my father abuses me and hurts me really bad. i'm only twelve and i don't know what to do or anything. i don't want to tell anybody because i'm scared of what might happen. please help me and tell me what to do!
2006-08-20 12:45:29 · 16 answers · asked by sarah 1 in Health ➔ Other - Health
You need to tell someone, I know that it will be hard but you have to. You can't live like this other wise when you get older you will proubley be deppresed or a drug addict. Now were is you Mom? Are you Mom and Father diviorced? Can you live with you mom? Does you mom know about this? If your mom cant help then you need to tell someone close to you like a teacher or a friends mom that you trust. If they don't belive you than keep on telling people. Your life could be in danger, DONT let your dad know. Once you tell the person you told should make shure that you dad NEVER hurts you again. You will be fine. You are very strong for takeing the steps to get out.
My very best wishs! I will be praying for you!
2006-08-20 12:56:01 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hope all of this is true. This is too serious to try to make a joke of it.
Why do you think your father does that to you? Does he drink? Does he use drugs? Does he want to take revenge on your mother? Is he unemployed? Is he a mental case? How long has he been doing it?
I presume you live with him and nobody else, so there's no witness to the things he does to you. Right?
I think you have no choice other than telling someone you trust about what is happening. Probably it wouldn't help your talking directly to him.
I don't think you'll be able to go on living with him. Don't you have any other relatives? A mother? Uncles? Aunts? Cousins?
If you go to school, you might talk to your favourite teacher, one that might understand you and give you some advice. Maybe shelter, too.
This is a difficult situation, but it's more common than one may think. In a certain way, many parents mistreat their children, but of course there is a limit they must not overstep.
If you can't talk to a teacher, what about a neighbour? A priest? A doctor? A judge? You need the support of someone else. You can't do it alone. But don't run away before you talk to an adult.
Remember that you will probably be asked to prove your father's mistreatment. Do you have material proofs?
2006-08-20 20:17:33 · answer #2 · answered by JC 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all - this is not your fault. What you need to do is report this to a friend's parent, teacher, or directly to the police. I understand how scary this can be for you, but you can do it. Once this is reported, you'll be taken to a clinic or hospital for a physical and any abuse marks will be photographed and taken care of. Plus, your father will not be able to get in contact with you - nor will he be able to hurt you any more. If you need someone to chat with about this - or chat in general....please feel free to email me. I worked as a youth minister and had to help kids your age with very very similar stuff. Your not alone - and people do care.
2006-08-20 19:55:42 · answer #3 · answered by sean_ahlers 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find an adult at your school that you trust and tell them. Your father will most likely lie and he has probably made all kinds of threats to you. I know that you may still love your father anyway but you need to understand that your father is sick and needs to be taken away from you if he is hurting you.
Do you know who else you can live with?
2006-08-20 19:56:42 · answer #4 · answered by Sister Cat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this is for real call the police immediately. You will be taken care of. You do not have to worry. No one has the right to abuse you . Just pick up the phone and dial 911.
2006-08-20 19:52:29 · answer #5 · answered by messtograves 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you dont tell anyone -it will continue..please find someone you trust..and try telling your dad how much it hurts..please get the courage to stick up for yourself..if noone knows he will continue to do it!..
YOU ARE WORTH MORE THAN ANY ABUSE!! remember this and FIND YOUR VOICE!! no matter how old you are!
God bless
2006-08-20 19:53:26 · answer #6 · answered by staciesweet 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you have to say something or it will get worse and worse. Trust me telling someone will solve the problem it won't be easy but life will get better............. try athoritey's no im not a cop caller or a soccer mom nor a mom but i think its in your best intrest.
2006-08-20 19:54:40 · answer #7 · answered by TDR 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to find someone you trust to tell them. if you can't go to your father for needs, then someone else in your family has to help you with your voice being heard. if thta doesn't help then try the social services in your state, they will help. but remember parents disciplne all the time, if it's more than disciplne then it's wrong!!
2006-08-22 15:08:11 · answer #8 · answered by Alex P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this is true you need to tell an adult that you trust so that they can help you. Do not feel ashamed or bad...you area not! You need help and you need someone to trust. You are to young to have to go through something like this. Please listen to me and take my advice.....go to some adult figure that you can trust
2006-08-20 19:51:48 · answer #9 · answered by mom_of_two 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
call social services or the police or talk 2 a school consuler
2006-08-20 19:52:20 · answer #10 · answered by Moneymike 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋