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I know this family where theyre all very close. I have travelled with them by myself and stayed at each their houses etc etc. I always feel unwanted or as if im annoying them. Is it possible that it will take years to get them to like me? or should I just ignore emails and calls from them for a while that way when they see me theyll actually be EXCITED to see me. Or is it useless? Im only their cousin so should i just lay off and try not to make the relationship amazing??
They always think I come across as paranoid/quiet/so concious when im there but i dont know i just dont feel comfortable. Do you know what i mean maybe? I NEED ADVICE
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2006-08-20 13:22:58 · 5 answers · asked by amber k 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
2 things i noticed --- #1. you say that they call and e-mail you. um..i don't call and e-mail people i don't like or don't want to know or be close to. #2 you said they think you are paranoid..ummm...yes it's sounds like perhaps you are.
understand some things -- everyone feels lonely, unwanted and ignored sometimes...it is a very real feeling. if you walk into a room feeling edgy, like they aren't going to want you there then they probably won't want you there.
try to be more confident..love yourself. be happy...no one wants to hang around with a sour-puss. be positive...negativity is a huge turn off. ask them how they are..what their doing next weekend...how they liked dinner, etc...and listen to them. they will probably think you're on drugs first (haha) but they will get used to the "new" you and you'll be a pleasure to be around.
good luck :-)
2006-08-20 13:42:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound needy. Try to get some therapy before they put a restraining order on you. You should accept the truth and get a life somewhere. You know what they say about fish and friends after three days don't you? Some people need alone time. I have gotten used to being alone with my own space. I should have started out that way. But get some therapy anyway.
2006-08-20 20:33:26 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd play it cool for awhile and not go to their houses. Then, if they call or E-mail and ask you why you're not coming around, be honest and tell them that you feel unwanted when you're there. Then see what happens.
2006-08-20 20:29:26 · answer #3 · answered by IthinkFramptonisstillahottie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you feel unwanted and think you are annoying them, why do you travel and visit with them?
2006-08-20 21:42:43 · answer #4 · answered by Nana 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Every family has it's own mojo.
Remember, our parents generation hid all their emotional stuff from us...which means we will either hide it from our families, or kill our kids with hugs & kisses.
2006-08-20 20:41:55 · answer #5 · answered by hellsbells 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋