is it normal to not have any friends and only one family member, no job, pregnant, single, a little mental, di

Question

what will happen to me. ive never been so alone scared ,,, so scared and alone and only 6 days away from my due date... will i become crazier, lose my mind and memory? please help im so scared and alone so deserted and i did it to myself by being a ***** but i cant change how i act. i am who iam i cant be anyone different. i can only pretend for so long. PLEASE HELP

diagnosed agoraphobic and presumed possible bipolar paranoid manic schizophrenic. how do i know whats wrong... how can i change.. how can i have people love me when i cant change myself to be what people want me to be.. i try but soon the real me comes out and i lose everyone and end up damaged, hurt, scared, sad and alone, but worse scared.

Answer 1

ANYONE can change!
I asume you went to a phycologist/psychitrist? Is that who diagnosed you? Even though you do not believe it right now you ARE on the right track.
Do you go to church? Some times just talking to someone helps. The preachers are there to help you. They do not judge you. Even if you don't belong to a church you can make an appointment with most any reverand; a lot of them will drop what ever they are doing to help.
I know you have probably heard this befor but you TRULY are not alone. Go to a local hospitol, ask to see the social worker, tell him/her what is happening and ask if there are any groups you can join.
Since you are asking for help here you are certinaly capable of seeking help there. Please, GET HELP NOW. It only gets harder the older you get.
The baby can and will effect your moods.Badly at times. Any added stressers are just iceing on the cake.
Take yourself to lamaze classes. You can meet new people there. Even though you do not have a partner give it a try. You mentioned a relitive? Will the relitive go with you?
Life is hard enough, and sometimes what you think you caused turns out to be something else.I raised 2 childern without a father and they are still alive!You don't have time to worry about that right now. Just take care of yourself and that child.
I wish you good luck and future happiness.

Answer 2

Apologize to everyone that you've hurt, if you want this baby then you'll be happy if you don't give it up for adoption, life is always going to be a little confusing you can always talk to a priest or a school counselor or call the emergency help lines, you won't lose your memory or become crazier, depend on that family member you do have! Don't panic it will only make things worse and get all the money you can out of the father, he helped make this baby, i don't know what else to say cause' i've never been in that position just try to keep cool, everything will eventaully pass by and i personally dont think that you should keep the kid, just because you dont seem ready but its your choice..good luck!!

Answer 3

I was adopted and raised in an abusive family, so as to being alone I truly know what you feel. I've been alone since I became conscious and wasted too many years trying to earn my mothers love. It never happened.
The one thing I did learn and it took me decades is that the only person I can change is myself. If you are lucky and good at it - maybe you can influence others, but you cannot change anyone but yourself.
Be true to yourself. If you like who you are then keep at it. If you don't, do what you have to become the person you want to be. Whatever you do, think about the child you are having and put its best interests before your own. Hormones are raging in you right now too as well as the self doubt. If you need help, seek it out.
I wish you the best and support you. If you need it contact me for I wouldn't wish my life on anyone. It wasn't easy, but I found contentment was my first step toward happiness. Either way I wish you the best and hope you find happiness sooner than did.
And yes I have spent thousands+ on therapy. Alot of it was wasted, but a good therapist is worth five times the cost.

Answer 4

I suggest sitting in the full sun firstly for at least until your skin changes colour. (Thats natures way of telling you that you have had enough vitamin D for the moment). Try wearing yellow, yellow is great for concentration, clear positive thoughts, and for making everything brighter and happier for yourself. You are not crazy but I believe you soon will be, especially if you take medications, which I believe is half your problem. Does it not bother you that what doctors do is PRACTICE? Hmmm it gives me lots to think about. If you wear yellow, you will not lose your mind and memory as a matter of fact both will bvecome clearer. You need to change your mindset to 'I trust in the process of life, I am loved, I am beautiful' say this at least 300 times a day. If you wear some bright orange, this will give you the energy you need at this time. All these thoughts that are going through your head will pass, in time - I can't offer you much more than this. Chin up, don't be scared, I was scared when I had my child and I had a partner (no parents around) he was no help whatsoever.

Answer 5

I actually had a friend who had severe mental problems while pregnant and right after the birth, because the hormone changes triggered her problems to get worse.

But once her hormones leveled out, her mind leveled out too. Have you ever read about post partum depression or post partum psychosis? Your hormones are skyrocketing before birth, then plummet afterwords. These drastic hormone changes can swing you around like a carnival ride. Ask anyone who has PMS how hormones affect their moods and mental stability!
So just hang in there, ask that one relative if they can stay with you the first few days and help you out.

Don't hesitate to describe symptoms to your doctor and ask for medication. I know medication has probably been an issue while pregnant, but after birth you have more options on medications that you can take to help you for your anxiety, depression and other problems.

If you do take medication for your moodswings etc, Your doctor might want you to bottle feed instead of breastfeed depending on your medications, because some medicines get in your breastmilk. You have to talk about that to your doctor. Be sure to ask about that.

Don't be afraid to ask for meds if you are crashing and having major depression or something. The hormone swings, and the stress from exhaustion from the birth, late night feedings,etc, might wear on you for a while, but in a few weeks it'll all smoothe out and you'll be fine.

Answer 6

ok ,i see you realize there is something wrong by you telling us you have been "diagnosed" with certain conditions. Having a child is very time consuming. I urge you to get counseling if you are not already doing that, and medication after the baby is born. You need to be able to feel comfortable in your "own skin" and this baby is going to need you, if you plan to keep it. Feeling alone and scared is normal however. But seriously, check into getting help.

Answer 7

Girl, you have GOT to get some help! Look, I felt crazy, too, when I was pregnant. I lost all my "friends" (they weren't really friends, though, they were drinking buddies), I was alone, had no job, had NO idea what I was going to do. But I got through it, my child is ten years old and happy and healthy. But if you think you are mentally ill you must GET SOME HELP! Try the following link. Also, find a church to go to. They CAN help you! Good luck.

Answer 8

i feel so sorry for you. if you didnt abort, you have a problem. Caring for a baby will be extremely difficult. Even more difficult will be putting the baby up for adaption if you can't cope. And don't call yourself swearwords. It will only worsen your mental state. Next time you flirt, tell your partner to wear a condom, to stop future babies/heartaches. I don't know what to do. I really wish I could help. If you are 6 days away from delivery, then the only way to stop is to put your baby up for adaption. I hope you don't come to that. I really don't. I hope you can care for your baby, find a good job, and a loving husband to care.

Good Luck

Answer 9

First off, you need to change your way of thinking. You CAN change, you just have to want to do it. Bipolar and those disorders you mentioned are easily cureable if you just concentrate on not letting them control you.
Unfortunately many doctors will tell you that you need to take pills and be on medication, when all you really need is to assume some responsibility for your own mental health and take charge of your behavior.
You can choose to take my advice or you can continue in the horrible life you currenly live and never be happy. It's time to take control of your own life.

Answer 10

OK, calm down and take a deep breath. If you are feeling this crazy then you need to call your doctor and talk to him or her about it. It is normal for womern who are about to give birth to have ups and downs but it sounds like you're really down. Do you have someone to help you care for the baby? If not then perhaps there's a group in your area who can help you out. Call a Catholic priest because they have access to a lot of organizations that want to help people just like you.