with her either.Pay child support and make arrangements.Situations like these are always sticky.
2006-08-20 20:35:56 · answer #9 · answered by doesitmatter 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The operative word here is "thinks". You said she "thinks" she's pregnant and she "thinks" you could be the father? If I were you I'd want to be sure.....not "I think".
You need to "think"......Blood Test!!
I'm not suggesting your ex is this way......BUT, I had an ex who claimed I got her pregnant, only to find out that she was just trying to extort money from me as her way of getting back at me for the break up. If your ex freaks on you about getting blood test.....I would be suspicious!
2006-08-20 20:39:07 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her you are very willing to live up to your responsiblites, if a test proves that the child is actually your responsibility. If you buckle just because she is freaking out, you could be paying for someone else's child for the next 18 yrs. Let her freak out - get the test.
2006-08-20 20:33:56 · answer #11 · answered by mach090 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋