they told me they would never talk to me again if i did this because it is sinful to cohabitate before marriage. should i do it anyway?
2006-08-20 12:47:58 · 19 answers · asked by paul 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
SO you have a choice, do what your parents want, do what your girl friend wants or do what these guy want?
are you going to spend the rest of your life doing what other people want?
or are you going to become a man and do what you think is right?
in the end you and only you will pay for the decisions you make, and you can use the excuse, they told me to.
if you are old enough to live with your girlfriend your old enough to marry her, if she will have you.
2006-08-20 12:58:37 · answer #1 · answered by Hannah's Grandpa 7 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Forget about the part where you parents don't agree with it; you should really be thinking about the impact this will have on you. If you move out with this girl and don't marry her, what will you tell the woman that you marry? Some girls would not really be all that excited to find out that their future husband lived with some other woman. Also, people who cohabitate are much less likely to actually get married or to have a healthy marriage if they do get married. The divorce rate among people who cohabitate before marriage is much higher. After you have considered all that, you should think about the fact that your family may not be there for you when you need them the most.
I know that you think this is a good idea and that you think you love this girl. But, I must tell you I am speaking from experience. I basically lived with my boyfriend in college and things did not work out. I thought I was going to marry him and didn't. I am married now, thankfully to a loving and forgiving man, but I still had to tell him about living with my exboyfriend, and he was very hurt. To this day, the relationship with my parents is rocky. God will forgive you because that is what He does. But, do you really want to suffer all of the other consequences of this action?
2006-08-20 13:06:39 · answer #2 · answered by katethefabulous 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're over 18, move out but don't have your GF move in right away (not because of your parents). Live on your own a bit first and don't jump into the whole cohabitation thing yet (especially if you're jumping from living w/ mom and dad to living on your own for the first time). Establish yourself first and the rest will flow. Once you're on your own and developed that whole deal, you'll deal w/ your parents and your GF on a more substantial level; if you decided, let's say after 12 months of living on your own, that you want yer GF in and your parents don't want it, then you sit them down, tell them you love them and respect their beliefs, and that you're now a man and they need to trust you with how they raised you to make your own decisions. Again, important thing in my opinion: don't do the cohab thing right away, move out and wait 12 months.
2006-08-20 12:57:57 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sure, do whatever you want. There aren't enough children out of wedlock living in poverty because of jerks like you who get them pregnant then run off with another girl and then get them pregnant and do the same thing all over again. You will have many who will tell you it is a good thing to do. Wait, we already did have many who told you is was the right thing to do.
2006-08-20 13:06:23 · answer #4 · answered by parepidemos_00 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The biblical answer, no (I'm sure the parents cover this one). The non-biblical answer, is still no. If you are old enough and are ready to move away from Mom & Dad fine. But, do not move in with your girl fiend or let her move in with you. When you first move out on your own, you need to establish yourself. You do not need to force responsibility for other people on yourself.
2006-08-20 13:53:56 · answer #5 · answered by yipeee2k 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only you can decide . But from experience I can say that I wish I had listened to what others in the church were telling me because I have walked a hard path because of my decisions. They only want whats best for you they are not trying to control they know the walk is not easy.
2006-08-20 13:08:59 · answer #6 · answered by Faith&Love 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you have a backbone?
Come on.....this is pathetic.
Tell the folks GOOD RIDDANCE and make a home for you and your girlfriend!
If your parents are willing to disown you and never speak to you again, THEY will answer to God on a much higher level.
WhyNotAskDon up there says "you only have one family".
Well, let's turn the table.
Your parents only have one YOU.
2006-08-20 12:57:09 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, just take the easy solution of getting married. It doesn't take all that long and if you want to have a more elaborate ceremony later on you can always do that too.
2006-08-20 12:55:33 · answer #8 · answered by Martin S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, if you are willing to never talk to your parents again. I mean they cannot dictate to you how to live your life, but you also have to live with the consquences of your actions.
2006-08-20 12:54:48 · answer #9 · answered by Isis-sama 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's your life and you only live once. if they're "good" parents, they will eventually get over it. at the same time, make sure she's worth the trouble you're about to face.
on another note, why do they have to know? my boyfriend and i live together and my parents don't know. lol haven't known for almost 2 yrs.... lol
2006-08-20 12:53:48 · answer #10 · answered by casadienickole 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋