Is anyone else annoyed by loud/mis-behaving children when in public places ...?

Question

like restaurants, grocery stores, movie theaters, hotels?
I can't believe what kids get away with in American society these days. Frequently they get into an event for free or half price and while I pay full price, I am the one disturbed by their behavior. Anyone else have this experience? What to do? This doesn't seem right or fair. I actually think it is more the parents fault, not the children as parents are responsible for them while in public and at other times. What do you all think and what do you DO when you are being bothered by noise children while dinning or whatever?

Yep, guess I'm a crotchety old man but I was never allowed to act this way without a punishment or a small smack. From what I can gather, many parents are afraid to control their kids as they are literally afraid they will be jailed for abuse. This is ludicrous to have parents afraid of controling kids to the detriment of the rest of us. I make it a point to responsibly complain whenever I am disturbed, to the proprieter of the biz. If we all did that, I think things might change. Nice to know I'm not the only one who's peeved by it.
You parents out there, if you are going to have children, it's only fair to them and the rest of us to control them in public.Thanx for your understanding and consideration in this regard.

Answer 1

You are absolutely right...it is the parent's fault at not being able to judge what their child can do and not do. At the same time (I am single, no kids yet) and I took my friend's child with me to the grocery store. Normally he is WELL BEHAVED and a perfect kid...he went PSYCHO in the store and I was completely embarrassed.

I prefer to think that when I see a child acting out...that I am only seeing the child in rare form. I don't make it a habit to follow a mother and her child from store-to-store to see how well they act in EVERY store and this could very well be an isolated incident that I am seeing. It is hard to control a kid and you get all flustered because you KNOW people are ignorant and judging...but sometimes you cannot help it at all. They aren't robots...there is only so much you can do to keep them "in line." Of course there is always the parent that will haul off and beat the crap out of the kid in the store...which I find WAY more offensive. I just think...if at all possible for a parent's OWN sanity...try to avoid taking a child someplace where you can't amuse them or come up with ways to make a trip to the store/restaurant amusing.

Have a little patience...everyone has different circumstances than you and they could be having the worse day of their life and the last thing they need is you judging their parenting skills. Some people just get disgusted if a kid LOOKS THEIR WAY...come on now...the world doesn't revolve around you...deal with it and let it go.

Answer 2

Being a mother of a 2 year old I understand what you are saying. Sometimes my child just won't behave. If at the movies that is when my husband or I go sit in the lobby while the other watches so we don't' disturb others. Other parents should try this. And there have been the times in the grocery store when my son gets mad because I won't buy the cereal with the funny picture on it. He gets his but spanked and when that doesn't work (and it usually doesn't) he gets ignored....his fit usually only last a few minutes. Sorry that you find children to be so disturbing, maybe you should stay at home more often. And I do think that some parents are afraid to punish their children. My husband spanked our son in the store and a women actually looked at us and say something to the effect of oh my god they just hit that kid. I was hoping she didn't call child protective services. It was just a spanking, nothing really hard just a little tap to make him know he needed to stop. So there are two sides to the annoying children...one the children are either being wild and disturbing everyone...and two the children are being punished and the parents are being told how horrible they are for spanking.

Answer 3

It seems like I attract them! If I'm in a grocery store I try to get away from them. When Dinning out,I ask my server if they can do anything about it. Once I asked for the Manager and told him that if he didn't do something about it I would leave and never come back and tell all my friends. It worked. I got a dirty look from the parents as they left.... While in a shop I noticed this little boy(about 4) hitting his Mother. I got sick of hearing Mommy wine, "Stop that." so I walked up to him and told him if he were mine I would spake him. Then I walked to counter and put down the things I was going to buy(About 5 things) and informed the sales lady that I would have gotten these and a few more. But I would come back later. It was a small shop and I know she heard what was going on.

Answer 4

I agree with you 100%. Alot of times when dining out and kids are being loud, I will give the parents a dirty look. I even avoid the super Walmart because of the wild kids running all over the place and the parents do nothing. It seems like when these ppl go shopping they haul with them not only their own kids but the neighbors, the sisters and everyone else on the block. Then let them run wild through the store. Next time your dinner is being disturbed or you cant shop in peace I would tell the management.

Answer 5

I don't blame the kids or the parents. I blame the bleeding hearts that passed all the so-called child protection laws that says if a parent slaps their child they can and most likely will go to jail, waste money on lawyers, kids removed from their homes, ETC. Before these were passed, we didn't have these problems. IT started in England and even seeing what happened over there didn't stop these Liberals from passing the same laws here.
When I was growing up, we didn't act like that because we had no doubts what dad would do if we did. And I don't mean later at home, I mean right now, right here.
Vaya con DIOS

Answer 6

I find it very offensive when children are mid-behaving anywhere. The parents I guess figure that everyone else is supposed to put up with their kids, like it's a play ground. People that are offended I feel need to start standing up to these people with kids and tell them off. I read in an article not too long ago that many people throughout the States are getting fed-up with noisy brats--some restaurants are starting to put up signs for children to have quiet voices inside, which I think is a super great idea. They should have a seperate area on planes for kids also I think.

Answer 7

As a mother I can tell you something on this. Most of the time the children are tired or want something that they see. Most parents smack their children's hands, mouths, buts, and so on. If we did that in public it would be very bad for us. We would get the CPS called on us. But I am very annoyed with some children. I was in the store behind a women who had a pair of twin girls in her cart that where around 6 years old. They were screaming and crying and throwing things because they wanted bubble gum. Their mother hugged them and kissed them and gave them every thing that they wanted. When my little boy acts up ( he is almost 2 years) I get him out to the car and tell him how bad he was. I find it rude to keep a screaming child in a public place.

Answer 8

I hear you about going somewhere and seeing kids act up like that. It does come from home, mom, dad or who ever is in charge of them. They were not taught at home how to act right. I promise you one thing, when I had my kids, they knew better than to act that way in public, or any where for that part. They were taught earlier on when it was ok to have fun and enjoy their self and when to act right.They knew if we went some where and they acted up, they knew what was ahead of them when they got home, and no I did not beat my kids, but they sure did get their little bottoms warmed up a bit.

And as far as other kids acting up when I go somewhere. Well, if I can I will get as far away from them as I can or just leave. I do not like being around kids that have no respect for other people and the sad thing is, it's not even their fault, it's their parents fault for not making them mind!!!

Answer 9

Children like this irritate me constantly!!!

I was never like that, and when I have children, they will not be like that either. I will not stand for it.

I totally blame the parents for this type of behaviour. If their children cannot behave respectibly in public, they should not be aloud out. Get a baby-sitter. Going to the restaurant or store is a privilege. If your children start acting up, pick up your kids and take them home even if you need to cut your outting short.

I usually just bite my tongue and bear it if we're in a store or something like that. In a restaurant, I would ask to be moved to a table further away. If that didn't help, I would ask to speak to the manager and get them to speak to the parents.

Parents need to start disciplining their children again. You are not meant to be your childs friend. I don't agree with beatings, but there is nothing wrong with a well deserved spanking.

Spankings and beatings are two different things. And the little brats we are seeing in this day and age are the ones that have not been properly disciplined, and who have never received a spanking in their life.

Answer 10

why don't u try having a child and then let me know how easy it is? I have 3 children but mine are well behaved but I have seen
children that seem just plain out of controll but it's not their fault
it's more of the parents because if they would raise them better then they wouldn't act like that in public. I would be embarressed if my children ever acted like some of these kids that I have seen.